Choyamba, ndikofunikira kuti tidziwe kuti izi ndizovuta kwambiri. Izi ndizochitika zomwe zimadutsa miyezo ya moyo. Mwachitsanzo, matenda aakulu kapena imfa ya wina pafupi, nkhondo, tsoka ladzidzidzi kapena tsoka lachilengedwe. Zinthu zoterezi zimachitika mwadzidzidzi. Ngati munthu ali wokonzekera mkati mwazinthu izi, ndiye kuti izi sizingakhale zovuta kwa iye. Kumbali inayi, chirichonse chiri chosiyana kwambiri. Munthu wina ngakhale analasso ndi wokondedwa amakhala wopweteka kwambiri kotero kuti zomwe zimamuchitikira zingamupangitse kuchipatala, kapena mofulumira. Ndikofunika kulingalira kukhalapo kwa malingaliro a munthu payekha komanso kukula kwa mphamvu ya mkati. Wina amadzimva kuti ali ndi chidaliro ngakhale mu nkhondo, wina amamwalira chifukwa cha matenda a mtima atachotsedwa.
Kupewa Zosayembekezereka
Zindikirani zomwe zingakhale zoopsa kwa inu, ndiyeno pangani njira yothandizira nawo. Choyamba, yesetsani kupewa zochitika zonse palimodzi. Nchifukwa chiyani mukukumana ndi ziphuphu, ntchito zowopseza moyo, ngati mutha kungodziletsa izi? Kupewa ndiko kukhala ndi mawonekedwe abwino (nthawizonse zothandiza), kuti mudziwe kukhala wodziwa nokha ndi dziko lozungulira panthawi iliyonse, kuti mukhale ndi mwayi wopeza zinthu zobisika za thupi ndi psyche, powatenga nthawi yovuta.
Muyenera kukhazikitsa ndondomeko ya kulingalira pa chilichonse chomwe chingathetseretu. Ndiye mu nthawi yovuta inu mudzatha kuchita zochitika - mwamsanga mukumverera. Kumvetsetsa, kodi mukuwopa zovuta zina, mukudziwa momwe mungakhalire mwa iwo? Ngati mukuwopa, ndiye kuti mutha kumenyana ndi mantha, uyu ndi mdani wamkulu wa mphamvu, mukuzidziŵa, ngati tizilombo toyambitsa matenda.
Momwe mungagonjetse mantha anu
Tengani zovuta, zowongoka, mpweya wanu ndikukumbukira zomwe zikuchitika, zoopsa. Lowani izo, kuyesa kukupangitsa mu malingaliro anu kukuwopsani inu kupulumuka kwakukulu. Pangani izo kuwala, penyani thupi lanu mu mkhalidwe uno, ndiye kuti m'maganizo muzidzidzimutsa mkati, kuchititsa mantha ndi chisokonezo momwe mungathere. Zomwezo ndizosatheka kudziŵika ndi zochitika - ziwoneni ngati kuchokera kunja. Pewani kuyang'ana mkhalidwe wa "I" kuchokera mthupi lanu, mutuluke m'maganizo mwatcheru ndikuwonetsani zovuta zanu kuchokera kumbali. Pang'onopang'ono kuchepetsa kudalira kwanu pa mantha, mtunda wamantha kuchokera kwa inu nokha, ngati mtambo wakuda. Kumbukirani, ngati mungathe, mkhalidwe uliwonse kuchokera ku moyo wakale, momwemo, munthawi zofanana, munadzichita nokha ndipo munapindula. Pulogalamuyi yopanda mantha mu chithunzi cha zomwe zikuchitika. Chitani izi kangapo, mpaka mkhalidwe uleka kukhala wovuta kwa inu.
Izi zatsimikiziridwa: kuonetsetsa kuti zovuta kwambiri sizikuchotsani nokha ndipo sizikutsutsani mphamvu, muyenera kukonzekera zovuta, kuthetsa kuyembekezera kwakukulu kwa zoperewera, ndikugwira ntchito mu malingaliro anu ndondomeko yowonekera bwino komanso yozindikira muzovuta. Ndi bwino kubweretsa zotsatira zogwirizana ndi zochita zanu. Kukonzekera mwachangu pangozi iliyonse yonena za kuphunzitsidwa kwa munthu mu chiwonongeko chofuna. Malingaliro anu ayenera kukhala ndi mapulogalamu angapo ofunika kwambiri a khalidwe loipa: "kuthamanga msanga," "kuukirira kwachangu ndi kuponderezana," "kufufuza mwamsanga njira yothetsera vuto," "kulimbitsa kwathunthu," ndi "kutulutsa zoseketsa."
Ngati kuli koopsa
Ngati vutoli lidakalipo ndikudutsani inu, yesetsani kuchita mwachidule - mwachindunji pazochitika. Ozimitsa moto ali ndi lamulo lotere: Pamene anthu akuzungulira iwe akuyaka, anthu akufa ndipo zonse zikumira mu kufuula - muyenera kupulumutsa woyamba amene akubwera ndi mkono. Kungotuluka pamoto, popanda kuganiza, popanda kulingalira yemwe ayenera kuperekedwa, ndipo amene mungathe pambuyo pake - muchite zomwe zikufunika. Ngati mukufunika kulimbana ndi vuto lalikulu - kumenyana, musakayike, kukana, koma musalowerere. Musayambe kuwonetsa mantha kapena manyazi anu. Pitirizani kuzindikira, kusonkhanitsidwa, kuganizira mozama pa nkhaniyo. Mungathe kubwereza nokha mawu olimbikitsa akuti: "Ndine wofatsa", "Pita patsogolo", "Ndidzapambana", "Zonse zidzakhala zabwino".
Choopsa chachikulu cha prilyuboy - musalephere kuchita chilichonse chofunika kuti mupewe ngoziyi, musagwedezeke. Pitirizani kukana mukamenyana, ngakhale mphamvu zanu sizili zofanana, pitani kuntchito ndikuchita zinthu za tsiku ndi tsiku ngati mutayika okondedwa anu, yesetsani kuchiza ngakhale kuti muli ndi vuto losamvetsetseka. Komabe, kumbukirani - kukana uku kumagwira kokha ngati kugwirizana kwa mkati, choncho mphamvu, imasungidwa.
Njira yamphamvu yodzikweza mphamvu muzochitika zazikulu idagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi samurai ya Japan. Mwambi wawo unali: "Mu nkhondo, chitani ngati kuti mwafa kale, koma mutamenyana ndi mphamvu ya amoyo." Njirayi imapereka mwayi wapadera wothandizira osagwira ntchito komanso yogwira ntchito. Munthu amene amvetsetsa mfundo imeneyi amakhala ngati wankhondo wamphamvu kwambiri. Ikani izo muvuto lirilonse - inu mumamva mwamsanga mphamvu yobisika.
Njira yothetseratu kukhumudwa kwa maganizo
Kodi vuto lililonse la maganizo pambuyo pa kupanikizika kumaphatikizapo chiyani? Kuchokera m'magulu a minofu kapena minofu yomwe imakumbukira ululu umene umachitika chifukwa cha kupsinjika kwa maganizo kapena zoopsa zenizeni. Vuto lalikulu la maganizo limadetsa ngakhale kupuma. Iyenso imanyamula yokha zithunzi za zomwe zativutitsa ife. Ndipo, potsiriza, zochitika zomwe zimapweteka kwambiri muzozindikira zathu. Kuti muchotse vutoli, muyenera kuchita zotsatirazi:
- Kufooketsa kwambiri minofu yonse;
- yikani kupuma, kuonetsetsa kuti kukumbukira sikungapangitse kupuma kwakukulu;
- kuchotsa mawonetsero otsutsa a vutoli, zomwe zinayambitsa vuto, kuchotsa zochitika zowawa;
- m'malo mwakumva kupweteka maganizo.
Ngati inu, mwachitsanzo, munasokonezeka kwambiri ndi kusakhulupirika kapena kukondedwa kwa wokondedwa, ndiye choyamba mutaphunzira kuganizira zapitazo popanda kupanikizika kwa minofu ndi kusowa mpweya. Yesetsani kudziwonetsera nokha kuti ululu uwu wakuumitsani.Yesani kuona chithunzi cha mkhalidwe uno osati ngati malo amdima, koma mukumveka bwino, ndipo potsirizira pake, khalani nokha maganizo ena pazochitika - ngati muli osasangalala, ndiye osalowerera ndale. Ngati mukuchita chimodzi mwa njira zomwe mwasankha, ndiye kuti mudzatha kudutsa muzochitika zonse zovuta kwambiri ndi kutayika kochepa kwa mphamvu zamkati.