Koma mumakumbukira bwanji kuti mwakhama mwakhama kuti mukwaniritse msonkhano womwe mukufuna, kapena nambala ya foni. Ndipo ngakhale zitagwira ntchito, ndiye kuti kuyembekezera kwakukulu ndi kusangalatsa kwambiri.
Koma choyamba choyamba sichinapindule, chomwe nthawi zambiri chimapangitsa achinyamata kudzibisa okha. Psycholoji yamakono yakhala ikupita patsogolo pakuphunzira kukula kwa maubwenzi, kuphatikizapo oyamba. Pali njira zambiri, njira ndichinsinsi zomwe achinyamata ayenera kukhala kosavuta kutenga sitepe yoyamba, kuti akope chidwi chawo, komanso kuti aziyankhulana ndi anyamata anzawo.
Kawirikawiri zinthu zovuta kwambiri zomwe achinyamata amakumana nazo, chifukwa, monga mwambo, ayenera kufunafuna chidwi cha mayi wa mtima wake, osati chiwongoladzanja. Koma izi zingatheke bwanji? Momwe mungasonyezere mtsikanayo kuti mukufuna kukhala chibwenzi chake, koma osakhululukanso?
Pali malangizo ena a donjuan oyamba, tiyeni tiwone.
Nambala ya nambala 1.
Kuti muwonetse mtsikanayo kuti mukufuna kuti mukhale naye, muyenera kumangoyang'ana nokha. Kawirikawiri anyamata amaganiza kuti kuti azisangalala ndifunika kukhala okongola, okonda komanso nthawi zina ngakhale okongola. Koma pa chifukwa china, aliyense amaiwala za chikondi cha akazi kwa "anthu oipa". Aloleni iwo ndipo asakhale dona wa mtima kwa moyo, koma chodziwitso cha kulankhulana ndi mwamuna wotero mu moyo akufuna kuti atenge aliyense. Kawirikawiri amuna amtundu uwu amatenga khalidwe lawo lopanda chilema, mtundu wina wa chipongwe, kusowa ulemu, kufotokoza mwachindunji kwa zilakolako. Kumbukirani kuti mzimayi ali ndi msinkhu uliwonse ndi msaki wa chilengedwe, ndipo safunikanso munthu wodwala, yemwe akukwawa ndipo ali wokonzeka kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Pakapita nthawi, padzakhalanso kukonzanso kwa moyo, koma pachiyambi mkazi, komanso mwamuna, ayenera kugonjetsedwa. Inde, ndipo adzakondwera kudzizindikiritsa yekha kuti ndi wopambana, chifukwa amavulaza ambiri mafani, mumasankha.
Kotero, ngati kulera ndi kuchita zinthu kumaloledwa ndi kubadwanso kwina - chitanipo kanthu. Posachedwa mudzawona chidwi cha kusaka pamaso pa osankhidwa anu.
Council nambala 2.
Kumbukirani kuti khalidwe la mtsikanayo si lolunjika, ndipo yankho liri "inde, ayi, mwinamwake" - osati lamulo lokha. Choncho phunzirani kuwerenga pakati pa mizere ndikuchita. Kawirikawiri mu maubwenzi chikhalidwe choterechi amai amayesetsa kuchita nawo chidwi ndipo potero amupatsa munthuyo ufulu wosankha ndi ufulu. Khalani olimbikira, koma musadandaule, atsikana amakonda ngati akufunsidwa. Ngati mutapeza mphamvu yakufikira ndi kumuitanira pa tsiku, pitani njirayi mpaka kumapeto, osayima pambuyo pake "ayi, mwina sindikutha." M'mawu awa, kugogomezera ndi "mwinamwake" kuposa "ayi." Musazengereze kupeza chifukwa chake, ndipo perekani zifukwa zingapo kuti mutenge kuyenda ndi inu. Zifukwa zikhoza kukhala zotsalira kwambiri: Mukudziwa mfundo ndi ayisikilimu kapena sushi, zokometsera filimu yatsopano, kukhumba kulankhula za chinthu chofunika, kapena kuti kampaniyo ndi awiri awiri, ndipo mukufuna kuti madzulo ano ndi inu. Mukhoza kupempha thandizo popanda kukhumudwa, kumvetsera, mwachitsanzo, kumvetsera kwake zovala, nyimbo, mafilimu, malingaliro pakusankha mphatso, kusonyeza mtsikana zomwe mukufunikira mwa iye. Azimayi amakonda kwambiri kuthandiza anthu. Ndipo palibe chomwe chidzakulepheretseni, mutagula bwino, "yambani" chinthu chatsopano cha kapu mukamakonda.
Nambala ya 3.
Nthawi zina simungapeze msungwana nthawi yomweyo. Kawirikawiri, musanapite ku msonkhano woyembekezera kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo inu ndi mayi wa mtima mukusintha zibwenzi, ndipo ngakhale pali maukwati. Koma panthawi imeneyi, pamene mtsikanayo alibe chifukwa chake, yesetsani kudzipangira nokha, momwe mgwirizanowu ulili ngati mpikisano wothamanga. Ndipo chiwerengero cha atsikana pansi pa "tick", chimaposa lingaliro lililonse lachizolowezi. Amuna amenewa nthawi zambiri amavutika ndi kukopa amayi. Chochititsa mantha ndi chakuti, kupita kumsonkhano, msungwanayo amamvetsetsa bwino zomwe zingathe, ndipo mawa palibe amene angamutche. Koma zofanana zimapita, ndipo zimakonzekera mwakhama. Ndipo zimakopa mpata wotere kuti uyesere momwemo, lolani mawa kudzakhala kunyoza ndi kukwiyitsa. Komanso, amuna oterewa sakhala ndi chidaliro, ndipo zofuna zanu zakuthupi sizidzasinthika kukhala zolinga zenizeni, koma monga njira yogonjetsera.
Mfundo # 4.
Ngati chinthu chovuta kwambiri chiri kumbuyo, sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kupumula. Mwayamba kale kukhala ndi msonkhano woposa umodzi, koma sumatha monga momwe mungafunire. Kawiri kawirikawiri maanja amayamba kukomana atatha kupereka, mawu onse amalowetsa kupsompsona koyamba. Choncho, njira yabwino yosonyezera mtsikanayo kuti mukufuna kukhala chibwenzi chake ndi chizindikiro chabwino. Kawirikawiri ndikwanira kuyembekezera kamphindi kena, pamene mudzakhalabe tete-a-tete. Chizindikiro chachikulu chimene msungwanayo sachiganizira ndi khalidwe lake. Kaŵirikaŵiri m'mikhalidwe yotereyi safulumira kuthamangira pakhomo, amayamba kuyamikira madzulo, pomwe, akuwombera maso awo, amayamba kuyankhula chinachake monga "Chabwino, ndapita .." kapena "Ndikuyembekezera amayi anga," " adzaitana ndi zina zotero. Ngati muwona izi -zochita. Mphindi yoteroyo siingathe kuonongeka, ndipo zonse zidzasankhidwa palokha, popanda mawu opanda pake.
Mfundo # 5.
Pambuyo pazinthu zonse zatsimikiziridwa kale, ndipo mutha kudzitamanda nokha, musasinthe njira yanu, musachoke pa udindo wa chiyanjano, ngakhale kuti zonse sizili momwe munaganizira. Musati muime kuyesera kuti mupeze mtsikana. Lingaliro lolakwika kwambiri la amuna ndilo kuti ngati atavomereza kuyanjana, ndiye kuti sikupita kulikonse. Kusintha kwa khalidwe labwino, kungayambitse kudzimva, osamvetsetsa. Ndipo motero, kupitiliza kugonana ndi kulankhula sikungakhale. Choncho, ngati msungwana ali wokondedwa kwambiri kwa inu, muziyamikira nthawi yomwe muli pamodzi, kusamalira malingaliro anu, ndi kupeza chisangalalo kuchokera pachibwenzicho.