Mawu akuti kukonda ali ndi matanthauzo awiri. Choyamba, kukondana kumatanthawuza kuti ndi "khalidwe lochita masewera olimbikitsa kugonana." Pachifukwa chachiwiri ndi "kukhala mwachikondi popanda zolinga zenizeni kusonyeza mwachidwi kapena kukonda chabe."
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi
Kugonana kungakhale ubale woopsa pakati pa abwenzi kapena anthu ocheza nawo. Mukhoza kukondana ndi munthu wina mpaka mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akuwona. Makhalidwe oterewa akutanthauza kuti mukubisa chinachake kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo.
Anthu ena amakopeka ndi munthu wina nthawi ndi nthawi. Zitha kukhala zokopa nthawi zina komanso zolinga siziika pangozi ndipo sizidutsa malire a chilolezo. Kuwombera popanda zolinga zirizonse, kungochititsa munthu kumwetulira.
Maso ndi chimodzi mwa zipangizo zofunika kwambiri zowonongeka. Maso athu amawonedwa kuti ndi njira yopezera chidziwitso ndi zofalitsa zamphamvu za zizindikiro zofunikira za chikhalidwe.
Pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana yowonana. Anthu ambiri amakopeka mosasamala komanso mwachikondi. Kuwongolera ndi cholinga chokulitsa ubale ndikupitabe patsogolo komanso kukulirakulira kusiyana ndi kukopa ndi abwenzi. Ngati wina akukufunirani, amagwiritsa ntchito masewera olimbitsa thupi "kuti ayang'ane pansi." Kuchitapo kanthu kotereku kumadalira yankho lanu. Mukhoza kukhudza dzanja lanu mwachikondi, kenako muzim'kumbatira mwakachetechete. Kugonana kwa chilankhulo ndi thupi limakhala lolunjika kwambiri. Kuwonda kumayang'ana maganizo abwino kuti apitirize kukopa, chifukwa mayankho anu amakupangitsani kukhala okondwa.
Kugonana ndizovomerezeka kwambiri pamaphwando, maholide.
Ngakhale simukufuna mnzanu wa nthawi yayitali, mumakonda kusewera ndi wina amene akukufunirani.
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi malo enieni omwe mumakhala nawo. Kugonana kumatsikira kukhala wokondwa pang'ono ndi wosasamala kusiyana ndi ena. Onetsetsani kuti simudziona kuti ndinu wofunika kwambiri.
Coquetry
Mfungulo wapamwamba wa kugulidwa ndi matsenga chithumwa ndi kumwetulira, kumwetulira, kumwetulira!
Ganizirani za masewera olimbitsa thupi pamene mukufuna kukondana. Kukopa zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa, ngati kusewera ndi anthu ena.
Kulankhulana ndi abambo, amai onse amawanyengerera pang'onopang'ono.
Mawonetseredwewa akufotokozedwa makamaka kwa amuna omwe timawakonda ndi kuwakopa. Amuna amakonda kokonati.
Coquetry ndi khalidwe la atsikana osakwatiwa. Akazi okwatirana, olowa m'banja, samakonda kusonyeza khalidwe lakanyumba.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalingalira kuti ichi ndi kulakwitsa kwakukulu. M'moyo wa banja, payenera kukhala ndi chidwi, kuunika mu ubale, ndi zokometsera za mkazi zidzangowonjezerana chikondi ndi chiyanjano wina ndi mzake. Pambuyo pake, chokoleti ndi masewera a wowonera, amene ayenera kusewera mwaluso.
Msungwana wodula, monga lamulo, akuzunguliridwa ndi anyamata osiyana kumamenyera iye. Amagwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana zoyankhulana ndi kutsanzira anthu. Msungwanayo amapeza chinthu chokongola mwa iye, kuti mnzakeyo azikondana naye. Cholinga ndi kukopa ndi kukondana muukwati. Coquetting, mtsikanayo amachita zinthu mwachidwi ndipo amatha kuwonetsa pang'ono.
Musati muwerenge mu chikhalidwe chokongoletsera, mwinamwake chiwoneka ngati chopanda pake. Dziwani kuti simuyenera kunena za inu nokha. Khalani okondwa, funsani mafunso popanda kusokoneza interlocutor.
Akazi amaloledwa kukondana kunyumba, paphwando, kumalo osangalatsa. Sangalalani, ziribe kanthu. Ngati muli munthu wodekha ndi wokondwa, mudzachita bwino.
Choncho tiyeni tiyankhe funsoli, kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa kugonana ndi kukwapula?
Kusiyanitsa pakati pa kugonana ndi zokometsera ndikwakuti kupota ndi chilakolako chofuna kudzidalira nokha, monga khalidwe lanu kapena maonekedwe anu, ndi kukonda masewera achikondi. Pali lingaliro loti pakati pa kugonana ndi zokometsera pali kusiyana kwakukulu mu kukopeka ndi chizoloŵezi chogonana, ndipo kusungunuka ndi gawo loyamba la chiyambi cha kugonana.
Coquetry ikhoza kukhala khalidwe lotayirira, ndipo nthawizina khalidwe lopusa.
Pakati pa kugonana ndi kukondana, pali kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi omwe amatha kukopa, ndipo hafu yaumunthu yaumunthu imakonda kukondana.