Kotero, ndi njira iti yabwino kwambiri yochitira izo ndipo ndi liti pamene mungamupsompsone mnyamata nthawi yoyamba? Chabwino, choyamba, muyenera kuyang'anitsitsa khalidwe lake ndi zochita zake. Ngati mumakonda mnyamata, adzakupsompsonani . Mwinamwake. Mwina ndizodabwitsa, koma ngakhale tsopano pali achinyamata amene angakhale amanyazi ndipo musafulumire kutenga sitepe yoyamba. Ndi munthu uyu, nthawi zina mumayenera kuti mutenge nokha. Koma mofulumira, ndithudi, sizothandiza. Choyamba, tiyeni tifotokoze: iye anapita nanu patsiku kapena mumangozindikira kuti sakusamala? Ngati adakuitanani, musafulumize zinthu. Mwinamwake iye amafunikira misonkhano ingapo kuti amvetse momwe amachitira iwe. Pali anthu otchuka omwe samapitapo kanthu mpaka atasankha kuti akhale ndi chibwenzi chachikulu ndi mtsikanayo. Choncho musafulumize. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti kusamvetsetsana kotereku kumakukwiyitsani kwambiri, ndiye ganizirani ngati kuli kofunika kuyambitsa chiyanjano chotero. Muyenera kumvetsa kuti, mwinamwake, mnyamata angaganizire izi mofanana ndi zomwe akuchitirani. Ndipo ngati mumvetsetsa kuti zonsezi sizikugwirizana ndi mfundo zanu ndi zizoloŵezi zanu, ndiye kuti ndiyetu muyenera kufotokozera mnyamatayo kuti palibe chomwe chidzachitike, kuti musamupatse iye chiyembekezo ndi zopanda pake. Ngati mukufunabe kukhala naye, yesetsani kumvetsera mwachikondi za khalidwe lanu, kukondana naye. Komabe, amuna, monga mukudziwa, sali chitsulo ndipo ngati mungathe kudziwonetsa nokha, mnyamatayo sadzatha kumpsyopsyona.
Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti, musamachite zonyansa ndipo musaweramitse ndodo. Kawirikawiri, pa tsiku loyamba, simungathe ndipo simukupsompsona. Zonse zimadalira momwe mumakhudzidwira, momwe mumakhalira. Mfundo za moyo komanso makhalidwe abwino zimathandizanso kwambiri. Kwa anthu onse, iwo ndi osiyana, ndi chifukwa chake aliyense amachitika m'njira zosiyanasiyana.
Ngati mnyamatayo akuwonetsani chidwi chanu, koma mwachiwonekere amakayikira kubwera ndi kuitanira pa tsiku, ndiye mukhoza kuyesa kudziwonetsera nokha. Mwinamwake iye samangokhulupirira zomwe mtsikana ngati iwe angakonde. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kumutsimikizira kuti izi siziri choncho. Inde, ziri kwa iwe kusankha kuti uyenera kumpsompsona iye pomwepo, kapena iwe ukhoza kufika ndi mawu. Makhalidwe anu ayenera kudalira kwathunthu ndikugwirizana ndi momwe mulili. Kumbukirani: palibe njira imodzi yolondola yothetsera aliyense. Chifukwa chake, ndi bwino kuchita zomwe zikuchitika. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti kupsompsona kwanu sikuwoneka ngati chiwonetsero chakunyansidwa kapena kunyodola. Pambuyo pake, nthawi zina amatha kupsompsona, powona kuti akumuyang'ana, mtsikanayo amangowonongeka kapena amanena kuti zonsezo ndi nthabwala. Khalidwe limeneli limabweretsa ululu ndi kusamvetsetsana, choncho sizingavomereze. Musanayambe kumpsompsona mnyamata, ganizirani mosamala ngati mukufunadi kukhala ndi iye osasintha chisankho chanu. Inde, kupsompsona ndi kosalakwa, koma ndi kwa iye kuti zonse zimayamba. Choncho, ngati kukupsompsona kwanu sikungompsompsona, koma chiyambi cha chibwenzi, musachiyese bwino, choyamba chitani, ndikudandaula zochita zanu.
Funso lina limene lingakondweretse mtsikanayo: kodi ndi bwino kumpsompsona mnyamata, ngati simukudziwa kuti akumva bwanji? Apa chirichonse, ndithudi, ndi chovuta kwambiri. Chowonadi ndi chakuti achinyamata samvetsa nthawi zonse ndikuvomereza malingaliro athu. Ndicho chifukwa chake zikhoza kuchitika kuti mnyamata amangoseka kapena kunyalanyaza anthu. Choncho, musanayambe kutero, muyenera kufufuza mozama zachinyamatayo ndikuganiza momwe angayankhire ngati sakukukondani. Ndipo zomwe zidzatero zidzakhala ziribe kanthu. Mwachidule ngati mnyamata amakuchitirani chifundo, iye amayesa kukufotokozerani kuti ubale wanu ukhoza kukhala wokoma mtima ndipo izi zimaponyedwa bwino ndikudzipangitsa kuti palibe chomwe chinachitika. Zoonadi, izi ndi zopweteka komanso zosasangalatsa, koma panopa, palibe amene angakukhumudwitseni osati kukuchititsani manyazi. Chomvetsa chisoni n'chakuti, mnyamata akalipira mwana wamkazi kapena kumunyoza poyera. Zikatero, simudzachita manyazi pamaso pake komanso pamaso panu. Kuonjezera apo, padzakhala kumverera kochititsa manyazi, zomwe ziri zovuta kwambiri kugonjetsa. Choncho ganizirani ngati mwakonzeka kupereka nsembe, ngati mukulephera. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti pa nthawi ya chikondi, timakonda kukonda achinyamata komanso kuona zabwino mwa iwo.
Ndipotu, chithunzithunzi chenicheni, nthawi zambiri, sichiwoneka bwino. Chinthu chathu chousa moyo sichingakhale chokoma ndi chokoma monga zikuwonekera kuchokera kunja. Ndicho chifukwa chake, musanayambe ndondomeko yoyenera, muyenera kuyesa, ziribe kanthu momwe zingakhalire zovuta, kutaya mtima komanso kuganiza mofatsa. Kodi ndiyenera kudziyankha ndekha mafunso awa: Kodi ndili nawo mwayi weniweni? Kodi amandimvera chisoni? Kodi uyu ndi munthu wanga? Nthawi zina, tikakonda chipatso choletsedwa, timangoganiza za zomwe zimapindula ndikuletsedwa, ndikuiwala zenizeni za moyo. Ndichifukwa chake, musanasankhe kuchita nokha, mukufuna ubale weniweni ndi iye, ngati mnyamatayo akuvomereza malingaliro anu.
Kupsompsonana ndi kosavuta komanso kovuta kwambiri. Nthawi zina, sizikutanthauza chilichonse, ndipo nthawi zina zimathetsa pafupifupi chilichonse. Ndicho chifukwa chake, ngati mukumva kuti kukupsyopsyona kudzakhala sitepe yovuta, ganizirani mosamala musanapange chisankho. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri - mvetserani nokha. Palibe amene angakhale ndi uphungu wabwino monga malingaliro anu, chidwi, ndipo, ndithudi, mtima - amangokuuzani pamene mungamupsompsone munthuyo nthawi yoyamba ..