Ndipotu ambiri mwa atsikanawa amamva kuti zilakolako zawo sizolondola, kuti zimakhala zolakwika komanso zowoneka bwino. Pokhala ndi vuto lotereli lokhudzana ndi mfundo yakuti palibe mkazi, kofunikira kuti agonane, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kugawana ngakhale ndi bwenzi lapamtima. Ndipo ndi munthu wokondedwa wanu ndi zina zotero. Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti theka lachikazi la anthu ndilovuta kwambiri kukwaniritsa zofuna zosiyana ndi za amuna. Pofuna kukwanilitsa cholinga, chinthu choyamba kwa atsikana ndicho kusiya kudzimba okha ndi kuyang'ana anthu onse ochita zoipa. Muyenera kuyesa kupeza njira yotulukira mwa kugwiritsa ntchito wokondedwa wanu, amene zingakhale zosavuta komanso mofulumira kuti muthe kukonza.
Tikuyang'ana zifukwa. Chisangalalo cha kugonana ndi msungwana aliyense chimafikira mwachindunji, njira ya konkire. Atsikana ena amakonda kuseka, ena, mosiyana - kulira, wina wa iwo amakonda kufuula ndi kukwatira mnzawo, ndipo ena amakonda kufungatira. Koma musataye mtima ndi kukwiyitsidwa ndi atsikana omwe sakudziwa chochita ndi kugonana kuti awonetseke kuti alibe chidziwitso koma amavomerezedwa bwino. Adakali patsogolo. Pambuyo pa zonse, kuti mupeze chisangalalo chokwanira kuchokera ku ubwenzi wapamtima ndi wokondedwa wanu, muyenera kumvetsa nokha poyamba. Ndikofunika kuyesa kudziwa chomwe chimayambitsa chenichenicho ndi kuyesa kuthetsa izo mwa njira yoyenera.
Akazi amantha . Zowopsya kwambiri ndi zazikulu za amayi ambiri omwe amagwirizanitsidwa ndi kugonana, mgwirizano wapamtima ndizokayikira komanso zosakayika. Msungwana pa nthawiyi akuwopa kuti sadzakhala ndi zoyembekeza, zolinga, zokonda za kugonana kwa wokondedwa wake. Iye akuwopa kuti chifukwa cha zifukwa izi, iye amangokana kukambiranso nawo limodzi mtsogolo. Kuopa kotereku kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi mitundu yonse ya zovuta za theka labwino la anthu. Zingapangidwe chifukwa cha zofooka, zolephereka mu moyo wapamtima wa msungwana, kapena kupangidwa panthawi ya moyo wapakati.
Ndiponso, malingaliro osavuta a mtsikana yemwe sangamusiye mutu wake ngakhale pabedi ndi munthu akhoza kukhala zopinga zazikulu pokwaniritsa zowona. Maganizo otero sangathe kulowera ku njira yolondola, kupita kumalo okondweretsa okha. Maganizo angagwirizane ndi chirichonse chokha, makamaka, ngakhale ndi zolinga zotetezera. Ndipotu, atsikana ambiri amachita manyazi kulankhula za njira zotetezera, zomwe ziri zofunika komanso zofunika pakalipano.
Zinthu zosayenera kapena nthawi yabwino zokhudzana ndi kugonana zingachitenso mantha ena. Ndipotu, atsikana amaonedwa kuti ndiwo malo abwino kwambiri ndipo nthawi yoyenera idzakhala yokhayokha yomwe idakonzedweratu. Koma ambiri akukumana ndi vuto la zomwe angachite ngati palibe zochitika pazochitikazo ngati zikuwoneka kuti zikhalidwe zonse zopezera chilakolako chogonana kwambiri zakonzedwa kale. Ngakhale ambiri a iwo akuphonya nthawi yomwe ili yowopsya, zosadziwika, zosayembekezereka, pali mwayi wapadera wokwaniritsa phindu lofunidwa. Koma chifukwa chosakhutira ndi kusalandira malonda kungakhale munthu wosadziŵa zambiri, komanso wokonda wodzikonda kapena kusowa kumvetsetsa ndi kudalira ubale ndi munthu wina.
Tikuyang'ana njira zothetsera mavuto . Chinthu choyamba kwa mtsikana yemwe alibe chilakolako chogonana ndiye kuti adziŵe zamumtima. Chigololo chachikazi, kapena kani kupezeka kwake - ndi vuto lalikulu. Ndikofunikira kuyesa molondola komanso mwakuya kuti muphunzire thupi lanu, kupeza zofooka zanu zonse ndi madera osadziwika. Ndipotu, kuti mtsikana ayeneradi kufuna mwamuna, ndikofunikira kuti mtsikanayo ayenera kudzifunira yekha. Ndipo chifukwa cha ichi muyenera kupeza malo amenewo a thupi lanu, omwe muyenera kumudziwitsa bamboyo kumayambiriro kwa zochita zogonana. Kuti msungwanayo adzalandire chofunika kwambiri. Koma ndi zonsezi nkofunika kuthetsa maganizo onse osafunikira ndi osokoneza, ndi bwino kudziganizira nokha ngati wokondedwa wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu, wofunidwa.
Kwa oyamba kumene ponena za kugonana, mungalangize kuti muphunzire njira zamakono za Kegel, mothandizidwa ndi minofu yoyenera ya adorer. Zochita zoterezi zingapangitse mkazi kukhala wodzidalira kwambiri, popeza atagwiritsa ntchito pabedi ndi wokondedwa mungathe kukwaniritsa zotsatira zake. Ndipo kuchokera kumayesero wotero kudzakhala kovuta kwambiri komanso kovuta kuchoka.
Kuyankhula momasuka . Ngati pangakhale palibe zolaula panthawi yogonana, vutoli liyenera kugonjetsedwa ndi onse awiri. Kupyolera mu khama lokhazikika mukhoza kukwaniritsa zolondola, zotsatira zake, zomwe sizitsutsana ndi okondedwa anu. Kapenanso, nkofunika kuyesa mwakachetechete, mopepuka komanso popanda chilakolako chofotokozera wokondedwa wanu za vuto lalikulu monga kusowa kwa ziwalo. Komanso, ngati anthu awiri atalika nthawi yaitali, ali ndi ubale wamphamvu komanso wolemekezeka. Musalole kuti zokwanira zogonana zisakhutsidwe. Ngati mnzanuyo akufunadi kukhala ndi chibwenzi cholimba, chokhalitsa, chokhazikika ndi mtsikanayo, adzatha kumvetsa zomwe zafotokozedwa, komanso kuzilemekeza ndi kukhulupilira.
Nthawi yoyenera kwambiri. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti nthawi ndi malo oyankhulana momasuka sayenera kusankhidwa mukakhala kale pabedi ndi wokondedwa wanu. Makamaka kuti muwonetsere mu mawu a chitonzo ndi osakhutitsidwa, izo zingakhoze kuwononga kosatha chikondi chanu cha ubale. Zidzakhala zabwino kokha pamene wokondedwa atakhala mzanga, koma osati mdani.
Mungathe kupeza njira yopitilira mwa kupempha kuti "mwambo" womwewo mwamsanga ukhoza kukondana kwambiri ndi kukondweretsa. Kapena ingomutsutsani za malo anu osangalatsa kwambiri. Mukhozanso kupempha mnzanuyo kuti asinthe tempo, yomwe ili yofunikira pa nkhaniyi.
Kuti mulandire chisangalalo chochuluka monga momwe zingathere pa chiyanjano chilichonse cha kugonana, choyamba, mkazi ayenera kungodzikonda yekha yemwe ali ndi chomwe iye ali. Ndi chikondi chenichenicho chomwe chingakhale yankho losavuta pa ntchito yopezera chisokonezo.