Ngati mutayang'ana kale, kwa zaka 40 mpaka 50, mukhoza kuona kuti pafupifupi onse okwatirana anali pamodzi kuti akhale ndi moyo. Pafupifupi panalibe kusudzulana, ndipo pafupifupi ubale uliwonse ukhoza kunenedwa kuti ndi abwino. Masiku ano zinthu zasintha kwambiri. Chiwerengero cha kusudzulana chawonjezeka, pafupifupi gawo lililonse lachiwiri kapena lachitatu losiyana. Ndipo zonse zimachitika chifukwa cha kusamvetsetsana kwa wina ndi mzake, osati kumvetsetsa, kumvetsetsa gawo lanu lachiwiri.
Atsikana ambiri amafuna kunyada ndi kudzikonda. Amakonda kusonyeza khalidwe lawo, ndipo safuna kupereka chinachake kwa amuna. Monga lamulo, atsikana awa amakhala okha kwa nthawi yaitali, ndipo amadzifunsa ngati ubale wabwino ndi wotheka tsopano. Iwo sangathe kuzindikira kuti mu ubale weniweni tsopano iwo samangowonjezera kupyolera mu zolakwa zawo.
Ngakhale masiku ano mukhoza kuona mabanja ambiri omwe amakhala pamodzi nthawi yaitali komanso osangalala. Zonse ndi zokongola komanso zangwiro. Anthu ambiri amayamba kuchitira nsanje ubale wotere wa abwenzi awo. Koma maganizo oyambirira ndi onyenga. Ubwenzi wa nthawi yaitali ndi wabwino. Ife tikuwona kokha chigoba cha maubwenzi awa. Pano awiriwa akuyenda paki, akusangalala, nkhope zawo zimangokhalira kumwetulira, apa akupita kukagula limodzi, pamodzi amapita ku cafe. Koma sitikudziwa zomwe zili mkati, sitingawone mkati mwa chipolopolo chokongola ichi. Chigoba cha mkati ndi ubale weniweni wa mwamuna ndi mkazi pamene ali okha. Ndipo nthawi zonse iwo amakhala osasangalatsa, ndi okongola, monga momwe anthu ambiri amaganizira. Palinso mikangano, kusamvetsetsana, kunyozedwa, kusakhutira ndi zochita zina za theka lachiwiri. Monga lamulo, zonsezi zimakhalabe m'dziko lawo laling'ono, ndipo kwa ena sizingawonekere.
Zochita zoterozo zingatchedwe zolondola. Simukusowa kusonyeza mavuto anu kwa anthu. Mavuto onse ndi kusamvetsetsana ziyenera kuthetsedwa pazithunzi zochepa za banja. Ubale woterewu ndi wolimba kwambiri, mosiyana ndi omwe awiriwa amakonda kukangana ndi kupeza ubale ndi ana, achibale, odziwa kapena pamsewu.
Kodi tsopano ndi kotheka kuti ubale wabwino ukhalepo m'nthawi yathu ino. Inde ndizotheka. Aliyense amaganiza kuti ubale wawo udzakhala wabwino kwambiri. Kuti ubale wabwino ukhalepo, ndikofunikira kuti akhale achikondi. Pamene mumakonda munthu, mumatha kumukhululukira zolakwika zazing'ono kwambiri. Pamene pali chikondi chenicheni, pali kumvetsetsa, kuthandizana, kulemekezana. Ngati zigawo zitatuzi zikupezeka mu chiyanjano, ndiye kuti padzakhala mikangano yambiri ndi zotsutsana.
Ngati mukufuna ubale weniweni, simungayambe kutsutsana pazinthu zochepa. Muyenera nthawi zonse kupeza chiyanjano ndikupanga zovomerezeka. Ngati simukukonda chinachake kapena osakonda chinachake mwa munthu, mungathe kukambirana momasuka.
Zoonadi, ubwenzi wabwino tsopano ndi wosavuta. Anthu adayiwala momwe angayamikirane. Ambiri samvetsa kuti chikondi ndi momwe mungakonde. Aliyense amadziika yekha pamwamba pa wina. Amaganiza kuti maganizo ake ndi zikhumbo zake ndi zolondola. Koma izi siziri choncho. Ubale tsopano, mu dziko lamakono, ndizotheka. Zitha kuthekera pamene munthu akuphunzira kugawana chimwemwe ndi chimwemwe chake ndi munthu wina. Phunzirani kulemekeza zokhazokha, komanso zofuna zawo. Masewera ndi osiyana kwambiri kwa aliyense, motero ndikofunika kusonyeza chidwi ndi zosangalatsa za wokondedwa. Iyi ndi mfundo yaikulu mu ubale weniweni.