Koma munthu wamakono amadziwa bwino tanthauzo la mawu akuti "nkhawa". Mwinamwake mwamuwona zotsatira zake "zopindulitsa". Kutopa ndi kukwiya kwakhala kozoloŵera kwa ife. Chikumbumtima chathu chili ndi malingaliro oipa, omwe amaperekedwa ndi mapulogalamu ena a pa televizioni ndi mafilimu, nyuzipepala ndi magazini, kuyankhulana ndi anthu ngati ovuta komanso odandaula monga momwe tilili. Maganizo athu sangathe kuchepetsa kutuluka kwa chidziwitso chosiyana kwambiri, ndipo chimagwera kuvutika maganizo ndi kutaya mtima, kufotokoza kwa maganizo kumatayika, mphamvu zowonetsera komanso kudzoza kumatha.
Timavutika ndi izi ndipo timatopa mwakuthupi ndi mwauzimu, timataya tulo ndipo sitingathe kupumula ndikuiwala za mavuto a moyo. Timayesetsa kuti tipewe vutoli, tikugwiritsa ntchito njira zowonetsera, kuyesera njira iliyonse yosangalatsa ndi kusokoneza. Nthawi zina timatha kukwaniritsa cholinga, ndipo tikhoza kukhala osangalala ... kwa kanthawi kochepa. Timakhala chete, pali kukhutira ndi moyo. Koma posakhalitsa zonsezi zikudutsa, kuzibweza, ndi kufunafuna chimwemwe, bata ndi kukhutira kachiwiri. Tikutsanso kutsata malingaliro atsopano, zowawa ndi mwayi. Timavomereza zolakwa, kufufuza, kulongosola ndi kulota. Kusokonezeka maganizo ndi kuvutika. Moyo umadutsa mu kamvuluvulu.
Kodi tingapeze bwanji njira yodzipezera kudzidalira, kudziletsa komanso kubwezeretsanso mkati? Izi zimafuna kuphunzira kuphunzira. Tiyeni tiyesetse kuima, tipeze mpweya wathu ndi kumasuka. Chotsani kufuula ndikutseke maso anu. Tiyeni tizimvetsera, zomwe zimveka ngatizungulira, tidzamva, ndikumva kuti malo otizungulira akutidzaza, tidzamvetsera zowawa. Tiyeni tiwone ngati kwa nthawi yaitali tingathe kukhala monga chonchi ndikusangalala ndi malo osasunthika ndipo sitichita kanthu?
Mukhoza kukhala otsimikiza, sizatha nthawi yaitali. Poyamba, mwinamwake, mphindi yokha, kenako tidzakonza kusintha, ndipo pamutu padzakhala mndandanda wonse wa malingaliro osiyana kwambiri. Ngati takhala kanthawi ndikuyang'ana malingaliro athu, tidzodabwa ndi angati a iwo komanso momwe angatitsogolere kutali. Ngati tinamva mwadzidzidzi ochulukitsa "kukambirana" mkati mwa munthu wina, tikanakhala tikuganiza kuti munthuyo ndi wochepa chabe. Ndipo mtsinje wa malingaliro oterewu umatuluka pamutu mwathu mosalekeza, ngakhale mu loto, osatilola ife kuiwala za mavuto a moyo, kudziwonetsera wekha mu mawonekedwe a maloto. Kuwonjezera apo, m'malingaliro athu, timakhala nthawi zonse m'tsogolo, tikulota ndikukonzekera chinachake, kapena takhala kale, kukumbukira ndi kusanthula chinachake. Tsopano malingaliro athu amatha, kumangokhalira kukambirana ndiokha, akuba moyo wathu kuchokera kwa ife, kutiteteza kusangalala ndi zomwe zimatipatsa mphindi iliyonse. Kuwonjezera pa kuti ubongo wathu sukhazikika, nthawi zonse umakhala wovuta, ndipo izi sizingatheke koma zimakhudza thanzi lathu, chifukwa chirichonse chomwe timachiwona mkati chimasonyezedwa kuchokera kunja (monga akunena, matenda onse ochokera m'mitsempha).
Ndipo, tsoka, palibe psychoanalyst angathe kuthetsa bwalo ili loipa. Izi ndi zathu zokha: tiyenera kuphunzira kupumula. Mwa njira, izo zakhazikitsidwa kuti anthu omwe amatha kumasuka, samatembenukira kwa madokotala, mosiyana ndi ena onse.
Eya, ndi nthawi yopitilizabe kuchitapo kanthu. Popeza sizili zophweka kufika pamtundu woyendetsera mkati, tidzasunthira mbaliyi bwino, koma mobwerezabwereza, ngati sitidzakwaniritsa bwino. Poyamba, tidzakhala ndi nthawi yochepa pa nthawi ya moyo wathu (30 minutes patsiku mokwanira), ngakhale titakhala otsimikiza kuti tilibe nthawi yopanda nthawi. Tangolingalirani kuti nthawi ino ikuyenera kutichotseratu mkhalidwe woipa ndi wovulaza wa psyche ndi thandizo kuti tikwaniritse chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo, ndipo nthawi yaulere idzapezeka nthawi yomweyo. Vomerezani kuti ngati takhala pa kompyuta, pabedi pa TV kapena pa foni chabe theka la ola limodzi, palibe tsoka lidzachitike.
Kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yopuma, nthawi iliyonse ya tsiku ndi yoyenera, ndikofunika kuti izi zikhale zokwanira, osati nthawi ndi nthawi. Choncho pang'onopang'ono chizoloŵezi chabwino chidzakula, popanda zomwe tidzayamba kuvutika nazo, ngati kuti sitingathe kudula mano pakudya. Pakangotha miyezi ingapo, tidziwone kuti moyo umakula bwino. Anzanu ndi achibale adzakhala ndi chidwi, sizitchuka ngati tapita kukacheza.
Koma tisati tipite patsogolo. Kotero, ife tapeza nthawi, tsopano, kuti tilowe mu nthawi zosangalatsa zosangalatsa, simukusowa kupanga zipangizo zirizonse zapadera. Malo ochepa chete, otetezeka, kapu kakang'ono ndi gawo lapansi. Ndikofunika kukhala ndi malo abwino kumbuyo. Mutu uyenera kuikidwa pakati pa khosi kuti nsana ikhale yotambasula, ndipo kansalu kali pamphumi. Miyendo imafunika kumasuka, mapazi "kugwa" kumbali, kutsegula malo okhwima. Manja amalekerera momasuka pambali ndi manja. Sungunulani iwo kotero kuti mitsempha yothandizana nayo imatsegulidwe pang'ono, ndipo mapewa asuke. Tiyeni tisiye nkhawa zathu za tsiku ndi tsiku kumbuyo kwa chipindacho, kuiwala za mapulani athu ndikusintha kuti tizimva apa ndi tsopano, tiyesera kubweretsa thupi lathu, kupuma ndi chidziwitso kuti tipumule. Timatseka maso athu ndikumverera malo omwe amatizungulira, ndiyeno tiyang'ane momwe thupi lirili pamtunda, malinga ndi momwe izi zilili bwino kwa ife. Dziwani kumene thupi lathu limalumikizana ndi rug kapena pansi. Icho chiri kwathunthu. Izi ndizofunikira, chifukwa thupi likusokonezeka. Ngakhale, ndithudi, ngati pali chilakolako chosasunthika, mwachitsanzo, kuti muzengereza mphuno zanu, simuyenera kudziletsa nokha ndi njirayi. Kupanga osachepera kayendetsedwe kake, chotsani zopingazo ndikupitiriza kuchita zosangalatsa.
Mwachidziwitso tidzatha kupyolera mu thupi lonse, tiyang'ana mbali zake (miyendo, manja, thunthu, nkhope) ndipo tidzayesa kuthetsa malo onse ovuta. Poyamba, malingaliro athu nthawi zina amachoka ku chinthu chowoneka, koma izi siziyenera kutichititsa manyazi. Timabwereranso ku thupi lathu mofatsa komanso mwachidwi ndikupitirizabe kuona. Kotero pang'onopang'ono thupi lathu lidzasungunuka kwathunthu ndipo pamapeto pake tiphunzire kufika pamtundu umenewu mofulumira, ngati kutaya mu danga.
Pamene tikumva kuti thupi limasuka, tidzasintha maganizo athu onse, kuzindikira mkati mwathu ndi kumvetsera zowawa zathu. Tidzayesera kuzindikira zochitika zonse zobisika m'thupi: mwinamwake tidzamva momwe mimba, m'matumbo, ndi ziwalo zina zamkati zimagwirira ntchito. Mwinamwake tidzamva kuyendayenda kwa magazi kudzera m'zombo, mapulumu, ntchito ya mtima, kupuma kwanu. Kwa kanthawi tidzasamala tokha. Onetsetsani kayendetsedwe kathupi, khalani chete ndikuiwala za mavuto a moyo. Kenaka tidzakambirana za kupuma. Muzimva kuyenda kwake m'mphuno, m'khosi, m'chifuwa, m'mimba. Ingoyang'anani kutuluka kwa mpweya. Momwemo mpweya wathu umayambira komanso kuti, nanga ndi kuti kumene kutuluka mpweya wathu kumayambira.
Tidzayesera kuti tisamalire pang'onopang'ono ndi kusintha kwake kosavuta, nthawi ndi nthawi kubwezeretsa chidziwitso chathu ku chinthu chowunika. Tidzayesa kuti tisagone, ngakhale poyambirira ndi ife izi zikhoza kuchitika, pamene malingaliro athu atulukamo, izo zimatulukanso. Tiyeni tisamangodandaula, tipitirize kuchita zonse nthawi zonse, ndipo pang'onopang'ono tiphunzira kuti tidzakhalabe mu chidziwitso chozama, chokhazikika, chosasamala, kudzivomereza tokha monga ife tirili, kupeza mphamvu pa maganizo athu ndi malingaliro athu.
M'kupita kwa nthawi, tidzazindikira kuti dziko liri lodzala ndi mitundu. Lethargy ndi ulesi, ululu ndi chisoni zimapereka mwayi wodzisangalatsa ndi chiyembekezo. Tidzakalipira kwambiri zomwe timachita, tidzakhala ndi moyo weniweni, timakhala nthawi yocheperapo mu maloto okhudza tsogolo labwino kapena kukumbukira zakale. Pamene tikupitiriza maphunziro athu, tidzazindikira kuti tilephera kuyankhulana ndi zochitika ndi anthu amene amadandaula ndikutipweteka kale. Zipangizozi zidzapitirirabe, ntchito yanyumba ndi nyumba sizidzakhala zochepa, koma tidzapeza kuti zonsezi zimakhudza kwambiri kuposa kale, pamene tinakhumudwitsidwa, kukwiya, nkhawa ndi nkhawa. Tidzasiya kuyesayesa, ndipo zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri kulankhulana nafe. Zoonadi, zizindikiro izi sizidzaonekera msanga, koma sitidzadandaula kuti tinapita ulendo wautali komanso wokondweretsa kuti tiphunzire tokha.
Aliyense ayenera kuphunzira kupumula ndikuiwala mavuto a moyo. Kukhoza kumasuka kwathunthu thupi lanu, kumupatsa mpata wokhala ndi moyo wabwino ndikutsitsimuka - luso lofunikira kwa munthu aliyense. Komabe, luso limeneli ndilofunika kwambiri pa ubwino wa amayi apakati, pambuyo pake, mpumulo wa nthawi zonse ukufunikira kwa amayi amtsogolo monga mavitamini ndi machitidwe olimbitsa thupi. Kuwonjezera apo, kuthekera kwa kupumula kumathandiza panthawi yopereka mwana, komanso pakubereka, komanso pamene mwana wabadwa. Pokhala womasuka bwino, amayi onse amatha kubwezeretsa mphindi zochepa ndikumva ngati atagona mokwanira. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kupumula kwathunthu!