Akatswiri opatsirana pogonana amanena mfundo yosangalatsa yakuti patatha zaka 30 mkazi amafunika kugonana, ndiko kuti, chiwerengero cha kugonana kwake kumtunda. Choncho, pakati pathu tidzakambirana kuti mkaziyo, chifukwa chofuna kugonana pambuyo pa 30 zomwe zidzakambidwenso.
Sichikuwonekera apo, kuchokera kwa anyamata aang'ono a zaka 30 mpaka 40 akufunsidwa mafunso kuthetsa vutoli, zokhudzana ndi momwe angasangalalire ndi kugonana? Kodi pali zifukwa zosayendera kugonana? Kodi pali njira zowonjezera libido? Moyo ndi nkhawa za m'banja, kudalira kudzidalira - chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu. Chifukwa chomveka, kuwonjezera pa zomwe zanenedwa, ndikunyoza mnzanuyo. Mpaka wa zilakolako za kugonana kwa onse awiri sizingagwirizane, chifukwa chochitika ichi chakhala chachizoloŵezi cha amayi 35-60% m'mayiko osiyanasiyana. Sitikufuna kudandaula izi? Nthawi zambiri ankakana mwamuna wake? Ndiye muyambe kuyamba kuchita, ndi nthawi yogwira ntchito zoyenera.
Pumula bwino. Dokotala wina, amenenso ali katswiri pa mavuto a kugonana, amanenanso kuti pafupifupi 40 peresenti ya amayi pambuyo pa 30 amakhala amanjenje otopa. Mpumulo wokonzeka bwino ndi sitepe ya momwe mungapezere zomwe mukufuna pogonana. Zina zonse zimaphatikizapo mpumulo wina, kaya thupi, kapena maganizo, kapena auzimu. Kupuma kwabwino kungathe kufotokozedwa ngati kulankhula ndi anzanu. Kupumula ndi malingaliro - ndondomeko inayake pa zochitika zanu, zokhumba. Mphindi zingapo patsiku ayenera kuperekedwa kukumbukira mtima, kapena maloto. Zosangalatsa ndi zakuthupi, kungoziyika - maloto aifupi. Malotowa, monga adadziwika, amatha pafupifupi ola limodzi panthawi yomwe chimbudzichi chikuthandizira kukondwera. Zosangalatsa ndizochitika zauzimu - zozizwitsa zosiyana siyana zomwe zimathandiza kuti zitheke.
Perekani nthawi. Kodi kugonana kungakonzedwe kumapereka zochuluka kuposa momwe mukufunira kusiyana ndi nthawi zonse? Zimatuluka - inde. Pambuyo pa mavuto osiyanasiyana apakhomo, chilakolako cha kugonana chimatha kuthawa. Akatswiri akukulangizani kuti muike masiku otsegula - osaphika konse, kupatula kuti musatuluke pakatha masana. Kutopa ndiko chinthu chachikulu, chifukwa chodziwika chothekera kuwonjezera libido. Kodi n'zotheka kukhala wokondwa popanga chikondi pamene madzulo "adatopa"? Akatswiri ochokera ku Britain amalangiza atsikana achichepere kuti azichita zosangalatsa zawo, kuti azipeza nthawi yogonana pa nthawi yoyenera kwambiri .. Kukayikira zofuna zawo sikofunika. Ndipo kukakamiza munthu kuti azichita zosangalatsa za kugonana ndi chisankho choyenera.
Timayesetsa kumasuka . Akatswiri ena a maganizo amagwiritsa ntchito chiphunzitso chofuna kupeza chofunika kuchokera pakupanga chikondi. Lingaliro la akatswiri awa ndi lakuti ngati msungwana sangathe kukhala ndi chikhumbo chabwino, kunena kuti sangathe kupeza chiyanjano kuchokera pachibwenzi sikoyenera. Pezani chinthu choyamba, ndizofunika kuchita. Amayi ena achichepere amatenga uphungu uwu ngati chinthu chosayenera. Dziwani kuti kugonana ndi ntchito, osangoganizira. Ndi bwino kuganizira ngati "chikumbutso" kwa wokondedwa. Mwamuna akufuna kungotchula za chikhalidwe chake, kukopa kuti azigonana. Okonda kapena amuna okha ayenera nthawi zonse kuzindikira kufunika kwake. Moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna - zomwe zimakumbutsidwa, kuti kuchokera mwa izo zinkangokondweretsa, tiyeni ndi nthawi yina.
Timadziphunzira tokha. Kuyesera kumvetsetsa zomwe mukufunayo pamodzi ndi zokonda zogonana ndikofunika kwa aliyense. Mukadziphunzira nokha, tsatirani gawo la malo osokonezeka kwa okondedwa anu. Amayi onse aang'ono amakhulupirira kuti mwamuna wabwino ayenera kudziwa zomwe akazi akufuna kugonana. M'moyo, malo olakwikawa angathe kusintha malo awo, omwe njira zogonana zimasiya ntchito yawo yakale. Kupatula nthawi kuti mudziwe munthu wofunikira mu thupi lake ndikofunika. Kudzikhutira ndi kukhudzidwa ndi thupi lanu kutipangitsa kusokonezeka maganizo sikuyenera. Pambuyo pa "kufufuza ndi mbali" ndizothandiza kufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane mnzanuyo kupeza zowonongeka. Ndibwino kuti ndifotokozere momwe mungakhudzire. Mukufuna kupeza zomwe mukufuna kuchokera muzochita zogonana, kambiranani za iwo ndi mwamuna.
Tikupempha chifundo. Ofufuza pa chipatala china adapeza kuti zokondweretsa zogonana, pamene chidwi cha amayi ndi kugonana ndi zaka 30-45, chimakhala chifukwa chakuti sadapereke mwachifundo. Mkazi amafunikanso pa msinkhu uwu, koma ngati ali ndi ubale wautali ndi theka lachimuna, amachepetsa pang'onopang'ono. Pambuyo pa zaka zinayi za ubale kuchokera kwa azimayi 60% omwe anali ndi chilakolako chogonana nthawi zambiri, anali 47% okha. Moyo waukwati wazaka makumi awiri wapereka chiŵerengero cha 20 peresenti yokha. Atsikana ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kugonana kumatha m'malo mwa njira zina komanso mwachikondi, choncho amavomereza kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa popanda kukhumba. Koma mkhalidwe uwu wa zochitika ukhoza kutsogolera ku mfundo yakuti theka lachikazi la gululi laleka "kukhala nacho chokha" chikoka cha kugonana. Pazofunikira kunena kuti theka lachimuna ndilofunika, komanso zokhumba.
Kugonana ndi akazi. Wothandizira wa Viagra ndi chinthu chomwe chingawonjezere kutuluka kwa magazi kwa ziwalo zoberekera. Mitundu yambiri, yogwirizana ndi kumasulidwa kwa zinthu zozizwitsa zoterozo, "akugonjetsedwa". Pali ofufuza omwe amalangiza kukhala ndi testosterone ya hormone, ndipo kukhalapo kwake kuli kuchepa kwa chilakolako chogonana. Mofulumira, ku njira yokondweretsa ndi yotetezeka yokwaniritsa zomwe mukufuna mu kugonana - chotupitsa pang'ono patsogolo pake. Kudya chilichonse sikutsatila, timangogula mankhwala enaake - omwe ali ndi zamasamba ndi zinyama. Otsitsa zomera za kukopa chikondi akhoza kukhala ndi nthochi, kapena masiku, kapena amondi. Zina mwa mitundu ya nyama zingatchedwe tchizi, kapena mkaka, kapena zinziri. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti mupite patali ndi bizinesi ili kuti musapeze zotsatira zosiyana.
Mkazi woposa 30 amangotsegula njira zosiyanasiyana za moyo, ndipo sikuyenera kuima pa vuto la kukopa kwa kugonana. Ingotengani ndikupeza njira yabwino yochotsera vutoli. Ndiye mavuto onse adzapita ku dongosolo lachiwiri.