Vuto limodzi: maganizo. Pambuyo pake, mwana si chidole, chomwe chingasewedwe pa mezzanine. Munthu wamng'ono uyu nthawi zonse, maola 24 patsiku amafuna kuti muzisamalira nokha. Ndipo m'banja muli vuto: makolo achichepere, ozolowera kukhala moyo wawokhaokha ndi wina ndi mzake, ndi vuto lalikulu amamangidwanso kukhala moyo watsopano. Malingana ndi akatswiri a zaumoyo, mabanja amasiku ano, monga lamulo, safulumira kukhala ndi chikhalidwe choyamba: choyamba, kukonzanso kwawo, ntchito, kuyenda ndi pokhapokha-kubadwa kwa mwana. Kuonjezera apo, nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti malingaliro okhudzana ndi kuleredwa kwa ana aang'ono kuchokera kwa makolo awo sagwirizana mofanana. Choncho, ngakhale mwanayo akuyembekezera nthawi yayitali, amakhalanso osudzulana atatha kubadwa kwa mwana.
Vuto lachiwiri: kugonana. Si chinsinsi chakuti makamaka m'miyezi yoyamba ya moyo, mwanayo amafunikira kusamalidwa nthawi zonse, makamaka kuchokera kwa mayi: kumadyetsa nthawi zonse, kuphatikizapo kudya usiku, kusintha makoswe, kukonzekera chakudya cha ana, ndi kusonkhana. Bambo wamng'ono, ngakhale atapereka thandizo lothandizira kwa mkazi wake - kutsuka, kuyanika, kugula chakudya, sichimasintha njira ya moyo kwambiri. Ndipo nthawi zambiri samamvetsa kusokonezeka kwamanjenje, kutopa kwa mkazi wake ndi kusayenerera kwake kuti azikonda, monga momwe zinalili chizoloŵezi cholowa cha watsopano m'banja.
Komanso, mkazi wake yemwe anali wokongola kwambiri komanso wokongola mwadzidzidzi anasiya kumutsata, kutayika kwake, komanso m'mimba mwake ndi m'chuuno mwake "zakhala zikupita patsogolo". Ndipo mwamunayo akuyamba "kuyang'ana mbali," si chinsinsi kuti muli odzaza ndi amayi okondeka omwe ali pafupi popanda mavuto. Choncho amanyengerera mwana atabadwa - chinthu chodziwika bwino, chomwe chingakhalenso chofunika kuti athetse banja.
Vuto lachitatu: zakuthupi. Ngati ndalama za mwamuna wake sizikumva kuti "mavuto azachuma a m'banja", koma, monga momwe amachitira, m'banja lalikulu vutoli limabuka, tsoka! nthawi zambiri. Si mabanja onse omwe amavomereza kuti "Kuwonjezera ndalama zomwe ana amagwiritsa ntchito pakhomo la akazi" mopanda phindu. Wokwatirana amanyoza atate wa banja chifukwa cholephera, iye ndi iye - chifukwa chosagwirizana. Zotsatira zake - kusakhutira ndi wina ndi mzake ndi moyo wa banja palimodzi, kukangana ndi zotsatira - kusudzulana.
Ndiye kodi mungathetsere kusudzulana pambuyo pa kubadwa kwa mwana? Yankho ndilokhazikika - ndizotheka ndi lofunikira! Ndipotu, munthu wamng'ono ndi wofunikira komanso amayi ndi abambo. Nawa nsonga zina zosavuta koma zothandiza.
Khalani ololerana wina ndi mzake, musayambe pa zovuta. Posakhalitsa, alowetsani udindo wa makolo ndikusangalala nawo. Dziyeseni nokha kuganiza kuti m'chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri nthawi yaulere idzakhala yowonjezereka, moyo udzatsikira pansi pa chizoloŵezi chachizolowezi. Akazi angathe kulangizidwa kuti azikhala okhazikika komanso kuti azikhala okonda mwamuna, amuna - kumvetsetsa ndikumvetsa kutopa kwa mkazi ndi mwana wake wotanganidwa.
Musasiye kugonana ndi kuyesera kusiyanitsa, chifukwa chakuti ambiri mwa amayi ambiri amatha kubadwa kumene chikhalidwe chimayamba. Gawani ntchito zanu zapakhomo, ngati n'kotheka, theka. Musakane kuyankhulana ndi anzanu (pambuyo pake, atakwanitsa mwezi umodzi akhoza kuitanidwa okha, kusunga malamulo a ukhondo). Madzulo amodzi amayenda ndi mwanayo ali pafupi kwambiri ndipo amayenda mwachikondi. "Adzakula bwanji, mwamuna wamng'ono uyu?" "Chabwino, ndithudi, ambiri, ndipo tidzanyada naye!" Sungani, khalani makolo - chimwemwe chotero!