"Ukwati woyamba ndi wochokera kwa Mulungu, ndipo wachiwiri kuchokera kwa woipa," akutero nzeru yakale ya anthu. Tiyeni tiwone ngati akunama? Mwinamwake ukwati wachiwiri udzakhala wopambana kwambiri?
Kwa nthawi yoyamba, akazi ali okwatirana ali aang'ono kwambiri. Ngakhale timayesetsa kukhala ofanana ndi Achimereka omwe, poyamba, amaphunzira, kupanga ntchito, ndiyeno amapanga banja ali ndi zaka 30-35, zonse zimakhala zosiyana kwa ife. Atsikana a ku Russia amavala mphete yowonjezera nthawi yoyamba muzaka 20-24. Zifukwa zopangira chisankho chofunika kwambiri ndizosiyana: ena, mokwanira ndi omveka, amangofuna kulemekeza ubale wawo, pamene ena akufuna kulengeza mwana wosabadwa. Koma vuto liri mozama kwambiri. Mfundo yakuti achinyamata samvetsa mokwanira udindo wonse wa zomwe zikuchitika. Banja silikupsyopsyona ndi mwezi, ndi ntchito yaikulu yomanga ubale, kupeza chiyanjano ndi kuvomereza munthu ndi zofunikira zake zonse. Munthu pambuyo pa zaka 20-21 wapangidwa kale ngati munthu, ndipo ndizosatheka kupanga kukonza khalidwe lake. Pali njira ziwiri: kuvomereza munthu momwe iye aliri, kapena kufunafuna wina yemwe mukufuna. Zikhulupirire ine, gawo lachitatu silinaperekedwe, kujambula chinachake kuchokera kwa munthu kumakhala kofunika kwambiri kuposa inu m'zinthu zonse. Malingana ndi chiwerengero, Russia yakhala imodzi mwa mayiko oyambirira mwa nambala ya chisudzulo. Ku Moscow banja lililonse lachiwiri likusudzulidwa. Zomwe zimayambitsa kusudzulana: kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso, kusowa nyumba, kuchepa kwa zinthu zakuthupi ndi kufanana kwa anthu.
Kodi mkaziyo ayenera kuchita chiyani pamene selo la anthu latha, ndipo mawu akuti "osudzulidwa" adawonekera pazomwe zilipo?
Choyamba, simungathe kudziimba mlandu nokha, kudzidzudzula, kudzimba nokha ndikupeza zolakwika. Kotero inu mudzakhala ndi neurasthenia kapena otsika zovuta. Ndikofunika kuthetsa maubwenzi onse akale ku nyumbayi, ndi kusiya chinsinsi pa benchi paki. Kumbukirani, kukhala "pano ndi pano" ndi mbewu ya nzeru ndi chimwemwe.
Kusudzulana kumakhala kovuta, ndipo kumalowa m'malo mwa maganizo abwino. Ganizirani zomwe mukufuna kuchita - phunzirani kuvina, kusoka, kugwirizana, kuphunzira pulogalamu yatsopano ya kompyuta kapena kukonzekera chakudya chokoma. Ndipo mwinamwake muli ndi maloto akale osadziwika kuti mupite kudziko lina? Idzakulepheretsani inu.
Komanso, Amayi Amayi, musaiwale za maonekedwe anu. Pita kumsika wamakono, masseur, pangani manicure. Tsiku lililonse, pangitsani thupi lanu ndi kusamba ndi mafuta ofunika a lalanje - ndondomekoyi imabweretsanso bwino komanso imakhala yosangalatsa. Lowani ku kampu yolimbitsa thupi - iyi si njira yokha yopita kwa munthu wochepa komanso wophunzira, komanso mwayi wopanga anthu atsopano.
Pita kugula, monga momwe mnzanga akunenera, "Kugula kumalimbikitsa!". Dzigulireni nokha diresi la maloto anu, ndipo simungathe kuvala ...
Tsiku lirilonse, yesetsani kudzikuza - sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuthana ndi mavuto mu algebra, apa ndi funso la kudzikonda kwauzimu. Muyenera kuphunzira kukhululukira anthu, kumvetsetsa kuti anthu ali ndi zolakwitsa, kudziletsa okha pakuwonetsa malingaliro oipa, kuyankhulana ndi anthu ndikuwona mwa iwo, koposa zonse, zinthu zabwino.
Amayi ambiri atatha kusudzulana ali ndi cholakwira, ndipo ngakhale chidani cha amuna onse, amakhulupirira kuti anthu onse ali "awo," ndipo amadzizungulira ndi "kubwerera kwa amayi." Kumvetsetsa, pakuti munthu mmodzi saweruza hafu yonse yaumunthu, amangotenga osati mwamuna wanu. Tangoganizirani munthu woyenera, koma musatenge nkhope, koma ganizirani za makhalidwe omwe mukufuna kumuwona. Mulole Iye akhale wokoma mtima, ndi chisangalalo, ana okonda, okonda, okonda. Ndizochita izi, mumapanga mutu wanu ndendende momwe mukufunira munthu. Chabwino, zoona sizikutenga nthawi yaitali.
Kodi mungayambire bwanji moyo wanu ndi slate yoyera pambuyo pa chisudzulo? Nthawi zina, mkazi wosudzulana atasiyidwa ndi mwana kapena ana awiri. Iye mwadala safuna kukonzekera moyo wake chifukwa choopa chikhalidwe choipa cha abambo okalamba pa kulera ana. Izi zimachitika kuti ana omwe amachititsa amayi kuti asakumane ndi "amuna osadziwika". Kwa mkazi, munthu ayenera kumvetsetsa apa kuti munthu sayenera kukwaniritsa zofuna zake zonse, kumupangira fano, kumupembedza, kusokoneza "ego" yake yoipa, mwinamwake wina ayenera kudandaula. Tiyenera kupeza njira kwa mwanayo, kufotokozera zomwezo, ndikuwonetsa chikondi chonse cha amayi ndi chikondi. Fotokozani kuti banja latsopano lidzabadwenso, kuti adzamukonda kwambiri, ndipo adzasangalala kwambiri.
Azimayi amadzizunza okha ndi mafunso ngati bambo wawo watsopano adzakonda ana kuchokera ku banja lawo loyamba. Chowonadi ndi chakuti ngati mwamuna amakonda mkazi, ndiye kuti adzakonda ana. Ngati ndikumverera kwenikweni.
Pokhala mukuchita bizinesi yomwe mumaikonda kwambiri, mukupeza matalente atsopano mwa inu nokha, simudzazindikira momwe chidzakhalire chidzakupatsani maubwenzi atsopano, okhwima ndi okhwima omwe mudzapeza osangalala. Kumbukirani kuti chisankho choyambitsa moyo kuchokera pachiyambi pambuyo pa chisudzulo chimadalira inu! Bwino!