Koma izi ndi zosavuta. Zitha kuchitika kuti mkaziyo sankadziwa kuti mbuyeyo ali ndi mkazi wovomerezeka. Iye nayenso ankakhulupirira ndi kumanga mapulani a tsogolo lamtendere lolimba. Ndipo mwamuna amene wasankhidwa ndi mayiyo, musamafulumize kukapereka. Pamene choonadi chikuwulukira (ndipo choonadi nthawi zonse chikumveka - mwamsanga kapena mtsogolo), ndiye mkaziyo akumva kuti akumva chakukhosi ndi kusakhulupirika. Kotero munthuyo akukonzedwa - palibe yemwe amakonda chinyengo.
Mkazi wanzeru yemwe amaganizira za tsogolo lake amadziwa kuti ubale wotere ndi mwamuna wokwatira udzatha pamapeto pake. Ayi, ndithudi, mwinamwake nayenso wagwa m'chikondi, wasudzulana ndipo adzatenga dona wa mtima kukhala akazi ovomerezeka. Koma nthawi zambiri munthu safuna kuthetsa chiyambi cha moyo. Choncho, zingakhale bwino kuti mkazi asiye ubale wake ndi mwamuna wokwatira. Osati mkazi aliyense, ngakhale ndi malingaliro odabwitsa, adzasankha kusiya ndi mwamuna amene amamukonda. Ndipotu, perekani izi kwa zina, zomveka. Koma anthu sali zinthu ndipo ndithudi sali katundu wa aliyense. Choncho, mawu oti "pereka" pa nkhaniyi siwothandiza.
Tingawononge bwanji chiyanjanochi? N'zovuta, ndithudi, kuthetsa ubale ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa. Ndipotu, makamaka, mkazi amadalira iye, kuchokera kumisonkhano komanso kuyembekezera nthawi zonse. Kuphatikizanso, maubwenzi oterewa ndi ofanana ndi zochitika zapadera, chifukwa nthawi iliyonse mungaphunzire za chirichonse kuchokera kwa mkazi wanu ndipo simungapewe kufotokoza momveka bwino kwa ubalewu. Wina angakonde moyo uno, wodzazidwa ndi adrenaline, komabe amayi ambiri amafuna mtendere ndi moyo wamtendere.
Kuti muwonetsetse kuti ubale wotere ndi mwamuna wokwatira umatha, muyenera kuyesa zonse zomwe zimapindulitsa komanso zokhumudwitsa. Komabe, pali banja lina, ndipo munthu uyu amatero, osakhala bwino. Mayi ayenera kuganizira ngati adzachita izi pambuyo pake? Ndipotu, ngati mwamuna wokwatiwa sawona chilichonse cholakwika pakumana ndi wina kumbali, ndiye, mwina, sadzawona cholakwika chilichonse ndi zomwe zingasinthe pambuyo pake.
Mayi ayenera kumuyang'ana mozama, koma kodi ndi wabwino? Iye ndi wabodza, ngakhale atachita zimenezo kwa wina. Iye samasiyana mokhulupirika ku malingaliro apabanja, nkokayikitsa kuti iye adzakhala mwamuna wabwino. Mzimayi yemwe amakumana ndi munthu wotere ayenera kuzindikira zomwe akuchita ndikumvetsa kuti akuwononga banja la wina ndikulimbikitsa chinyengo ndi kusakhulupirika.
Mukapeza kuti mwamuna wanu sali pabanja, nthawi zambiri mumaganiza kuti ndinu wabodza pamaso panu ndipo simungathe kusintha moyo wake. Ubale ndi amuna omwe ali pa banja sungakutsogolereni ku moyo wachibadwa m'banja ndi ana. Munthu aliyense amene wapita kale njira yachinyengo, amatha kunyenga zambiri.
Inde, pali zochitika pamene pali chikondi chenicheni chomwe chingathandize kuti banja likhale losangalala. Koma, mwatsoka, masewerawa ndi osowa ndipo ndibwino kuti munthu wosankhidwayo asudzulane (ndiko kuti, wokonzekera kusintha ndi kutsegula maubwenzi atsopano) kusiyana ndi kukwatira kapena kukwatiwa nthawi zonse adzakuuzani kuti watsala pang'ono kuthetsa banja.
Ubale ndi mwamuna yemwe ali womangidwa ndi ukwati ndi nkhani yosatha. N'zotheka kuthetsa chiyanjano chotere, muyenera kungofuna kumvetsetsa choonadi chosavuta: yemwe adayamba kunyenga adzapitirizabe kuchita izi. Ndiyeno, nkutheka kuti mumakhala kale kumalo a mkazi wonyengedwa.