Choyamba, ndi bwino kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake cha matendawa ndi chifukwa chake mwathetsa ukwati. Kawiri kawirikawiri amatsutsana chifukwa chosiyana ndi wina ndi mnzake. Pali mitundu yambiri ya amuna omwe amachititsa kuti munthu asamvetse bwino, choncho mumabanja komanso nthawi zambiri makangano, mikangano komanso ndondomeko yothetsera banja.
- amuna okwiya ndi osakhutira chifukwa china chilichonse, nthawi zambiri amatsutsana ndi mkazi wake, kufuula, kulumbira, nthawi zina amatha kugunda tebulo ndi zida zawo;
- okwera masewera amatha kukonza malo kuchokera pachiyambi. Ntchito yawo yaikulu ndikutaya mtima, ndikupezera mphamvu kuchokera kwa munthu wina. Kawirikawiri akazi a amuna oterewa, kuyesa kusunga banja, amasautsika, kuchitapo kanthu;
- Amanyazi amanyazi amafunitsitsa kunyalanyaza akazi, kutchula mawu osasangalatsa, omwe amachepetsa kudzidalira;
- Womanizer akhoza kukonda ndi abwenzi anu abwenzi pamaso panu, ndipo kuchokera pamaso pa mkazi wokongola bwino ndi wokongola iwo akuponya. Mwina, pakuchita izi, akufuna kukuwonetsanso kuti simusamala kwambiri mwamuna wanu.
Malingana ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, ndi amuna ena mungathe kupeza chinenero chimodzi ndikubwezeretsanso chiyanjano, kukhazikitsa ubale ndi mwamuna wake pamapeto pa kusudzulana, kupulumutsa banja, ndi kupereka malangizo otsatirawa:
1. Nthawi zambiri mumatamande mnzanu, makamaka pagulu. Adzasangalalira kuti amve kuyamikiridwa, makamaka kumadera omwe ali ofunika kwambiri kwa iye.
2. Monga mukudziwira, kuseka ndi njira yabwino yothetsera nkhawa. Pezani zinthu ndi zinthu zomwe mungaseke pamodzi nthawi zambiri. Ndimasangalala, chitani zinthu zovuta komanso zovuta.
3. Pezani nthawi komanso malo oti muzikhala pamodzi. Sichiyenera kukhala mpumulo panyanja. Zokwanira kupita ku lesitilanti kapena kumapeto kwa mlungu kumudzi. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala nokha.
4. Nthawi yotsatira mukamawona chisangalalo cha mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, kumwetulira. Ndipo chitani nthawi zonse pamene mukufuna kuthetsa vutoli ndi kusintha zinthu.
5. Yesetsani kugwira mwamuna wanu nthawi zambiri, mwangozi, mwangozi, mosagwirizana. Anthu 10 okha omwe amakhudza tsiku amathandizira kuthetsa vutoli.
6. Yesetsani kulankhula zambiri, makamaka pa nkhani zomwe zikukukhudzani. Lolani munthuyo adziwe kuti chidwi chake ndi malingaliro ake ndi zofunika kwambiri kwa inu. Musati mubise malingaliro anu, izi zidzangowonjezera ndi kusokoneza mkhalidwewo.
7. Lembani mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe mumakonda mnzanu. Ndipo ganizirani za makhalidwe awa. Izi zidzakuthandizani kukumbukira chiyambi cha chiyanjano chanu, pomwe ndendende makhalidwe awa adadzutsa zokondweretsa.
8. Kawirikawiri miyambo ya banja imasunga mgwirizano. Ganizirani pamodzi kapena kukonzekera ndi mwambo wina wa banja, zomwe ziyenera kukhala chizolowezi ndikukhala nthawi zonse. Kotero mukhoza kuthera nthawi yambiri pamodzi ndikuyankhula zambiri.
9. Chitani zimene mwamuna wanu akuyembekezera kuchokera kwa inu. Ndipo inu awiri okha mukudziwa za izo.
Ngati mwangomaliza mwatsatanetsatane zina mwazomwe mumatha maola 72, zotsatira zowonjezereka zatsimikiziridwa.
Kulimbitsa mtima ndi chinthu china chofunika kwambiri pa ubale wa banja. Panthawi ina, mmodzi mwa okwatirana akuyamba kukayikira zakugwirizana, ngakhale kuti banja liri bwino. Izi ndi chifukwa cha kusiyana kwa mphamvu yokopa ya halves.
Aliyense wa ife ali ndi makhalidwe ena omwe amachititsa chifundo kwa ena. Ndipo timadziwa za iwo bwino ndipo tikhoza kuwachulukitsa nthawi zambiri. Kwa zaka zambiri, timamvetsetsa kuti ndi makhalidwe ati omwe sayenera kuwonetsedwa, ndi zomwe zimasonyeza. Ngakhale okhwima ndi odyera pa chibwenzi amayesetsa kukhala wowolowa manja kuti atsimikizire zopindulitsa.
Ambiri amamanga mgwirizano wawo pa chikhalidwe chofanana. Ndicho chifukwa chake maukwati ambiri osalinganizana amawonongedwa nthawi zambiri: poyamba kusalinganika. Kenaka wotchuka kwambiri wotchuka, wotchuka, amadzipezanso chilakolako china ndi mphamvu yomweyo, chifukwa mkazi wake wakale motsutsana ndi msinkhu wake umakhala imvi.
Amuna okondana, pamene ali ogwirizana, amatha kufanana, komanso makhalidwe amkati. Ndipo ngati kufanana sikulipo, ndiye mphamvu yokongola imalipidwa ndi chinthu china.
Koma choyenera kuchita chiyani pamene maganizo akumveka, momwe mungakondweretse ubale ndi mwamuna wake, momwe mungakhalire?
Palinso zina zomwe aliyense ayenera kudziwa.
1. Khalani womasuka ndi mwamuna wanu. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane zinsinsi zonse zomwe zinali zobisika kale, koma zoona zina zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale omasuka komanso kumvetsetsana.
2. Nthawi zambiri pachiyambi cha chibwenzi, chikondi chimasokonezeka ndi chilakolako. Phunzirani kuzindikira izi.
3. Talingalirani momwe mukuwonera ukwati wanu ndi zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo. Ndipo mumuzeni za izi, kuphatikizapo kugonana.
4. Khalani mmodzi! Ndipotu, muli ndi cholinga chomwecho - kupulumutsa banja.
5. Landirani mnzanu momwe aliri. Muzilemekeza maganizo ake.
6. Limbikitsani ndi kuvomereza kusintha konse kwabwino pa chikhalidwe cha mnzanuyo, pang'onopang'ono fotokozani zofooka zawo ndi kuwathandiza kuwongolera.
7. Konzani mavuto pamene akuwuka. Musati muwakwiyitse maonekedwe awo ndipo musawachepetse chisankho chawo.
8. Mavuto amathetsa mwamtendere, nthawi zambiri amavomereza.
9. Mvetserani kwa mnzanuyo ndipo mvetserani!
10. Konzani moyo wanu wamtsogolo pamodzi.
11. Dzionetsetseni, khalani okongola!
12. Kugonana - chimodzi mwazofunikira za moyo wa banja. Musakhale wokana mwamunayo molakwika mwa ichi.
13. Mukhoza kupempha chikhululuko kwa zolakwa zanu ndikukhululukira mnzanuyo.
14. Yesetsani kukhala wodziimira pazomwe wina amalingalira, kuphatikizapo maganizo a mnzanu. Musamugonjetse nokha.
15. Pezani phunziro limodzi lovomerezeka ndikupanga chikhalidwe cha banja.
16. Kuti mukhale ndi mgwilizano wogwirizana, ndikofunikira kuyang'anitsitsa thanzi lanu.
Kusamvana pakati pa okwatirana ndi vuto m'banja. Ndipo ingathetsedwe kokha ngati pali malingaliro ena ndipo pali chikhumbo chofuna kusunga banja. Yang'anani khalidwe lanu kuchokera kunja, yang'anani zochitika zatsopano zomwe zikuchitika m'banja. Mwina, ndiwe amene mukuchita chinachake cholakwika. Kubwezeretsa maganizowo kumathandiza chikondi, ulemu ndi kuleza mtima.
Mungathe kusewera masewerawa: kusinthana maganizo, maganizo abwino. Inu mumapereka, koma mobwezera muyenera kupeza zomwe mukufuna. Banja ndilo ndondomeko yothandizira anthu, ndipo kusungirako komwe kumafuna kumafuna mphamvu zambiri, mphamvu, ndi luntha. Ndipo kumbukirani kuti kusudzulana sikungathetse mavuto anu. Mukhoza kukwatirana ndi kusudzulana nthawi zambiri, koma simungapeze banja losangalala. Zili kwa munthuyo ndikuzimvetsa ndi makhalidwe ake. Tsopano inu mukudziwa momwe mungakhazikitse ubale ndi mwamuna wanu pamapeto pa kusudzulana, kuti mupulumutse banja.