Inde, kuthetsa ukwati ndizochitika pa moyo wa mkazi aliyense osati nthawi zonse, zimatuluka, kuti athane ndi vutoli pokhapokha atathandizidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo. Koma musataye mtima ndi kudziuza nokha kuti moyo wanu wasiya pano. Chirichonse sichoncho ndipo ndinu mkazi wokongola ndipo nthawi zonse padzakhala mwamuna yemwe akufuna kukhala ndi inu moyo wake wonse. Mwinamwake, chifukwa cha chisudzulo ichi, mukhoza kudzizindikira nokha ndikupeza zinthu zabwino pamoyo wanu.
Tsopano nthawi zambiri maukwati amatha ndipo simuli nokha muvuto ili. Anthu ambiri asudzulana kamodzi kokha m'moyo wawo, koma sanasangalale. Iwo akuyamba kumanganso miyoyo yawo mwatsopano, ndipo kwa ambiri, izi ndi zabwino kwambiri.
Tidzakuthandizani ndikuthandizani kukuchenjezani ku zolakwa zomwe mungachite mukathetsa mwamuna wanu wokondedwa. Mudzaganiza, ndi zolakwika ziti zomwe zingapangidwe banja likatha kale? Koma inu mukhoza kuthetsa kwathunthu mosiyana. Mungathe kusudzulana kwanu mu sewero lenileni, ndipo mutha kukhala ndi chidziwitso, chomwe mungakhale nacho chanzeru kwambiri ndikusangalala m'tsogolomu.
Zoonadi, nkhani yathu silingayambe kuthandizira anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi inu kapena kufunsa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo. Koma tikhoza kukutetezani ku zolakwa zomwe mungachite chifukwa cha chisokonezo ndi nkhawa.
Choyamba cholakwika amayi ambiri ali ndi kudzimva kwawo chifukwa cholephera kupulumutsa banja ndikuteteza ku chilekano. Koma muyenera kudziwa kuti si inu nokha koma mnzanuyo amene mukulakwitsa zomwe mukusankha, chifukwa ndinu ogwirizana pa chiyanjano chanu. Ndipo ngati mwasankha kusudzulana, ndiye kuti ndinu awiri.
Musalole kuti aliyense akutsutseni, yesetsani kupewa kulankhula. Muyenera kumvetsa kuti munali mkazi wabwino. Ndi moyo wokha umene wapangika ndipo mukufunikira kuthetsa chilekanochi molimba mtima momwe mungathere. Pambuyo pa zonse, moyo wanu sunayime pa izi ndipo zonse ziri patsogolo panu.
Nthawi zambiri, tikazindikira kuti ndife otsala okha, timayamba kukumbukira maubwenzi akale. Timayamba kukumbukira momwe tinakumana, monga nthawi yoyamba kuvomerezana wina ndi mzake m'chikondi. Timayamba kuiwala za zinthu zoipa zomwe zinali m'moyo ndipo panthawi ino tikufuna kuyitana ndi kuitanira mnzathu kuti ayambe.
Koma palibe chomwechi chingachitike. Inde, ululu ndi mantha anu ndikumverera mwachibadwa, simungathe kugawa popanda kupweteka mumtima mwanu. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti chisankho chimene munapanga pa chisudzulo chinali cholakwika. Pa nthawi zoterezi, muyenera kukumbukira zifukwa zonse zolekanitsa ndikumvetsetsa kuti mavutowa sanawonongeke. Mwamvetsa kuti ngati mutabweranso pamodzi, chilichonse chomwe sichikugwirizana ndi mnzanuyo chidzatha ndi mphamvu zatsopano ndipo padzakhala nkhawa ndi mkwiyo kuchokera pa nthawi yopuma.
Inde, pali zochitika pamoyo pamene banjali linagawanika ndipo zaka zambiri pambuyo pake adasonkhananso pamodzi ndikukhala mosangalala nthawi zonse. Koma izi zimachitika kawirikawiri m'moyo ndipo simusowa kuyembekezera kumoyo, kuti inunso muchite izi. Kwenikweni anthu amasonkhana kachiwiri kokha chifukwa patapita kanthawi amakhala osiyana kwambiri.
Musafulumire kuganiza mofulumira. Dikirani masiku angapo, mwinamwake, kukumbukira kukudutsa ndipo inu, mukumvetsa kuti moyo wanu ukuyamba. Kodi kusudzulana m'moyo wanu sikuli mapeto a dziko lapansi?
Komanso kawirikawiri amai, kuti apulumuke kusudzulana, ayambe kulowa mu ubale watsopano. Amayamba kuganiza kuti, motero, adzasiya kusungulumwa ndikupeza chithandizo. Inde, mwina izi si zoipa, koma kodi mwakonzeka kuyambitsa ubale watsopano mwamsanga? Pambuyo pake, nthawi siinadutse kuti inu muone zifukwa zonse zolekanitsa kwanu ndipo simunaganizirepo kuchokera mukuzigawa nokha. Palibe chitsimikizo kuti patapita nthawi, simudzazindikira kuti mnzanu watsopanoyo ndi makhalidwe omwe amakukhumudwitsani kwambiri mwa mwamuna wanu. Zingakhale zabwino kuti inu mufunsane ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo yemwe angakuthandizeni kumvetsa zolakwa zanu zonse zomwe mwakhala mukuchita mukwatirana ndi mwamuna wanu.
Musamadziyandikire nokha, kupyola mu chisudzulo ndikupita kuntchito. Amayi ochuluka amachitapo kanthu, poganiza kuti mwa njirayi adzatha kuthamangitsa maganizo ndi maganizo onse. Kupita kuntchito, mukhoza kudzipangitsa kukhala woipitsitsa kuposa momwe zilili. Kuyambira pa chisudzulo mkazi amatha kusokonezeka komanso kuvutika maganizo.
Kuti mupulumuke kusudzulana ndi kumvetsa kuti moyo suima pamenepo, anthu omwe akuzungulirani komanso thandizo lawo angakuthandizeni. Musawope kuti mumvetse chifundo kuchokera kwa anthu adilesi yanu. Tsopano ndi zovuta kwambiri kwa inu, koma panthawi yomweyi muyenera kudziyang'anira nokha. Patsani nthawi yopuma. Ngati mulibe chikondwerero, ndi bwino kuti muwapeze. Inu mumapita kunja ndi abwenzi ku maphwando ndi mitundu yonse ya maulendo. Ngati mutasamala nokha, ndiye kuti mwamsanga mudzafika pa mawonekedwe ndikuzindikira kuti moyo sunayime pa izi.
Muyenera, kuchokera pa chisudzulo chanu, pirira zovuta pamoyo ndikudzimvetsa nokha zolakwika zomwe simukuyenera kuzichita pamoyo wanu. Ndipo pamene mutha kumvetsa ndi kumvetsa zonse, mukhoza kuyamba moyo mwatsopano. Musawope kusintha makhalidwe anu, miyezo ya moyo, maubwenzi ndi anthu. Zokha ndi zolakwa zathu tingathe kuzindikira zolakwa zathu zonse.
Tikukhulupirira kuti mutatha kuwerenga nkhani yathu, mumatha kupulumuka kusudzulana ndikuzindikira kuti moyo sunayime pamenepo. Moyo wanu ukuyamba!