Ambiri a ife timayamba kuganiza kuti kusudzulana, ngati kukuchitika m'miyoyo yathu, kuli kofanana ndi kutaya kwakukulu, zonse zakuthupi ndi zauzimu. Popanda kufotokoza mwatsatanetsatane za nthawi ya chisudzulo, tiyeni tiyankhule za mkhalidwe wa malingaliro, omwe kawirikawiri pamakhala woterewa angatchedwe bwino kapena utawaleza. Nkhaniyi idzafotokoza momwe mungagwirizanitse gawo lanu lauzimu mutatha kupatukana, mwa kuyankhula kwina, momwe kulili kosavuta kupulumuka chisudzulo.
Choyamba, tiyenera kukumbukira kuti akazi amatha kusokonezeka kwambiri pakati pawo, amadzipangitsa kudzimva kuti ndi olakwa ndipo amatha kukhala ovuta kwambiri, zomwe zingakhale zovuta kuchotsa. Amuna, malinga ndi maganizo othandiza, amamva bwino za kuthetsa banja.
Mwachidziwikire, munthu aliyense mu mphamvu akhoza kuthana ndi mavuto a maganizo payekha, maganizo posakhalitsa amatha, ndipo moyo umakhala wamba. Komabe, chifukwa chiyani mumataya nthaŵi yambiri ndi mphamvu, pamene moyo weniweni wachiwiri aliyense ndi wokwera mtengo. Kuonjezera apo, kuvutika kwa nthawi yaitali sikungakhale kovuta kwambiri poleredwa ndi ana kapena ntchito zamalonda. Ndipo pofuna kuti munthu azikhazikitsa mtendere wake, chithandizo cha katswiri wamaganizo-katswiri wa maganizo angakhale othandiza kwambiri. Malangizo ake kapena njira zina zamaganizo zidzakuthandizani kuti muzolowere moyo watsopano mofulumira, ndipo mwinamwake, mukhazikitse ubale wolimba ndi woona mtima ndi mnzanu watsopano.
Pambuyo pa kusudzulana, munthu sayenera kudzipangitsa okha, kuyendetsa zochitika izi mu kuya kwa chikumbumtima chawo. Pano, mungathe kupereka mphepo kumtima kwanu - mungathe kukwiya, kulira, kuyera, motero mudzatsanulira maganizo kunja kwa dziko lapansi, ndipo musadye mkhalidwe wanu wamkati. Gawani zochitika ndi okondedwa anu, abwenzi, malo anu, izi sizidzawonekera mwa iwo ngati zodandaula kuchokera kumbali yanu, koma mosiyana ndi inu mukhoza kupatsidwa uphungu wabwino. Pezani chinthu chokoma kwa inu nokha - kupita ku mafilimu, masewero, kusamalira zomwe mumazikonda, mwachikondi, kumangokhalira kukhumudwitsa. Chinthu chachikulu chomwe sichiyenera kukhala pakhomo, mwachinsinsi mwa kutseka vuto lanu, mumangowonjezera maganizo anu. Musagwire ntchito mwakhama zomwe zingakufunitseni kuvutika maganizo, chifukwa kusasinthasintha maganizo kwanu sikungakulepheretseni kugonjetsa ntchitoyi kungangowonjezera vutoli.
Kupatukana nthawi zambiri kumakhala ndi chikhumbo chofuna kubwezera. Mwachitsanzo, mukufuna kutsutsa anzanu a mnzanu, bweretsani mnzanu wapamtima ndi mucks, funsani miseche zazomwe mumakonda pamoyo wanu ndikusintha chifukwa chake mukugawana naye. Komabe, izi sizingakupangitseni zinthu kukhala zosavuta kwa inu, popeza anzanu omwe ali nawo kale ali ndi zambiri zoti amve za inu panthawi ya chisudzulo, pambali pa kusonyeza kuti simukugwirizana kwambiri ndi ena, vuto lanu lidzangowonjezera. Pewani kufotokozera za kale lomwe ndikuyamba kupanga moyo wanu watsopano.
Kuwonjezera apo, kubwezera yekha sikubweretsere aliyense thandizo lomwe akufuna. Kuchititsa ululu kwa munthu wina, sitidzakwatulidwa. Ndipo potsutsana ndi vuto lamkati la maganizo, kubwezera kudzakuchititsani kudandaula kwambiri, kukulitsa kale vuto lalikulu.
Nzeru yanzeru imatiuza - "mphete yodula". Pankhaniyi, si zoona. Musayang'ane m'malo mwa mnzanuyo masiku oyambirira mutatha kusudzulana. Mwinamwake mungathe kuvulaza maubwenzi oterewa nokha ndi mnzanu watsopano. Mabuku ochepa awa, kukonda ena, kachiwiri, kumangowonjezera moto ndipo sikungayambitse kuganiza bwino.
Dikirani kanthawi pang'ono mpaka mkhalidwe wanu waumphawi ukhale wosasunthika, ndipo kuwawa ndi kutayika kwa mnzanu wakale kumachotsa ndikusunga chikumbumtima chosasangalatsa. Ndiye mudzakhala wokonzeka kumanga ubale watsopano ndi wachiwawa ndi munthu wina. Amayi ambiri nthawi zambiri amakwatira kapena kukwatira kapena kukwatiwa, asanakumanepo, pomwe zolakwitsa zimakhala zolakwika, monga momwe tafotokozera mobwerezabwereza kuti kupuma kwa maganizo kumatenga nthawi. Mkwatibwi woterowo nthawi zambiri udzapambana ndipo chifukwa cha zochita zoterezi zidzangodzifikitsa ku boma komwe katswiri wa zamaganizo sangakuthandizeni, chifukwa kudandaula mobwerezabwereza kudzakhudza thanzi lanu.
Yesetsani kuvomereza zochitika zatsopano msanga, kupeza zofuna zatsopano. Ngati n'kotheka, yonjezani bwalo loyankhulana, dziwani kuti malo anu atsopano a mwamuna kapena mkazi wosudzulana siwopsya. Munthu ali wamakani. Nthawi zambiri timakana kukana zomwe ziri, mmalo mwake timapitirizabe kusintha chinachake m'moyo, mwinamwake kuti tibwererenso zakale, tikuwona kuti "pano ndi tsopano" ndizoipa chabe. Kulimbana ndi moyo kuchokera kumbali imeneyi n'kovuta kuwongolera mkhalidwewo. Pa nthawi ya kusudzulana, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti kusungulumwa komweko kumakhala ndi ubwino wake. Muli ndi nthawi yosinkhasinkha zochita zapitazo, mwina kuti mupeze mayankho a mafunso otere: "Ndine yani?" Ndipo "Ndikufuna chiyani?", Kuti ndizindikire zosowa zanga, kuti ndikhale munthu wodziimira.