Nthawi zambiri anthu amatha kusudzulana ndi osiyana. Akazi ambiri amapezekanso mfundo zatsopano zothandizira, kuti azindikire zofuna zawo pankhani ya ubale ndi banja lawo. Pambuyo pake, mabanja nthawi zambiri amagwa chifukwa mkazi amasungunuka kwambiri mu moyo wa munthu. Ndipo chikondi chake chimakhala chowawa kwa khosi, zomwe zimapangitsa munthuyo mwachibadwa kufunafuna kuchotsa.
Amuna atatha kusudzulana amakhala ovuta kupeza okha muzochita zamakono kapena ntchito. Pambuyo pa mkazi wosakondedwa ndi zilakolako zake ndi zakuthupi zidakalipo kale, munthu akhoza kuyesetsa kuchita bwino mmadera osiyanasiyana. Ndiponsotu, palibe wina amene angamunyoze chifukwa chosalandira ndalama zokwanira, ndipo akhoza kuikapo pangozi, mwachitsanzo, kupanga malonda ake, kupanga ndalama zake zotsiriza ndikudzitsutsa yekha kwa miyezi ingapo ya moyo wa njala.
Chilichonse chomwe chinali, dziwani nokha mutatha kusudzulidwa ndi amuna ndi akazi. Ngakhale kuti kusudzulana kumapweteka anthu ambiri, ndipo ndizochitika zoopsa kwambiri, ndikofunikira kumvetsa kuti kusudzulana ndi mwayi wopeza zatsopano zogwiritsa ntchito khama. Iyi ndi mwayi woyesa kalembedwe katsopano pachibwenzi. Uwu ndi mwayi wochita zomwe mumakonda kwambiri zomwe mnzanuyo sakonda. Izi, potsiriza, ndi mwayi watsopano wopezera chibwenzi choyenera, chomwe chili chofunikira kwambiri.
Chinthu chachikulu chimene muyenera kudziwa ngati mwangosudzulana, kapena pafupi kuthetsa banja, ndiye njira zenizeni zothetsera mavuto osokoneza bongo, zomwe zimachitika pafupifupi pafupifupi anthu onse omwe adabzalidwa. Ndipo zomwe zikhoza kutchulidwa ndi gulu la zochitika zachilendo ndi zachilendo.
Choyamba, musayese yatsopano ndi kuvulala kokalamba. Tengani nthawi ndi mwayi kutaya maganizo onse olakwika. Mukhoza kulira, mutha kuchita nawo maseŵera, kulankhula muzokambirana ndi anzanu ndi abwenzi. Mulimonsemo, yesetsani kuchepetsa kulemera kwa zochitika zoyipa pambuyo pa chisudzulo.
Chachiwiri, kupambana pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndizosatheka, ngati mukuyesera kubwezeretsa mkazi kapena kuyesetsa kukhala naye paubwenzi. Mumupatse kuti achoke. Ndipo ngati mumakhala pafupi ndi wina ndi mzake ndipo muli ndi bizinesi kapena ana, yesetsani kanthawi kuti muime onse omwe sali okhudzidwa ndi izi zowonjezereka - mwa makalata, ndi ICQ, mwa foni. Poyesera kulimbitsa maubwenzi osokonezeka mosalekeza, mumangowonjezera nthawi yachisokonezo chachikulu ndi kukulitsa zotsatira zoopsa za chisudzulo.
Chachitatu, kusudzulana ngati vuto lina lililonse ndi mwayi wokonzanso moyo wanu. Zomwe mungachite bwino mutatha kusudzulana ndikudzipeza nokha - izi sizomwe zilibe funso lopanda kanthu, zomwe zimafuna njira yowonongeka. Akatswiri otsogolera antchito akhala akudziwika kuti anthu omwe amapita kuntchito amatha kuchita izi pamalo omwe amakwaniritsa zofuna zawo komanso maloto awo. Tiyerekeze kuti munakakamizika kugwira ntchito monga auntiant musanachotse banja, popeza ntchitoyi ikuthandizani kuti muyime mwamphamvu, kudyetsa banja lanu, galu, ndikupatseni mwayi wothamangitsa galimoto kuti mupite ku dacha ndikupita ku Turkey kamodzi pa chaka kukapuma. Ndipo mu mtima mwanu mwakhala mukulakalaka kukhala stylist. Kusudzulana ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri yogwedezeka ndikuyesera kuchita zomwe mwakhala mukulakalaka. Pali stylists zabwino zochepa kusiyana ndi owerengetsa zabwino. Mwinanso chifukwa anthu ambiri monga inu, kwa nthawi yayitali, akuwopa kuyesa ntchito zamakono, amanyazidwe kugwira ntchito monga freelancer. Koma ngati mukufunadi, ndizomveka kuti muthe kumbali iliyonse. Ndipo gawo lomwe liri pafupi kwambiri ndi zofuna zanu nthawi zambiri ndilo fungulo la golide la kupambana kwa ntchito. Komanso, ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti munthu akhale wachimwemwe. Pezani ndalama pa zomwe mumakonda kuchita - kodi sizomwe zikuchitika pafupifupi aliyense wokhala padziko lapansi? Tsoka, koma nthawi zambiri okwatirana amathetsana maloto. Ndipo atatha chisudzulo, aliyense wa iwo amapeza mwayi wochita zinthu zomwe zikugwirizana ndi maloto ake ndi zilakolako zake.
Ndipo, potsiriza, chachinayi. Pambuyo pokhala ndi mtunda wokondana ndi wokondedwa wanu, mumataya mtima ndikudzipeputsanso ntchito yowonjezera, ndi nthawi yoti mutenge moyo wanu. Musagwedeze dzanja lanu ndi mwayi woti muyambenso banja. Kaŵirikaŵiri pambuyo pa kusudzulana, amuna ndi akazi amalumbirira okha kuti sadzanena konse za ukwati. Ndipo ndikudzipangitsa kukhala wosungulumwa, tikuyang'ana anthu okondweretsa komanso odalirika. Koma kuti zinthu zizikuyenderani bwino ndipo simungathe kupambana m'moyo wanu - zinthu zomwe sizigwirizana. Chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsa kuti chisudzulo chanu chakupatsani mwayi wodabwitsa. Anakupatsani inu mwayi kuti mupeze zatsopano, zomwe poyamba sizinkagwirizana ndi munthu wapamtima kapena achibale ake. Ndipo pambali pake, kuthetsa ukwati ndi mwayi wokhala oyenerera kwambiri komanso mumzimu, komanso m'chifanizo cha malingaliro, komanso muzofunikira za wokondedwa.