Zikuwoneka kuti onse anakonza! Monga akatswiri a matchmakers, amayendayenda pozungulira inu, kutamanda munthu wina kapena wina wodzitcha dzanja lanu ndi mtima. Tidzatha kudziwa kuti anzathu, achibale ndi abwenzi angakuthandizeni bwanji kuti musangalale. Kodi ndizofunikira kupita nawo pa phunziroli ndi chiyembekezo chotani kwa munthu wotereyu?
Zolinga zamagulu
Ngati inu ndi anzanu ndi banja limodzi lalikulu, ndiye kuti muyenera kukhala okonzekera kuti anzanu akuyeseni kukupezani awiri ndipo izi zikhoza kukhala njira yabwino kuti mukwatirane.
Zotsatira. Mwayi wakuti kusankha kwawo kudzakhala koyenera, ndizotsika kwambiri. Izi ndi chifukwa chakuti ogwira nawo ntchito alibe chidwi chenicheni pa banja lanu. Kwa iwo, ndizo "ntchito yofooka," chidwi cha masewera. Ndipo ngati ziri choncho, ndiye kuti simuyenera kuwatsutsa kuti ndi opindulitsa. Anzako amangowapeza pakati pa omwe amadziwa amuna osakwatiwa a msinkhu woyenera ndikupanga zikhalidwe kuti azidziwana bwino ndi kuyankhulana. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti iwo sangathe kuyika maganizo awo pa inu.
Wotsutsa. Mfundo imene anzanu akudziŵa za moyo wanu si nthawi zonse zabwino. Anthu achisoni sadzalephera kunena kuti: "Inu muli ndi chikondi chimodzi m'mutu mwanu!" Mwayi wodziwa bwino ndi pafupifupi 60%.
Maganizo okoma
Makolo, alongo ndi abambo ake amakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri kuti mupite kwa atsikana, chifukwa izi zimagwira ntchito kwa iwo enieni. Inu mumapanga mthunzi pa mbiri ya banja.
"Popeza palibe womkwatira, zikutanthauza kuti pali chinachake chodetsedwa. Kodi anthu anganene chiyani? "- za maganizo amenewa nthawi zina amabereka" gawo "la chidziwitso chawo.
Zotsatira. Achibale akulimbikitsidwa ndi zolinga zabwino, chifukwa amakufunirani zabwino zokha, - komanso, monga akumvetsetsa. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo akukufunani mkwati sizowopsya, koma ali ndi chitetezo chachuma, chuma, chosasangalatsa, opanda zizoloŵezi zoipa. Ndipo kwenikweni kuchokera m'banja lokoma, makamaka bwino. Kawirikawiri izi zikufanana ndi maukwati a ndale a mafumu achifumu.
Pezani njira yabwino yokwatira. Pachifukwa ichi, sikutanthauza kuthetsa mgwirizano pakati pa mayiko, koma za kupanga mabwenzi ndi anansi m'dzikoli kapena ndi banja la bwenzi langa lakale. Ndipo pazifukwa zina abwenzi a makolo nthawizonse amakhala chidendene cha anyamata "okwatirana" - wina ndi mnzake ndi wosangalatsa kwambiri. Monga lamulo, achibale amalingalira molakwika mwamuna woyenera kwa inu, ndipo uwu ndi mtsutso wofunika kwambiri pa odziwa nawo omwe akufuna. Mwayi wodziwa bwino ndi pafupifupi 20%.
Kupatsa kwaulere
Amzanga omwe ndi achibale awo amakukondani moyo wanu wokondwa. Zoonadi, ndithudi. Koma kodi muli otsimikiza za anzanu onse?
Zotsatira. Anzanu aakazi amadziwa mabuku anu onse ndipo amaganiza bwino kuti mumakonda anthu otani - blondes kapena brunettes, oonda kapena amphamvu. Kuonjezera apo, amadziwa khalidwe lanu ndi khalidwe lanu, komanso zokonda ndi zokonda, mosiyana ndi achibale omwe amakuonani monga akufunira. Chifukwa chake, amamvetsetsa bwino omwe mungathe kukhala nawo, kupeza kumvetsetsa, zofunikirako komanso nkhani zokambirana.
Wotsutsa. Osati mkazi aliyense, makamaka ngati sanakwatirane, ali wokonzeka kufotokozera bwenzi lake kwa mnyamata wokongola, chifukwa ndiye adzayenera kutulutsa mndandanda wa mafanizi ake.
Komanso, akufuna kuti iwe ukhale wosungulumwa - awiriwa "osadziwidwa" sikumvetsa chisoni. Iye akhoza kukutsutsani inu kuchokera ku "mwamsanga" sitepe. Choncho, abwenzi anu ndi okondweretsa kukupatsani chisoni ndikupatsani uphungu ufulu wa "odziwa bwino" kuposa kuitanira ku kampani kumene kuli anthu ambiri. Mwayi wodziwa bwino ndi pafupifupi 40%.
Kuwoneka kwa amuna
Mfundo yakuti mukuyesera kulengeza munthu, palibe chachilendo. Zoyimira zofanana zowonongeka tsopano ndi zosawerengeka, ndipo ufulu wa kusankha nthawizonse umakhalabe kwa inu. Kodi izi zingakhale zabwino? Inde! Kuonjezera apo, kuntchito ndi kuntchito, komwe mumakhala nthawi zambiri, simukuvomerezedwa kuti mudziwe zolinga zaukwati, ndipo nthawi zambiri simufika kumalo ena. Ndiye bwanji osanyalanyaza mwayi wokambirana ndi mwamuna? Pazovuta kwambiri, mudzadya chakudya cha wina aliyense ndikuphunzira zina zatsopano zamakono, zandale kapena masewera. Pa zabwino zake, mudzapeza chikondi. Palinso njira yachitatu ya njira yabwino yokwatira: mwinamwake mwamuna adzakhala ngakhale sali msilikali wanu, koma mnzanu wokondweretsa, ndipo nthawi sizikuwoneka kuti zasokonekera kwa inu.
Inde, palibe chitsimikizo kuti mudzakhala ndi mwayi: Wosankhidwa pa dzanja lanu ndi mtima adzakhala oyenera, msonkhano sudzakhala wokhawokha, mudzakwatirana, kubereka gulu la ana a angelo, kukhala mosangalala nthawi zonse, ndikufa tsiku limodzi. Mu moyo, palibe zitsimikizo zoterozo. Ndikofunika kuyesa! Ngati munthu yemwe ali "woo", amachititsa kuti adzikhulupirire komanso amakulemekezani, pitani kumudziwa bwino ntchito yake, koma musamadye ziwonetsero zazikulu ...
Maganizo a akazi
Ngati udindo wa ophatikizana umatengedwa ndi abwenzi anu abambo, iyi ndi nkhani yosiyana. Kwa iwo, muli ngati mlongo wamng'ono, amene akufuna kutetezedwa ndi kutetezedwa. Ngati akuyesera kukupezani mwamuna, wolembayo sangawoneke pang'ono: mtengo wake wamtundu, zolembera ndi zotsatira za mayesero zidzaphunziridwa pa microscope. Ngati mnyamata angakukhumudwitseni pang'ono, ndiye kuti, mwachangu akuchotsani moyo wanu. Potero, mwayi wanu wokwatira mokwatirana ndi kuthandizidwa ndi abwenzi aamuna ndi ochepa, koma ... Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti bwenzi limatembenuka kukhala mwamuna. Ndikofunika kuona m'maso mwake chidwi chanu monga mkazi pakapita nthawi. Yang'anani pafupi ndi malo oyandikana nawo: mwinamwake abwenzi ali achisoni kwambiri ndi mafanizi anu chifukwa iwo eniake akufuna kukhala nawo?
Pamene munthu akufuna kukonza moyo wake, koma samathandizidwa ndi magulu a chibwenzi kapena mabungwe okwatirana, akutembenukira ku masewera.
"Pa tsiku loyamba, musamalankhule zambiri za inu nokha, mvetserani mwatsatanetsatane." Pezani zomwe akufuna, zomwe akulota, zomwe akufuna. "
"Posachedwa ndinawulukira ku Kazan ... Ndinazindikira kuti pa anthu 400 ali ndi akazi khumi okha." Pano pali Klondike kwa akwatibwi! "
Pezani mnzanu wapamtima ndi ovuta: Paunyamata wawo, chikondi chimagunda pamphepete ndipo zikuwoneka kuti zonse zidakalipo, ndipo patapita zaka khumi mumadziwa kuti pali amuna ambiri opanda ufulu, koma mwa njira ina akuyang'ana kale.
Pofunafuna theka lachiwiri, zonse zimadalira ife poyamba. "Msika wa" mkwatibwi "ndi wotchuka ndi achinyamata ndi okongola - ndi choonadi ichi.
Ndipo ngati muli ndi zaka zoposa 40, mudzafunika kuphunzira ndi makhalidwe omwe ali - chikazi, chipiriro, nzeru. Malingana ndi chiwerengero, pali kusiyana kwa mabanja pakati pa maiko a Soviet kuposa maukwati, kutanthauza kuti pali amuna ambiri omasuka. Ndizoti iwo akusowa njira yolondola. Wotopa - wachisokoneza, wokhutira ndi wopambana - mvetserani ndi kuyamikira. Koma anthu ambiri sadziwa kumvetsera. Zowonjezera, zokambirana zimamangidwa monga izi:
- Ndili ndi maphunziro azachuma ...
- Ndili ndi ziwiri ndipo posachedwa ndidzakhala ndi maganizo.
- Ndikugwira ntchito monga mtsogoleri ...
- Ndipo ndine woyang'anira wamkulu. Pambuyo pake, amuna amakhala pantchito kosatha. "
Kodi mungadziŵe bwanji?
Wamaseweramino wamasiku ano sali ngati heroine wa Natalia Gundareva kuchokera ku filimu "Lonely hostel inaperekedwa." Lero, akufuna kukwatira, amabwera ku ofesi ya masewera ku ofesi ndikupanga mgwirizano ndi iye. "Kwa chaka chimodzi," Rosa akuti, "mumadziwa kuti mgwirizano watenga nthawi yaitali bwanji ndi wothandizila." "Kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yoyambirira, timaphunzitsa akazi njira zosiyanasiyana, timapanga luso loyankhulana, ndikukonzekera misonkhano." Mwachidziwikire, timayesetsa kuti amayi azipeza chimwemwe chawo, koma ndi awiri okha omwe amakwatira. "
Zifukwa za kulephera
"Palibenso anthu opanda chiyembekezo, ndikulephera kukawona vutoli kapena kugwira nawo ntchito," anatero Syabitova. "Mwachitsanzo, ndingathe kubweretsa nkhani ya mkazi." Posakhalitsa anadziwa nzeru yolankhulirana, koma ulendo wake wonse unatha.
Pamene aliyense kasitomala amatsogolera zomwe zimatchedwa zolemba, zomwe zimafotokoza zonse zomwe zimachitika pazinthu, zomwe anthu amalankhula, momwe amachitira, ndi zina zotero, ndinaganiza zowona nkhani za misonkhano yake. Zinapezeka kuti mu kufotokozera kwake palibe mawu amodzi okhudza amuna omwe anakumana nawo. Ndinamufunsa tsiku lina kuti am'peze mwamunayo chinthu chinachake chokoma - maso, mphuno, kumwetulira, njira yolankhulira kapena kuvala, chinthu china. Tsoka, koma sakanakhoza kuchita izo. Kenaka ndinazindikira kuti izi zinali mavuto ake, omwe katswiri wina ayenera kugwira ntchito.
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M'badwo sumawerengera
Koma pali nkhani zambiri ndi mapeto osangalatsa. Mwachitsanzo, takhala tikugwira ntchito kwa nthawi yaitali ndi mayi yemwe anali ndi zaka zoposa 50.