Kuwotcha ndi kugonana - kale ndi lero

Ukwati ndi chimodzi mwa zochitika zochititsa chidwi kwambiri pamoyo wa munthu aliyense. Koma osati maukwati a ukwati okha, maluwa, mphatso, maphwando omwe amapita nawo. Miyambo ndi miyambo imatsindika kufunika kwa chichitidwe ichi. Inde, ambiri a iwo atayika, kapena pang'onopang'ono amataya tanthauzo lake. Chitsimikizo chowonekera cha ichi ndi mwambo wa matchmaking.
Mwambo waukwati wa makolo athu unali wofunikira kwambiri, ndipo unali sitepe yoyamba pachiyambi cha moyo pamodzi. M'masiku amenewo, kugwirizanitsa masewera kunachitika patapita masiku ena: Lachinayi, Lachinayi kapena Lamlungu. Ndipo tsiku loikidwa, monga njira yopita kunyumba ya mtsikanayo, linasungidwa mwachinsinsi chachikulu. Okonzekera apamwamba a mwambowu anali opanga masewera ndi matchmakers. Udindo wa wochita masewerawa unali mu kusankha kwa mkwatibwi. Iye ankadziwa zonse osati za banja lake, dowry, komanso za chikhalidwe, zizolowezi za mkazi wokhalapo. Okonza, monga lamulo, anasankhidwa kuchokera kwa achibale a mkwati mtsogolo.

Mwambo waukwati unali ndi miyambo yambiri, mwachitsanzo, ochita masewerawa apita ku chipata cha msungwana kupita kumalo ake, posachedwa ukwatiwo uchitika. Komanso kunali kosatheka kukhala pamsonkhanowu, mwinamwake msungwanayo sakangokwatirana kumene.

Kawirikawiri kuyambira pa nthawi yoyamba a matchmakers sanagwirizane ndi makolo awo, zomwe sizikutanthauza kukana - zinali zosayenera kuti nthawi yomweyo agwirizane ndi ukwati. Ophatikizanawo anatumizidwa kachiwiri, ndipo ngakhale nthawi yachitatu. Ngati mkwati sakusangalala, ndiye kuti sizinali zotheka kukana ochita masewero muwonekedwe lakuthwa. Adaitanitsa zifukwa zambiri, mwachitsanzo, amatchula kuti mtsikana akadakali wamng'ono kapena kuti dowry sikokwanira.

Pambuyo pokonza maseŵerawo, makolo awo onse awiri adakambirana za tsiku laukwati, ndalama, dowry ndi okwatirana okwatirana, ndipo adayendera nyumba ya mkwati, kumene zonse zinatha pakhomo.

Koma lero mwambo waukwati sulinso ndi tanthauzo lozama ngati poyamba, ndilo kupereka msonkho kwa miyambo, chifukwa achinyamata adasankha kukwatirana, kuika tsiku, kupanga mndandanda wa alendo, kusankha komwe ukwati udzakhala, ndi zina zotero. Kuyimira masewerowa pakali pano kungakhoze kuchitika zonse popanda kutenga nawo mbali matchmakers kwa mtsikanayo ndi mnyamatayo, ndipo ndi iwo. Kawirikawiri masewera a matchmaking ndi awa: Achinyamata akukonzekera kukwatira, ndiye mkwati abwera kunyumba ya mkwatibwi ndikumufunsa kuti akufunse makolo ake, koma nkhani zokhudzana ndi bungwe zimathetsedwa nthawi yomweyo makolo atadziwa mkwati ndi mkwatibwi. Izi zikutanthauza kuti nthawi zambiri, masewera a masewera a masewerawa sapezeka patali ndipo pali chikhalidwe chimodzi chokha.

Koma ngati matchmakers alowe mu bizinesi: anthu okondwa sali ovuta, ndiye chikhalidwe ichi chimasandulika mwambo wokondwa ndi wosagwirizana. Zaka zapitazo, pakhomo la nyumba, kulira: "Iwe uli ndi katundu, tili ndi malonda; Iwe uli ndi msungwana, ife tiri naye munthu wabwino; Tili ndi fungulo, muli ndi thumba. " Motero, alendo nthawi yomweyo amauza makolo za cholinga chawo. Okonza amayamba kutamanda "wamalonda", akumuuza za zosangalatsa zake, ntchito, chitukuko, mapulani a tsogolo. Ukwati wa mkwatibwi - kutamandidwa kwa "katundu", umapezeka mumlengalenga ofanana ndi omasuka ndi omasuka. Inde, sizichita popanda mafunso ovuta omwe mkwati ndi mkwatibwi sanakambirane.

Kuti mawonetsero a masewera azitsatira chigamulo cha makolo, omwe, ndithudi, avomereza kupereka chibwenzi chake pachikwati.

Maseŵerawa ankatsatiridwa ndi chibwenzi chochitidwa m'nyumba ya mkwatibwi, kumene achibale ndi anzawo a mbali zonse ziwiri anaitanidwa. Wosankhidwa adapatsa mtsikana mpheteyo ndi mwala. Abambo a Mkwatibwi adalengeza ukwati umene ukubwerawo ndipo tsiku lenileni linali kale. Pambuyo pa zokambiranazo, achinyamatawo amaonedwa ngati mkwati ndi mkwatibwi. Imeneyi ndi imodzi mwa nthawi zowonongeka kwambiri, zisanachitike ukwati.

Monga mwambo wotsutsa ulipo ndipo tsopano. Kokha, ndithudi, mwambo uwu unakhala wovomerezeka kwambiri, ndipo umayang'ana kwa iwo ngati mwambo wokongola. Lero ndilo tsiku lolemba ntchito ndipo palinso mtundu wamwano umene umapatsa achinyamata miyezi iŵiri kuti asankhe zochita komaliza kapena ayi.