Zovuta zimatilepheretsa kukhala ndi moyo - izi ndizosakayikira. Koma momwe mungapiririre nazo? Ndipo choyamba muyenera kuyang'ana mzu wa vuto kuti muthe kuthetsa zotsatira zake. Nanga, kodi maofesi a amunawa akugwirizana ndi chiwerewere?
1. "Sindipeza ndalama zokwanira"
Mwatsoka, lero solvency yamwamuna imayesedwa ndi kupezeka kwa ndalama. Uwu ndi mwayi wokhala ndi galimoto yamtengo wapatali kapena chikondi cha mkazi, kapena makadi angati a ngongole, kapena malo ogulitsa nyumba ku Ulaya ndi zina zotero. Komabe, kawirikawiri munthu amadzifunsa yekha funso lakuti: "Kodi chinthu chofunika kwambiri pamoyo ndi chiyani, ndimagwiritsa ntchito ndalama?".
Yankho lake si lophweka, koma kulingalira mozama kungakhale kodabwitsa. Nthawi zina munthu amaiwala kuti anthu omwe amamuzungulira sakonda ndalama zokha. Amakhalanso okoma mtima, osamala, oyambirira, kuseketsa - zonse zomwe angathe kukhala nazo zochuluka. Mwamuna ayenera kudziwa ndendende mphamvu zake, ndipo chifukwa chake amamukonda. Ndiye sangavutike chifukwa cha kusowa panthawiyi.
2. "Sindili Casanova ndipo osati Don Juan, sindingathe kawiri pa usiku." Kotero ndine wopanda mphamvu? "
Zingakhale zopusa kuganiza kuti kupanda mphamvu ndi chifukwa chakuti timadya kapena kukhala moyandikana ndi mbewu yovulaza. Kupanda mphamvu - kubwereranso ku gawo loyamba la kugonana, pamene munthu amakhala ndi amayi ake. Kuphatikizapo nthano zambiri zokhudzana ndi kugonana: "Ndili ndi mbolo yaing'ono, sindingathe kawiri pa usiku." Zotsutsana zoterezi zimapangitsa kuti anthu omwe sakhala ndi nthawi 25 usiku angadzione ngati opanda mphamvu: "Ngati sindingathe kuchita izi, ndiye kuti sindili bwino, choncho ndikulakwitsa." Kotero, sindiri ngati wina aliyense. Zikutanthauza kuti sangandikonde. " Komanso, ngati mwamunayo akudziwika ndi kugonana ndi moyo wake wonse, mosamala kuti adziŵe mbiri ya wochita masewera, posakhalitsa amatha kugwidwa ndi mantha ena: "Ndikalamba, sinditha kugonana, sindileka kugonana." Uyu ndiye wodalirika wamkulu wokhudzidwa maganizo - woyamba kulephera komweku pa bedi kumapangitsa mwana wa playboy kukhala wopanda mphamvu kwenikweni.
3. "Ndikhoza kukhala wotsimikizika"
Mkazi yemwe ali ndi chidziwitso chochuluka mwa chilengedwe angathandize kwenikweni ndi uphungu, kumvetsera, kunena, kuthandizira. Koma zotsutsana monga "Mwamuna samalira, amakhumudwa," "mwamuna sayenera kufotokoza maganizo ake," kuyankhulana kosatheka. Munthu wochenjera adzapeza njira yolandirira uphungu wa mkazi wake, wopusa - adzavutika chifukwa cha mantha a "nkhuku".
Inde, pali akazi ngati amuna omwe ali ndi "paddle" (ndipafupi ndi iwo, monga lamulo, munthu wosakanikira) - koma kale ndi "ubale wamwamuna" wamwamuna, ndipo amawoneka mofanana, motero. Koma ngati tikulankhula za anthu awiri ofanana, za ubale wa "mwamuna ndi mkazi", mkazi ayenera kumvetsera mwamuna wake ndikumuthandiza kuthana ndi mavuto ambiri.
Njira yabwino yothetsera vuto la "podkabluchnoy" - osamvetsera maganizo a anthu. Munthu ayenera kusankha yekha: "Kodi ndikukhala moyo wanga kapena moyo wanga."
Zili zovuta kuti tisaganize ndi zomwe anthu ena akuganiza komanso maganizo awo, koma ntchitoyi siyiyenera "kufa" chifukwa cha maganizo a anthu komanso kuti asaike moyo wanu pansi payekha, koma kuganizira ndi kuyesa: "Chifukwa chiyani ndi chifukwa chiyani? " Munthu adayenera kudziganizira yekha.
4. "Ndili ndi msinkhu waung'ono, ndipo, chifukwa chake, membala wamng'ono"
Mwamuna nthawi zambiri amadandaula za kulemala. Koma imodzi mwa maofesiwa ndi poizoni moyo, ndipo ena amakhala anthu odalirika chifukwa cha izo (ndikwanira kukumbukira Napoleon).
Tikukula chifukwa chakuti tili ndi mikangano ya mkati. Munthu nthawi zonse ali ndi kusankha. Ena amamanga ntchito zawo pazofooka zawo, ena amayamba kumwa mowa, akudziyesa okha kuwononga ena, ndi zina zotero. Kumvetsetsa kuti kusokonekera kwapadera kuchoka ku zachilendo sizomwe zimadziwika pa chiyanjano ndi umboni wa kukula kwa munthuyo. Maluso ndi kulemba ndi kuyandikira mu kuyandikana kwapafupi, nzeru zamdziko ndi kumvetsa kwaumunthu zimabwera patsogolo.
5. "Sindikunyozedwa, ndine wongopeka"
Pamtima wa matenda ovuta awa - amakhalanso osakhazikika, osadziwika. Ku Russia, vutoli ndi lofala, chifukwa munthu wathu sagwiritsidwa ntchito pomvera bwana. Mwachitsanzo, kwa Achimereka, izi sizichitika, sizimangochitika kwa iwo kuti azindikire malamulo a akulu awo. Ngati simukuganiziridwa kuntchito, njira yowonjezera ndiyokusintha malo a ntchito ndi bwana. Koma nthawi zambiri munthu sangasinthe ntchito. Adzapeza ubale ndi utsogoleri wake, akudziyesa wokhala wodziwa bwino, atapachikidwa pa vuto ngati khanda.