Amuna mwachikhalidwe sizinthu zakuthupi. Zili zomveka, cholinga chawo chachikulu ndicho kupanga zisankho ndikugwira ntchito. Kawirikawiri, zomwe iwo amatha kuwonetsa malingaliro - ndizomveka kufotokoza malingaliro awo za tsitsi lanu latsopano, iwo amati, izo zimapita kwathunthu. Mwamuna amasankha kudziletsa yekha ku chiganizo chimodzi ndipo osalowa mu zovuta zamakono zomwe nthawi zina mumazifuna. Koma, mwinamwake, sakudziwa momwe zingakhalire zabwino kuti mutsegule maganizo ake ndi malingaliro ake? Yesetsani kumuphunzitsa kuti afotokoze zomwe zikuwoneka zophweka ndi zachilengedwe kwa inu, chinachake chimene iye samangokhala chete, poopa kuyang'ana wofooka ndi wachikazi.
Mayi ndi mwamuna: mumamva - amaganiza.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amadziwa bwino chifukwa chachikulu chimene amuna sangathe kufotokozera momwe akumvera mkazi. Ndikumverera kwina kulikonse. Izi zikhoza kumveka mosavuta panthawi yowunika kanema. Ngati chiwonongeko chake chikudandaula mosayembekezereka, ndiye kuti mzimayiyo amavomereza momveka bwino kuti ali wokhumudwa, wokhumudwa kapena wosasangalatsa kuona mapeto otere. Mzimayi amalankhula momasuka za zomwe akumva, osati zomwe akuganiza. Mwamunayo mwamsanga anagwidwa mu ndemanga ndi mayankho: "mapeto sakudziwika bwino" kapena "filimuyo ndi yosangalatsa, koma zonsezo zinatha mwanjira ina yopanda nzeru." Kodi mumadziwa mau ndi malingaliro oterowo? Inde, mwamuna kuyambira ubwana amayenera kufotokoza malingaliro ake, apatseni chirichonse kuwunika, kufufuza zonse ndikuyerekeza chirichonse. Chimodzimodzinso ndi ubale wanu. Iye adzawawerengera iwo mwa "zoipa" ndi "zabwino." Mwamuna mwa chilengedwe amalingalira ndi kusanthula, ndipo mkazi_momwemo akumverera. Chifukwa chake, amai nthawi zambiri amakhala mogwirizana ndi malingaliro awo, ndi kosavuta kuti ayanjane ndi anthu osiyanasiyana. Mukhoza kuuza mnzanu mosavuta kuti: "Ndiwe mtsikana wabwino bwanji! Ndikukukondani kwambiri! ". Ndipo ngati munthu yemweyo adzamuuza bwenzi lake? Kodi tingamuyitane pambuyo pake? Choncho musananene kuti munthu amene mumamukonda samunena zakukhosi kwake, ganizirani za zochitika za anthu athu.
Maphunziro a amuna ndi akazi ndi osiyana kwambiri. Kusiyana kwakukulu kuli mu zolinga zosiyanasiyana za moyo ndi zofunika. Azimayi amalandira kulera, poyamba sanaganizire kwenikweni kuti apambane ndi kukula kwa ntchito. Ndi chifukwa chake amakhala omasuka pofotokozera mmene amamvera. Mwamuna amaphunzitsidwa kuyambira msinkhu kuti afotokoze momveka bwino ndi malingaliro ake ndikumapita ku zosafunika. Mayi kuyambira ali wakhanda amauza mnyamata kuti: "Usalire - ndiwe mwamuna! "Monga ngati sangathe kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa ndikumva ululu ... Chifukwa chake, munthu wachikulire safotokoza maganizo ake, kuti asawoneke ngati wofooka.
Ziri zoonekeratu kuti mkazi sagwira nawo ntchito yomenyana nayo, yomwe nthawi zonse imawonekera kumudzi wa amuna enieni. Ndipo, mofananamo, kupanga mgwirizano wokondweretsa pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi si malo otetezera mpikisano ndi kupeza yemwe ali wofunika chinachake. Anthu amakhala pamodzi chifukwa cha chikondi, chomwe chiyenera kuphunzitsa munthu kuti afotokoze bwino.
Khalani wothandizira maganizo.
Musanayambe kukhala naye kwa wokondedwa wanu ndi kumuphunzitsa kuti asonyeze malingaliro anu payekha, yesetsani kuwona kuti sizikhala zosavuta kubwera ku zotsatira zofunidwa. Khala woleza mtima ndi kudzichepetsa kwa mwamuna. Kumbukirani kuti poyamba munaleredwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ndi kudzera mu maphunziro mu banja la kholo kuti wokondedwa wanu wakhala chomwe iye ali ndipo pafupifupi samasonyeza malingaliro.
Kawirikawiri amai, akamayesa kuphunzitsa wokondedwa wawo kukhala omasuka komanso okhudzidwa mtima, ayambani kukambirana ndi mawu akuti: "Ndikupatsani zambiri kuposa momwe ndikubwezera," kapena: "Bwanji simundiuza za chikondi? "Zotsutsa zoterezi zidzasowa kanthu. Palibe munthu wamba yemwe angalekerere mavuto ndi zotsutsa, kotero iye adzayamba kukana. Pomwepo, zidzakhala mawu akuti: "Inu mukudziwa kale kuti ndimakonda, musabwereze nthawi zonse! ". Pazovuta kwambiri, mwamunayo amangochoka. Simudzakhala okhutira mwa njira iliyonse, kuchotsa "kuvomereza" kochokera kwa iye. Zomwe munthu amachitira zimangokukhumudwitsani, ndikupangitsa kukayikira zakumverera kwake. Mudzachita mwadzidzidzi kuti anthu onse ndi zolengedwa zopanda pake komanso zopanda pake!
Choncho, chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kuchita ndicho kuvomereza mwachangu kwa wokondedwayo kuti mungafune kubweretsa chisokonezo mu ubale wanu. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, poyamba yambani kulankhula naye m'chinenero chakumverera! Poyamba mwamunayo adzazindikira kuti chilankhulocho ndi chachilendo, zikhoza kuoneka ngati poyamba akuvuta komanso chosamvetsetseka. Koma ngati mumakonda kwambiri munthu wanzeru, ndiye kuti adzatha kuthana ndi mavuto alionse ndikuphunziranso chinenero chatsopano.
Momwe mungalankhulire mu chinenero cha mphamvu.
Akazi amalankhula m'chilankhulo chakumverera mosagwirizana. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri mumamva kuchokera kwa mayi mawu akuti: "Ndinakhumudwa kwambiri." Mwamuna samavomereza kuti chinachake chingamukhumudwitse iye kapena wina. Iye amangokhalira kuweruzidwa mwachilungamo: "Muzochitika izi sizinali zoona", kapena: "Sindimakonda". Mawu a munthu m'maganizo ake ndi ochepa kwambiri, maganizo ake pa chilichonse chimene amangoti "zabwino" kapena "zoipa."
Malo abwino kwambiri oti ayambe kuphunzitsa mwamuna kufotokoza malingaliro ake ndi kama. Mmalo mowuza iye utatha usiku wokongola: "Ndinkakonda izo," kapena: "Zinali zabwino" - fotokozani momwe mumamvera. Bwerezerani mawu oti "zabwino" ndi "zosangalatsa, zosangalatsa, zodabwitsa, zokondweretsa," ndi zina zotero ... Ndiyeno onetsetsani kuti mufunse za momwe akumvera. Simunayambe kunena za chisangalalo, choncho amuzeni zomwe akumva zokhudza mmene mumamvera! Mulole mu sayansi kufotokoze malingaliro anu inu mudzakhala aphunzitsi, ndipo iye-wophunzira. Ndipo lamulo lalikulu kwa inu, lolani kuti likhale "kubwereza - mayi wa kuphunzira."
Mkaziyo amafuna kuti nthawi zambiri amve mawu okondedwa: "Ndimakukondani." Osati chifukwa chakuti sakudziwa za chikondi, osati chifukwa chakuti akuwopa kuti sakondedwa, koma chifukwa mawu achikondi amamupatsa chimwemwe! Mawu atatu okondedwa amathandiza kuti mumve bwino chikondi cha munthu! Pamene chirichonse chiri chophweka ndi chowonekera, mkazi ali ndi chisangalalo chosangalatsa ndipo akufuna kudzipereka yekha kudziko ndi kukhala wokondwa.