Inde, ndi njira iti yabwino yopangira izi kuti mupeze magazi pang'ono?
Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti ndibwino kuti tisayambe kugwirizana komwe tinamangidwanso. Zoonadi, ndi zopweteka kuyang'ana munthu amene akuphedwadi chifukwa cha inu, ndipo simungathe kumupatsa chilichonse. Koma, komabe, ndi bwino kumusiya iye apite mwakamodzi.
Zidzakhala zopweteka komanso zoipa kwa iye, koma, khulupireni, ndiye zonse zidzaipiraipira. Milandu pamene mtsikana amayamba kukondana, ndizosiyana ndi malamulo. Kawirikawiri, wosakondedwa amayamba kumukhumudwitsa, kumunyozetsa, kuchitira chiwembu komanso kupatukana, pambuyo pake mwamunayo amatsimikiza kuti amayi onse ndi abambo omwe samangokhalira kukhala paubwenzi wabwino. Kodi mukufunadi kuti chinthu chanu choyambirira chitembenuke.
Koma ngati mwalakwitsa kale, muyenera nthawi yomweyo kuchita chinachake. Mvetserani, mwamuna yemwe muli naye pafupi, zitsimikizirani kuti adzatha kukugonjetsani ndikugonjetsa. Iye amachita zonse zomwe zingatheke ndi zosatheka, osadziwa kuti simungakakamizedwe ndi mphamvu. Atapatukana, iye, mwachiwonekere, adzakumbukira kwambiri momwe adagwiritsira ntchito ndalama zambiri pazinthu zakuthupi ndi zauzimu. Kwa ichi, ngakhale sikuyenera kukhumudwa, chifukwa ndi zopweteka kwambiri ndipo, mwa njira yake, zimatanthauza, pamene munthu apatsidwa chiyembekezo cha zomwe sitingakwanitse.
Kotero, iwe umati: Sindimakonda mnyamata, koma ndimakumana naye. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Ndikofunika kuthetsa ubale umenewu. Ndipo, mwamsanga mwamsanga. Ngati munthu amakukondani kwambiri, amatha kupereka dzanja ndi mtima. Ndiyeno vuto lenileni lidzawonetsedwa.
Inde, munthu uyu kale sali mlendo kwa inu, mumagwiritsa ntchito ndipo mwinamwake, gawo lanu silikufuna kumusiya. Musakhale odzikonda. Posachedwa mudzapeza chikondi chenicheni ndikuchiponya mopanda kukayikira, kuchititsa manyazi ndi kupondereza ulemu wa munthuyo. Choncho ganizirani izi ndipo yesetsani kuthetsa zonse mwakachetechete komanso mokondwerera.
Mulimonsemo musati muwonongeke, musachoke foni ndipo musayambe kukangana. Munthu ayenera kumvetsa chifukwa chenichenicho, ndipo musabweretse zifukwa ndipo mupeze mwayi woyanjanitsa. Choncho, muyenera kulankhula mwakachetechete. Kukambirana, ndithudi, kuyenera kukhala tete-a-tete. Mulimonsemo simukulepheretsa kugawira anthu. Izi zimakhumudwitsa wachinyamatayo ndikumuchititsa manyazi. Muyese kumufotokozera zonsezi, muuzeni zakumverera kwanu. Simukusowa kunena matampampu monga: "si inu, koma ine", "zinangochitika", "phunzirani kukhala popanda ine, zikhala bwino". Yankhulani bwino zomwe mumamva komanso momwe mukuonera izi. Choonadi chenicheni nthawi zonse ndi chabwino kuposa bodza lokongola. Iye, ndithudi, adzapweteka kwambiri, koma osachepera mudzawona kuti mumalemekeza munthu wake.
Pambuyo pa zokambiranazi, mulole mnyamatayo amvetse bwino momveka bwino kuti sipadzakhalanso kuyanjana, kotero kuti satero. Musamamvere zopempha zake, ndipo mwina, ngakhale misonzi. Ndi zopweteka komanso zovuta kwambiri, koma zidzakhala bwino.
Ngati atayamba kulemba, aitanani ndi kufufuza misonkhano, musamanyalanyaze ndi kumupewa. Patapita nthawi, mnyamatayo amadziwa zonse ndikukhazikika. Ndikhulupirire, tsiku lina adzakuyamikirani chifukwa cha ntchitoyi. Palibe chokhumudwitsa kuposa mnyamata yemwe msungwana wake akuganiza kuti: "Sindimakonda mnyamata, koma ndimakumana ...". Ndipo nthawi zonse amadzifunsa kuti: "Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?".
Koma palinso ubale popanda chikondi kuchokera kwa mtsikana, pamene mwamuna amugwira ndi mphamvu. Tsoka ilo, pali anyamata omwe, chifukwa cha zofooka zawo ndi zovuta, amagwiritsa ntchito mantha a amayi ndi mphamvu zawo. Munthu wotero, amene, mwachidziwikire, sangathe kutchulidwa, amagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zake.
Ngati mwamunayo akukuopsezani nthawi zonse, akuwopseza kapena akumenya, ndiye kuti palibe zokambirana zomwe zingakuthandizeni. Anthu oterewa amakhala osagwirizana ndi maganizo. Iwo akhoza kuimitsidwa kokha mwa mphamvu ndi kuchititsidwa manyazi. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti simungathe kupirira, onetsetsani kuti mupempha thandizo. Akazi ena amachita manyazi kuvomereza kuti amakhala kapena akumana ndi chilombo. Khalidwe ili ndi kupusa kwakukulu. Mabwenzi enieni ndi achibale sangatsutse. M'malo mwake, iwo adzachita zonse kuti akuthandizeni.
Ngati anyamata akuopseza kuti sangakuloleni kuti mupite, ndibwino kuyesa kulankhula naye pamaso pa abambo anu, abale kapena abwenzi. Mundikhulupirire ine, chifukwa chosowa chonchi, mphamvu yamuna ndiyo ndewu yamphamvu kwambiri. Iye samangoopa kuti aziwopseza ndi kukana ngati amuna apamtima akumufotokozera mwanzeru zomwe zidzamuchitikire ngati mutayika tsitsi. Kumbukirani kuti anyamatawa ali ofooka komanso osatetezeka. Amakugwirani chifukwa chakuti ali wotsimikiza: sakusowa wina aliyense. Woimira mwamunayo amatha kukweza dzanja lake pa mkazi yekha, chifukwa ali wofooka ndipo sangathe kusintha. Pamaso mwa amuna enieni nthawi zonse amamanga mchira wawo ndikugwirizana ndi zonse zomwe akuuzidwa.
Musadzizunze nokha ndipo mupitilire kukhala pafupi ndi munthu woteroyo. Ndipo koposa pamenepo musamumvere chisoni. Iye mwini ndiye yemwe ali wodzudzula kuti ali wofooka kwambiri, ndipo iwe siwe wolakwa pa chirichonse. Ngakhale atapempha chikhululukiro pambuyo pa zinyalala ndi kumenyedwa, ngakhale atapatsa maluwa ndi mphatso - amathawa. Chaka chilichonse, zinthu zidzaipiraipira. Ndi bwino kusiya chirichonse asanakhale mwamuna wako, ndipo padzakhala ana. Ndiye zonse zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri ndipo mwanayo adzavutika ndi nkhanza zake.
Chikondi ndikumverera kokondana, kowala komanso kokondwa. Ngati simungathe kutchula zomwe zikuchitika pakati pa inu ndi mwana wanu ndi zizindikiro izi, ndiye kuti mulibe tanthawuzo mu ubale wotero. Aliyense amayenera kukhala wachimwemwe, choncho ndi bwino kuganizira ngati maubwenzi amenewa angabweretse chimwemwe. Tsoka ilo, izi sizingatheke. Chifukwa chake, wina sangakhale pamodzi ndi wina chifukwa cha chisoni, chifundo, ndi zina zotero chifukwa cha mantha. Choncho pezani zoganiza ndikuyamba moyo watsopano, momwe ubale udzamangidwira pa chikondi.