Kaŵirikaŵiri mumatha kupeza lingaliro lakuti ngati mwamuna ali ndi ambuye, chifukwa chachikulu cha izi ndi chifukwa chakuti mkazi wake samuyenerera iye kugonana. Kawirikawiri pali choonadi china, koma osati choonadi chonse. Zifukwa zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimapangitsa amuna "kupita kumanzere" ndi zazikulu. Izi zingawonongeke, komanso chikhumbo chosiyana moyo wawo, ndi chidwi. Mwamuna akhoza kukankhira pa kuperekedwa kwa chilakolako chotsimikizira ena kwa ena, mwachitsanzo, kwa abwenzi ake, omwe amakonda "kupita kumanzere." Chifukwa chake chikhoza kukhala kulera kosauka kapena khalidwe lolakwika la khalidwe lobadwa ndi bambo wochokera kwa bambo yemwe adanyoza amayi ake. Mwamuna akhoza kukhala mkazi wa mkazi, yemwe amayenda kumbuyo kwansalu iliyonse, chifukwa chake chimakhalanso ndi maphunziro, zozungulira ndi zina zotero. Kusintha kungayambitse zakumwa zoledzeretsa pamaso pa nthaka yabwino. Komanso, chikoka choipa cha anthu ndi chofunika, chifukwa panopa udindo wa kugwa ukugwera, ndipo msinkhu wodzikonda ndi wopusa ukukwera. Kuwonjezera apo, sitiyenera kuiwala za mphamvu ya TV, Internet, gloss ndi zina.
Koma kwa zonsezi, chida chachikulu chakugulitsa ndicho ubongo. Ziribe kanthu momwe akusewera ndi zomwe anthu amaganiza zenizeni, kusakhulupirika kumabadwira mutu, m'malingaliro. Mwamuna, mwaife wathu mwamuna, mwadala amathetsa zopinga ndi mfundo ndikupita ku chiwonongeko. Ndiyeno amatsutsa mkazi wake, mowa, moyo ndi zina zotero. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, iwo amafunafuna chifukwa. Ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti munthu ndi munthu wokwanira, choncho, ngati atachita chiwembu, ndiye kuti ali ndi udindo wochita izi.
Kodi muzu wa vuto ndi chiyani? Nchifukwa chiyani amuna ali ndi kulakwitsa kosatha? Udindo wamtundu wa munthu ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi gawo lachikazi, kotero mbiri yakale ilipo pakati pa anthu. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri timamva zotsatirazi: mwamuna ndi wothandizira, amuna samalira, mwamuna ayenera kukhala chithandizo ndi kuthandizira banja lake, mwamuna ayenera kukhala wamphamvu, ayenera kukhala woyimira komanso zambiri. Izi ndizo choncho, ndipo amuna okhawo amadziwa izi. Koma mokwanira, amamvetsetsa zomwe zimachitika kale m'banja. Izi ndi chifukwa chakuti, pokhala ndi chibwenzi m'banja, mwamuna sayenera kukhala ndi udindo payekha, komanso kwa mkazi wake ndi ana ake. Ayeneranso kukhala wothandizira, woteteza, wothandizira, ndi ana omwewo - monga aphunzitsi, chitsanzo chotsanzira. Mwamuna wakula ndi ntchito yatsopano.
Motero, amuna ena amadzimva kuti ndi katundu wolemetsa, ndipo amaopa zonsezi, zomwe sizolondola.
Kenaka nthawi ina idutsa, munthuyo amakula msinkhu ndipo amadziona kuti ndi wolimba kwambiri, ali wamng'ono komanso wolimba. Ndipo izi ndi kusintha kwakukulu mu siteji ya moyo. M'malo mwa achinyamata achangu mumabwera zina, mfundo zowonjezereka komanso zowonjezereka, zofunika ndi zofunika. Mwamuna amatenga chinthu china - banja, chuma, chikhalidwe, ntchito yaikulu, amachulukitsa luntha lake, amakhala wokhutira kwambiri, ndi zina zotero. Koma ngati mwamuna, akuyang'ana mmbuyo, akuzindikira kuti alibe chodzitamandira nacho, kuti sadapindule kanthu, kuti amadandaula zambiri, ndiye kuti ndizovuta kuti apulumuke. Ngati munthu akuwona mwayi wophedwa, nthawi yotayika, ntchito yodedwa ndi malipiro ochepa ndi zina zotero, ndiye apa mavuto angayambe. Mwamuna amayamba kumva kuti sanachitike monga munthu kapena munthu, ndipo mbali yabwino kwambiri ya moyo yatha kale. Apa pali mavuto ndi mavuto. Uwu ndiwo mavuto a zaka za pakati pa zaka (zaka 30-40), pamene amuna nthawi zambiri amadzipangitsa kukhala okhazikika kosatha. Mnyamata, akuti, wazaka 25, akufuna kugulitsidwa, akhoza kusankha ubale wapamtima.
Kotero, kuti adziwonetsere yekha ndi anthu kuti iye ndi munthu "pachimake pa moyo wake," ndi kubwezeretsa kusowa kapena kusowa kwa makhalidwe ena ndi kukwaniritsa kwake, munthu akhoza kudzipanga yekha kukhala mbuye wamuyaya. Ndiyeno mwamuna wosakhulupirikayo amamva ngati wamng'ono komanso wokhumudwitsa, wokongola komanso wokongola, monga momwe analiri msinkhu.
Ndipo, wamng'onoyo mbuye wawo, mwamuna wamng'ono amamva, amadzilemekeza kwambiri.
Mwamunayo amamva zatsopano, zovuta komanso zosangalatsa. Ndipo zotengeka ndizo kugonana komanso maganizo. Kwa iye, kumakhala kosavuta, chipatso choletsedwa. Komanso, munthu amadziwonetsera yekha mphamvu zake zogonana ndi luso lake la kugonana.
Kuonjezera apo, mwa mwini wa ambuye, nthawi zambiri munthu amapeza womvetsera mwatcheru. Amamuthandiza, amatha kunena za malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake, ndipo sangatsutse.
Ndi chiyani chinanso chimene chikukakamiza amuna kupeza mbuye wamuyaya? Kunyumba, maubwenzi ndi ovuta, moyo, mavuto a moyo akukhudza. Zikuwoneka kuti mwamuna wosakhulupirika kuti mkazi wake nthawi zambiri amafuula, amapeza cholakwika, samamvetsa, sachirikiza. Mbuye wa mwamuna - mtundu wa holide. Nthawi zonse amamvetsera ndi kumuthandiza, ndi wachifundo komanso wachikondi.
Chifukwa china - mkazi wasiya kudziyang'anira yekha, watulukira yekha. Mkaziyo amakumananso ndi mwamuna wokongola, wokongola komanso wokonzekera. Kuphatikizanso apo, chikondi choyambirira pakati pa okwatirana chinapangitsa kuti mukhale ndi mtendere wochulukira, komanso ngati ubwenzi ndi chikondi. Moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana unakhalanso wochepa, watsopano komanso wosasangalatsa, zokopazo zinachepetsedwa.
Kapena mwinamwake mwamuna wanga wangotaya chifukwa cha chikondi, mwatsoka, zimachitika. Koma muzochitika izi, nthawi zambiri ndi chinthu chowona mtima kwambiri chomwe mungakhale nawo, ngakhale pali ana. Mwanayo amakula bwino ngati makolo amamukonda, koma amakhala mosiyana kusiyana ngati akhala pamodzi, koma amadana.
Kapena mwinamwake mwamuna wake ndi womanizer! Koma pano kale, monga akunena, "manda a humpbacked adzakonza". Mkazi woteroyo akhoza kukhala wochenjera komanso wokongola, koma zonse sizikwanira iye, akudziyimira yekha.
Ngati mkazi akufuna kuti akhale ndi banja losangalala, ayesetse kumvetsetsa mwamuna wake, aganizire malingaliro ake, zofuna zake, malingaliro ake. Ndikofunika kukhala munthu wokondweretsa komanso mkazi wokongola. Moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana kwathunthu komanso zosangalatsa zosangulutsa zimathandizanso kwambiri.
Moyo, ndithudi, ndi chinthu chovuta. Ndipo vutoli ndi losiyana. Koma amuna amatchedwa kugonana mwamphamvu, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti khalidwe lawo liyenera kukhala olimba mtima ndi lokhazikika, ntchito - kuyeza. Ngati pali mavuto m'banja - ayenera kuthetsedwa, ngati mavuto sakuwonongeka - mwinamwake muyenera kuthetsa banja. Izi, moona, moona mtima, mosiyana ndi kuyendayenda kuchokera kwa mkazi wina kupita ku mzake ndi zowonjezereka za khalidwe lake. Tsopano mukudziwa chifukwa chake mwamuna wokwatiwa amapeza mbuye wamuyaya.