Mzimayi si chiwerewere chofooka
Kotero ziri mdziko lathu kuti chikhalidwe cha kugonana chimagawidwa kukhala cholimba ndi chofooka. Izi zimakhala zovuta kwambiri m'maganizo mwathu kuti kupotoka konse ku khalidwe "labwino" kumaonedwa ngati zopanda pake. Koma kodi pali lamulo lililonse limene tiyenera kukhala nalo? Chifukwa chiyani chimwemwe chathu chimadalira pa zomwe anthu ena, osakhala kwathunthu kwa ife, amaganiza kuti ndi zolondola.
Mayi wa m'zaka za zana la 21 ndi chilengedwe chomasulidwa. Iye samasowa chifundo kapena kudzichepetsa. Onasama ikhoza kupangitsa munthu aliyense kusokonezeka. Atsikana onse amafuna kukhala omasuka ndi omasuka, panthawi imodzimodziyo akulira kuti anthu "enieni" afa. Inde, nthawi za Hussars zakhala zikudutsa kale, koma lero wina angapezenso munthu "wake". Tiyeni tiyang'ane nazo, ife sitiri amayi achikazi. Kwa mafunso athu sangathe kufanana ndi munthu aliyense, ndipo makamaka kwa iwo nawonso pali mafunso.
Mwamuna ayenera kukhala ndi ndodo! O, ndikhululukireni ine chifukwa cha zonyansa, koma munthu ayenera kukhala ndi ndodo yokha basi. Ndipo ena onse - ndizovuta kwambiri. Mumafuna kuti munthu wanu akhale wofatsa ndi womvera, kuti azigwiritsa ntchito nthaŵi yake yonse kwa inu ndi "kunyundo" pa anzanu. Koma mu makhalidwe awa omwe akuwonetseredwa ake, otchedwa, ndodo? Palibe anthu abwino. Tonsefe - pulogalamu ya ubwino ndi chiopsezo, muyenera kulemba skotory.
Lero, anthu ochepa amadziona kuti ndi ofooka komanso opanda chitetezo, nchifukwa chiyani akazi ayenera kuonedwa kuti ndi amuna? Poyang'ana pa "... ndipo kavalo atayimirira, nyumba yotentha imalowa mkati". Mnyamatayo ayenera kumvetsa kuti pamaso pake ndi mwana wamkazi wovuta komanso wovuta. Akazi ali ndi chifukwa - amuna oterewa adatipanga ife. Mabodza, mabodza, mabodza! Makolo athu anachita izi kwa ife (ndipo chifukwa cha izi), iwo anali kukonzekera moyo wachikulire, anatipatsa ife katundu wothandizira ndi luso zomwe zimatithandiza kukhala ndi moyo m'dziko lino lapansi. Anatiphunzitsa kukhala olimbikira ndi amphamvu, kudalira moyo uno wokha. Kotero ichi ndi funso lalikulu, ndani yemwe ali wofooka pakati pano?
Iwe-"wamphamvu", i-"wofooka"
Inde, iyi si mphamvu ya boma. Mzimayi wovuta komanso wolimba nthawi zonse amayesetsa kudzigonjera kwa mwamuna wake. N'zotheka kukambirana kwa nthawi yaitali chifukwa chake: kaya ndi munthu wosaganiziranso, kapena mantha ogonjetsedwa ndi wogonjetsedwa wamphamvu. Mfundo yaikulu ndi yakuti kusankha munthu wofooka kuti apambane theka lake lachiwiri kungabweretse chimwemwe kwa mkazi.
Inde, pamkhalidwe umenewu, iwo ayenera kusinthana malo: adzakhala wopereka, ndipo adzakhala woyang'anira malo. Koma ndani anati izi ndi zoipa? Tikukamba za gigolo, yomwe imasokoneza madera okongola, tikukamba za anthu awiri omwe mkazi amalandira zambiri ndipo amatenga malo apamwamba kuposa munthu.
Kumbukirani chithunzi cha Soviet chotchedwa "Office Romance." Pano pali chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri cha momwe ubale pakati pa mkazi wamalonda ndi wogwira ntchito wathanzi ungathe kufalikira. Ndipo izi sizichitika m'mafilimu okha.
Mkazi yemwe wapindula kwambiri m'moyo amafuna kuti nyumba yake ikhale ndi kuyembekezera munthu amene amamukonda, kuyamikira ndi kuyamikira. Ndipo nthawi zambiri ntchitoyi imathandizidwa bwino ndi anthu ochepetsetsa komanso okoma mtima, osati maso opondereza kapena wamalonda wabwino. Otsatirawa, osasamala, amasankha akazi, omwe amasokoneza maganizo ake ndi kupambana kwake, koma kodi mungadabwe kwambiri ndi mkazi uyu.
Wokondwa Pamodzi
Ndikhulupirire, mwamuna pafupi ndi mkazi wamphamvu ali ndi zovuta. Chilichonse chimene anganene, chilengedwe chimachitika, ndipo kuzindikira kuti munthu amafunika kukhala bulu pamaso pa abwenzi, oyandikana naye ndi achibale samamupatsa mtendere. Koma kwa munthu wotero, lingaliro la mkazi wake ndilofunika kwambiri. Iye ali tanthauzo la moyo, ndi thanthwe lake, kumbuyo komwe iye ali womasuka ndi bata. Iye sasowa kutenga udindo wochita zisankho zazikulu, chifukwa mawu otsiriza ndi othandiza kwa mkazi.
Nanga bwanji mkazi? Kwa iye, zonse ziri zomveka bwino. Chifukwa cha khalidwe lake, iye wapanga kale zosankha zofunika, malamulo ndi malamulo. Iye alibe chidwi ndi moyo, ndipo mwinamwake kamodzi kokha. Koma amatha kudalira nkhaniyi pa mwamuna wake. Ndipo ndi angati a ife amene tingadzitamande ndi izi?
Kubweretsa mzere
Sitikunenedwa kuti pali amayi ambiri amene angayime pafupi ndi chigamulo cha anthu (palibe chilakolako chogonana). Aloleni akaziwa ndi ochepa kwambiri, koma onse ali ofanana komanso ali ndi ufulu wokondwa. Ngati ali okhutira ndi moyo woterewu, ngati osasangalatsa pafupi ndi "nedomuzhchinami" yawo, ndiye kuti tikhoza kuchitira nsanje. Ndipo palibe chokwera mu chiyanjano chawo ndi malangizo "kuponyera", "mumayenera zambiri", "mudzapeza bwino". Mwinamwake iye ndi chinthu chopambana mu moyo wake. Chimwemwe kwa iwo!