Momwe mungadziwire mabodza ndi zomwe mungachite mukanyengedwa

Mkwiyo, chisokonezo, mkwiyo, mkwiyo, nkhawa - zonsezi zomwe timamva tikamazindikira kuti interlocutor akutinyenga. N'zosatheka kuti wina afunenso kumva zoterezo. Ndi bwino kuphunzira kuzindikira bodza pomwepo, padzakhala zokhumudwitsa zochepa. Koma mungadziwe bwanji ngati munthu akunama kapena akunena zoona? Zikuoneka kuti ngakhale popanda bodza lamatsenga, mungadziwe ngati mukunyengedwa. Pambuyo pake, thupi laumwini limapereka zizindikiro zina pazomwe zikuchitika. Dziwani bodza la khalidwe laumunthu
Ndizodabwitsa kuti anthu onse nthawi zina amanama. Ndizovuta kwambiri kuchita izi. Tikanena zabodza, chilengedwe chathu chiyenera kuyendetsa chidziwitso, ndipo chamoyo, chotsutsana, sichidziwa momwe tingachitire. Tangoganizirani kuti mukuyenda mumsewu. Pitani sitepe yachizolowezi ndikuyang'ana pozungulira. Kodi ndizotani kuti mutha kuyenda, kuti muiwale momwe mungachitire zimenezi ndikuyamba kutaya nokha? Inde, ayi-izi zimachitika mwadzidzidzi ndipo zimayendetsedwa ndi chikumbumtima. Koma ngati mukuganiza za momwe mungapitsidwire, dziyang'anireni nokha ("Choncho, ndikukweza phazi lamanzere, ndiye lolondola."), Ndiye kuti simudzasochera. Mudzayamba kuyendetsa pansi, osayang'ana mwachidwi pansi, ndipo nkhope yanu idzawoneka zachilendo zomwe sizomwe mukuchita. Pafupifupi chinthu chomwecho chikuchitika nthawi yathu. Munthu amalamulira mawu onse, amaganiza asanalankhule, ndipo ... amadzipereka yekha. Pali mavuto m'thupi komanso mwamphamvu pammero ndi pafupi pakamwa. Pofuna kuthana ndi izi, timagwira khosi pang'onopang'ono, timagwedeza pamilomo ndipo nthawi zambiri timakhudza nkhopeyo nthawi zambiri. Kulankhulana kumakhala kosasangalatsa - kukhala ndi chisangalalo, timakakamizidwa kuti tipewe. Kaŵirikaŵiri timachotsa maso athu, kapena sitingayang'ane wothandizana nawo, poyerekezera kuti tikufuna kuganizira chinthu chomwe chimatikondweretsa, timachita zozizwitsa (mwachitsanzo, timapotola cholembera, kutembenuza kapepala) ndikuyesera kulankhula momveka bwino - kukhala osakayikira. Kuonjezera apo, kutukumula kumawonjezeka (monga momwe zilili ndi chisangalalo ndi mantha) ndipo ophunzira amachepetsa. Zowona zabodza zimachokera ku lingaliro la kusintha konseku m'thupi - amasonyeza kuti ndi funso liti limene linayambitsa mavuto ndi momwe limafotokozera.

Dziwani bodza mothandizidwa ndi chidziwitso
Koma amayi samasowa zizindikiro zilizonse. Ifeyo timatha kuzindikira choonadi ndi mabodza. Mkazi sali chomwe mawuwo akunena, mwa malo a kumbuyo, ndi mpweya, mwa njira yomwe makiyi amatseguka, amatha kumvetsa mkhalidwewo. "Iwe unayang'ana kawiri pawindo, pamene iwe unayankha funso langa, kenako unapukuta mphuno yako, kukamba za zinthu zako, ndiye kuti mwakachetechete anasiya kugonjetsa telefoni ... Kotero, ukunama kwa ine!" Ayi, ndithudi, mwa mawonekedwe awa, palibe amene akuwongolera kukayikira kwawo. Ambiri a ife timati: "Ndikuganiza kuti izi sizinali choncho (chinachitika)." Ndipo izi "ndimva" ndizotsutsana kwambiri. Azimayi ali ndi mphamvu yodziwa kuchuluka kwa malingaliro, kuwapeza ndi kuwayerekeza mosazindikira. Makamaka pankhani ya munthu yemweyo. Maluso awa ndi achilendo: kotero chilengedwe chasamalira kuti mkazi, monga thupi lofooka, amadzipanga yekha ndi chitetezo cha ana ake. Sikokwanira kuti tisankhe munthu woyenera yemwe adzasamalira ana ake, ndikofunika kumusunga. Choncho, m'pofunika kuyembekezeratu pasadakhale mwayi wonse wosamalira ndi kuwamvera. Ngati mkaziyo akuti "Ndikumva kuti mwamuna wanga ali ndi chizoloŵezi kumbali", ndi choncho. Ngakhalenso mkaziyo tsiku liri lonse nthawi ya 6 koloko madzulo ali kunyumba ndipo nthawi zonse amamupatsa bouquets. Zoona, nthawi zambiri chidziwitso chimenechi chimabweretsa mavuto - zomwe mumadziwa sizikutanthauza kuti zingasinthidwe.

Anamazonama
Nanga bwanji za achifwamba ndi achifwamba? Ndipotu, amapezanso akazi omwe amazunzidwa pakati pa akazi. Choyamba, anthu oterowo amadziwa yemwe angasankhe, ndipo amatha kugwira ntchito ndi wokhumudwa. Amamupatsa zomwe akufunikira panthawiyi. Otopa kuchokera ku moyo wa chizoloŵezi wa mkazi wamalonda, kusiya mphamvu zake zonse pa ntchito yowonongeka, ndi chinthu changwiro cha wokonda zibwenzi. Adzamuzungulira ndi chidwi ndi chisamaliro kotero kuti amva Assol, yemwe amayang'anira sitimayo yomweyo ndi zingwe zofiira. Ndipo mwa njirayo, ngakhale atadziwa kuti iye wanyengedwa, iye adzakumbukirabe zokondweretsa masabata angapo odabwitsa kapena miyezi yomwe amathera ndi mkwati wosalephereka. Chachiwiri, anthu ambiri amaphunzira kunama kuti ziwoneke zogwirizana. Amachita chizindikiro chawo chilichonse, mawu onse, komanso pamapeto pake, amatha kuchita bwino. Timalira chifukwa cha heroine mu filimuyo, ndipo makamaka owonetsera, mobwerezabwereza, amanama. Chachitatu, pali anthu omwe amayamba kunena mabodza, kuti iwo amakhala oona. Mwachitsanzo, anthu owonetsa komanso okwezeka omwe akubwera ndi nkhani, amanyamulidwa nazo kuti iwo amadziiwala kuti panalibe kanthu kameneko. Mwachibadwa, n'kosatheka kuzindikira chinyengo chawo.

Kodi mungapewe bwanji mabodza?
Kodi mungatani mukakumana ndi bodza? Palibe njira imodzi yeniyeni, momwe ingapewere izo ndi momwe mungakhalire muzochitika zoterezi. Monga palibe chifukwa chimodzi chomwe anthu amanama. Pali bodza -kutengeka kwambiri kuwonetsa mkhalidwewo bwino. Pali bodza kupeŵa kukambirana kosasangalatsa ndi kufotokozera. Pali bodza limene tingathe kulimbitsa kudzidalira kwathu. Ndipo nthawi zina munthu amanama kuti alandire thandizo komanso kumvetsetsa.

Ngati mumakumana ndi mabodza nthawi zonse, ndipo izi zimawononga ubale wanu, ndiye poyamba ganizirani-chifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Kodi wokondedwa adzalandira chiyani kuchokera kwa zomwe akukuuzani sizowona? Mwina ndikumangokhalira kupanikizika kwambiri, kusagwirizana ndi zolakwa, ndipo akuyesera kuti achoke ku chilango chilichonse kapena kutsutsana?

Musati mutengepo nthawi yomweyo, ngati kotheka kupewa mawu akuti "bodza" ndi zina zotero. Ingomupemphererani zomwe mukufuna kudziwa ndi kuyang'ana zomwe anachita. Mungathe kufunsa kuti "Kodi chinachake chinachitika?", Monga ngati akudziwitsani kuti mukuda nkhaŵa ndikudandaula za zomwe zikuchitika. Popanda kudziwa chomwe chinyengocho chiri, ndizosamveka kuti wotsutsa amudziwe kuti umamva. Ngati adakuyamikirani, ndiye kuti mwina angaganize. "Chinthu china chimandivuta ine." Ubale wathu suli wofanana ndi poyamba "- mawuwa ndi abwino kwambiri pazokha zaumwini ndi zamalonda.

Ngati kupatukana si mbali ya ndondomeko yanu, ndipo kulankhula momasuka kungakukhumudwitseni, yesetsani kutsekapo. Tangoganizirani nokha kuti: "Inde, mwamuna wanga akunama. Sindikudziwa kuti izi zidzatha mpaka liti, koma panopa zili choncho."

Anthu amene amanamizira cholinga chenichenicho amatsimikiza kuti simukukayikira chilichonse. Kuwongolera iwo kumverera kotheka ndi kotheka ndi chithandizo cha lingaliro "Ndikudziwa chirichonse, koma ndili ndi ndondomeko yanga." Izi zidzakupulumutsani kukumverera kodalira ndikupatsa mphamvu. Ndipo mkhalidwe wokha chifukwa cha machenjerero amenewo ukhoza kukuthandizani.