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Nthaŵi zambiri, chifukwa chonyalanyaza ndi kutopa kwa banal. Mwamuna wina anabwera kuchokera kuntchito, sakufuna kulankhula ndi wina aliyense, palibe amene angalembe, ndipo mwachizoloŵezi, chokhumba chake chokha ndichokakhala pansi pa bulangete ndikudziiwala yekha ndi tulo. Ndipo panthawi ino, kuitana, kulemba, kudandaula, ndi kuganiza: chifukwa chake sangayankhe, chifukwa ndi nkhani ya masekondi asanu, ndikudandaula. Mwinamwake mu zochitika izi pali zifukwa zomveka zoperewera, zomwe simukufuna kuziwona. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu akulemba kuti: "Ndili panyumba, zonse zili bwino." Ndidzagona, "mungayambe kumufunsa mafunso ena ambiri:" Chifukwa chiyani mwakhala motalika? "," Kodi iwe unapitadi kuntchito? "," Chifukwa chiyani umakhala wopepuka? ", Ndi zina zotero. Nthawi zina sitidziwa momwe tingapezere munthu ndi mafunso ngati awa omwe alibe tanthauzo lapadera. Choncho, ngati munthu sakunyalanyaza, yesetsani kufufuza khalidwe lanu. Mwina, iye anayankha mobwerezabwereza, ndipo anathamangira ku mafunso omwe inu mumamufunsa pa liwiro la mfuti. Choncho musanakhumudwitse munthu wina, yesetsani kuiwala kuti nkhawa zathu sizowona nthawi zonse. Mwachitsanzo, titha kumvetsa kuti munthu ali pakhomo ndipo zonse zimakhala bwino ndi iye, koma timapitiliza kumuponyera ndi mafunso, kumuimba mlandu chifukwa chodandaula za ife, timadula moyo wake, ndipo sasamala za nkhumba. Kumbukirani kuti anthu apamtima samanyalanyaza ife monga choncho. Iwo amachita izo pa chifukwa china. Kawirikawiri, vutoli ndi nkhawa yambiri komanso obsession.
Yaochen amatanganidwa
Chifukwa chiyani sitimakhulupirira anthu omwe amanena kuti akhala otanganidwa kwambiri. Zikuwoneka kuti nthawi zonse mungatenge foni, ngakhale kwachiwiri, ngakhale mutakhala ku ofesi ya mkulu. Koma kulingalira kotereku ndi kwa iwo omwe sadzigwetsa okha. Munthu sayenera kuganiza kuti ntchito ndizowonjezera. Ngati munthu ali wotanganidwa kwambiri kuntchito, ngati ali ndi bizinesi yaikulu kapena amangogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yambiri pambuyo pa gudumu, ndiye kuti kunyalanyaza kwake ndikulondola. Kotero mulimonsemo, musamayime pa iye ndikudzudzula kuti simudziwa chiyani. Amayi ambiri amamva chikondi poyambitsa zochitika mpaka munthuyo atenga foni. Mwachidziwikire, panthawi yomwe mwanayo abwereranso, mtsikanayo ali kale woipa komanso wopotoka kuti mawu aliwonse ndi malingaliro aliwonse amadziwone ngati onyoza. Ndicho chifukwa chake sikuyenera kuchitira ntchito wina ndi tsankho. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi chinachake chofunika komanso chofunika, ndibwino kuti mukhale wokwiya ndi iye ndikumuimba mlandu. Iye si telepath ndipo sangapeze zomwe zikukuchitikirani. Mwamwayi, amayi ambiri sangathe kumvetsa izi mwanjira iliyonse, zomwe zimatsogolera ku "nkhondo yeniyeni". Choncho yesetsani kukhala anzeru. Ngati mukudziwa kuti panthawi inayake muyenera kuthana ndi vuto lalikulu lomwe thandizo la munthuyu likufunika, ndiye mudziwitse pasadakhale ndikuvomereza nthawiyo.
Mukudzifufuza nokha
Pali anthu omwe amafunika kukhala okhaokha. Ndipo, chifukwa cha ichi, munthu wotereyo amafunikira zoposa tsiku limodzi, koma sabata, mwezi, kapena ochepa. Inde, ndizosatsutsika, khalidweli ndi lodabwitsa, koma aliyense wa ife ali ndi lingaliro lake komanso maganizo ake. Choncho, anthu otseka amatha kunyalanyaza kwathunthu chifukwa chafunafuna okha. Ndipo ngati kuti sitinali okhumudwa komanso osasunthika popanda iwo, musafulumire kwa anthu oterewa omwe sakuwakonda ndipo iwo samatiyamikira. Mfundo yakuti munthu amafunika malo ake ndi osiyana kwambiri ndi chikondi, ulemu ndi zina. Komanso, nthawi zambiri asanalowe kumalo ena, munthu amachenjeza kuti ayenera kukhala limodzi. Koma ife sitimamumvera nkomwe. Ngati ifeyo tiri otopa komanso osayenera ndi munthu wotere, ndiye kuti nayenso ayenera kukhala wosiyana. Koma ngati wina wasintha moyo, ndiye kuti zomwe anachita pazochitika zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri ndi zathu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu mmodzi, akudandaula, amapita ku kampaniyo, kenako, amamupempha kuti amusiye yekha ndikukambirananso zomwe zikuchitika. Choncho musawope kunyalanyazidwa koteroko kwa wokondedwa wanu, musamangomutsutsa. Aliyense ali ndi ufulu wokhala momwe iye akufunira ndikumva zochitika zina momwe amamugwirira. Kotero, ngati mudziwa kuti wokondedwa akunyalanyazani inu chifukwa chake akufunikira kukhala yekha, ndiye khulupirirani kuti ziridi zoona. Ndikofunika kuti iye akhale ngati mwana wake mpaka mphindi pang'ono, kufikira atakhala ndi njira yothetsera vutoli ndipo sangapeze njira yothetsera vutoli.