Kukonda kudzikonda kwambiri ndiko kudzikonda, komwe kumadzaza ndi mavuto mu ubale ndi malingaliro oduka pa tsogolo losangalatsa.
Egoism imapha mabanja
Zaka makumi atatu zapitazo mawu akuti "kusudzulana" anali ozunza. Iwo ankawopa kuthetsa ukwati, ankachita manyazi, ndipo palibe amene adawatsutsa. Tsopano oposa theka la mabanja amatha kuchoka ku chiwerengero chomwe chimalengedwa. Ndipo izi zimachitika osati chifukwa chakuti miyambo ya banja imaphwanyidwa, komanso chifukwa palibe amene amaganiza za kuthana ndi kudzikonda pakati pa anthu.
Mfundo yaikulu, pali mgwirizano wina pakati pa kuchepa kwa kufunika kwa chikhalidwe cha banja komanso kuwonjezeka kwa dyera. Banja ndi chinthu chimodzi chomwe "chimodzi mwa zonse ndi zonse." M'banjamo ndikofunika kuti mutenge, komanso kupereka. Ndipo chachiwiri ndi chofunikira kwambiri kuti pakhale moyo wapabanja wabwino. Ndipo magazini okongola ndi nkhani zapadziko pa TV zimalimbikitsa khalidwe losiyana kwambiri. Tsopano ndizotheka kupeza ndi kusokoneza oligarch ngati sali paukwati, ndiye kuti ukhale paubwenzi wochepa ndi mphatso zambiri. Amuna amakhalanso ndi mafashoni kuti asamamvetsetse kupezeka kwa malingaliro a mkazi, kutentha kapena kukhala ndi chibadwa cha amayi, koma kuti agwirizane ndi mafashoni atsopano pa maonekedwe. Amuna saopa mantha monga kale, mabasi osakaniza kapena milomo yamphamvu yamtundu wa pelmeni, iwo sadziwa kuti mkazi wawo wachita ndi njira zoyipa chifukwa cha kukongola kwa kanthawi kochepa.
Kudzikonda kumawononga ntchito
Nthawi zambiri anthu ena amadziona kuti ndi ofunika kwambiri. Mu ubale pakati pa anthu mu bizinesi, izi zikhoza kukhala zowonjezera komanso zosasintha.
Zowonjezera ndikuti ndi zophweka kuti egoists azidzigulitsa okha. Iwo amavomereza mosavuta makhalidwe awo abwino ndi luso lawo, ndipo amatha kuthetsa mpikisano waukulu pa ntchitoyi. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka pazinthu zokhudzana ndi cinema, zosiyana, bizinesi yachitsanzo kapena kusonyeza bizinesi. Ndipo mu makampani, matalente aang'ono omwe amadziwa kudzigonjera okha nthawi zina amafunidwa kuposa akatswiri odzichepetsa ndi anzeru omwe amadziwa bizinesi yawo. Koma iyi ndi mbali imodzi yokha ya ndalama.
Mbali yachiwiri ndikuti malinga ndi chiwerengero chomwe anthu opambana kwambiri mu bizinesi amatsutsa pang'ono za zomwe achita. Iwo nthawizonse sakhutira ndi chinachake mwa iwo okha, koma sakhutira ndi zinthu zazing'ono. Izi zimawalimbikitsa kuti azipuntha luso lawo ndi luso lawo. Ndipo ngakhale wogwira ntchito wotereyo atachita chinachake pa nthawi ya umpteenth, ndiye kuti nthawi zana amakula bwino kuposa makumi asanu ndi anayi mphambu zisanu ndi anayi. Ndipo zana ndi nthawi yoyamba adzapanga ntchito yake bwino kusiyana ndi zana. Olemba ntchito apamwamba amadziwa izi, ndipo chifukwa cha bizinesi yawo, pamsikawo padzakhala mwamsanga munthu amene wapita kutali kwambiri.
Ndizochizolowezi kuganiza kuti anthu opambana m'dziko lathu poyamba amaletsa mtima woipa kwa ena. Makamaka, akunena, amakhudza anthu ogwira bwino ntchito zamalonda, oyang'anira akuluakulu ndi amalonda. Zonsezi siziri choncho. Anthu omwe angathe kuthana ndi kudzikonda kwawo ndipo amatha kuchoka pamsana pa nthawi, kupeza kulankhulana kwaukhondo ndi ena, akhoza kupeza mamiliyoni ambiri, ndipo nthawi yomweyo iwo sangakhale ndi zilakolako zoipa. Ndichifukwa chake kuthana ndi kudzikonda ndiko chimodzi mwa ntchito zofunika zomwe munthu aliyense wakukhazikitsa ntchitoyo.
Mmene mungagonjetse kudzikonda
Ngati mukudziwa tchimo ngati khalidwe lodzikonda, muyenera kuti munaganizira momwe mungagonjetsere kudzikonda pakati pa anthu. Zonsezi zimadalira kuti mumadzikonda kwambiri.
Ngati inu nokha muli mwana ndi phokoso la dzikoli kwa makolo, zikanakhala zovuta kuthana ndi chipembedzo. Choyamba, muyenera kudutsa mu mtima wa malingaliro akuti anthu omwe ali pafupi nanu ali osaphunzira, opindulitsa, okongola, aluso kuposa inu nokha.
Ndiye muyenera kuphunzira kuchotsa chidziwitso. Kupyolera mu kudzikonda, ana onse amapita patsogolo. Izi ndi zofunika kwambiri pakupanga umunthu wa munthu. Chiwerengero cha chidziwitso chaunyamata chimakhala ndi zaka zisanu mpaka zisanu ndi chimodzi. Pofika zaka za sukulu, mwanayo amamugonjetsa yekha, ndipo ngati izi sizichitika, ndiye kuti kusukulu akhoza kutenga "cones" zambiri kuchokera kwa anzanu akusukulu ndi aphunzitsi. Kudzipereka sikuthamangira ndipo sitingathe kufika pamalo a munthu. Mukawona izi mwa inu nokha, zochitika zomwe mumadziyimira nokha m'malo mwa munthu zidzakuthandizani, ndikuganiza momwe mungachitire mmoyo wake. Popanda kuphunzitsa ndi kudzitamandira, muyenera kuyesayesa khungu la mnzanu kapena mnzanu, mnzanu kapena mnzanuyo, ndipo mutengapo mbali pa blog kuti mumvetse malingaliro ake, zomwe akuganiza kuti ndizochita.
Kugonjetsa chikhulupiliro cha uzimu kungapambane ngati mutaphunzira kumvetsera anthu ena. Kumvetsera sikokwanira, ndikofunikira kuti muthe kulankhula ndi interlocutor kuti atsegule pamaso panu. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kuphunzira njira ya kumvetsera mwachidwi. Mukuonetsetsa kuti mumamvetsera mwatcheru nkhaniyo, komanso kuti mumve mawu, kufufuza nthawi yomwe mumakhala komanso kusinkhasinkha, kulumikiza malirime ndi kusungirako zinthu. Zonsezi ndizokwapula zing'onozing'ono zomwe zimatha kufotokozera zovuta za momwe zinthu zilili komanso maganizo omwe amachititsa kuti azikhala nawo. Ndipo panjira, njira zakumvetsera mwachidwi ndizochepa. Kotero, mwachiwonekere, mudzafunikira khama kuti mumvetse bwino. Koma zotsatira zake zidzakhala zoyamba: mudzawona mmene dziko lapansi, lomwe linagawidwa kukhala mitundu iŵiri - okonda ndi achisoni - mwadzidzidzi limapereka ndikukupatsani nyanja ya mwayi. Anthu achisoni mungathe kumasulira gulu la anzanu ndi oyanjana nawo pamapulojekiti, ndipo ndi okondwa mudzatha kupeza nkhani zotero zokambirana, zomwe zonse zikhoza kusokonezeka. Mwinamwake inu mudzapeza chinachake mwa iwo omwe inu nokha mungakhoze kuyamikira moona mtima.
Ndipo, potsiriza, ndi koyenera kunena za kuthana ndi "kulowerera" egoism. Momwemonso ndi makhalidwe omwe amalembedwa ndi ofalitsa. Kuti muwachotse iwo, mutha kungotaya magazini onse kwa kanthawi ndikutsegula TV. Ndipo mungayesere kumanga mtunda pakati pa inu ndi zithunzi pa chivundikiro, popanda kuyesa kutsanzira olemekezeka.