Mkwatibwi wamakono ndi wovuta kwambiri ndipo khalidwe la mkwati wabwino silimangokhala wosasamala mpira. Koma, monga kale, mkwatibwi, wakhungu ndi chikondi komanso wokhala ndi chikoka cha mankhwala osadziletsa, amayang'ana wokondedwa kudzera mu pinki ya chikondi ndipo amazindikira zolakwa za mkwati monga momwe zimakhalira. Onetsetsani mwatsatanetsatane khalidwe la mkwati lingakhoze kokha apongozi ake a mtsogolo. Amawona mwana wake wamkazi ngati chidutswa cha iye yekha ndipo amamukonda iye, monga iye yekha, wabwino kwambiri ndi chirichonse. Ukwati wa mwanayo umapatsa apongozi ake mwayi wokhala ndi moyo umodzi wa banja omwe akuganizira kale zolakwa zonse. Choncho, atatsimikizira udindo wa mnyamata monga "chibwenzi", akuyang'anitsitsa mlamu wake wamtsogolo kuti akhale woyenera kwambiri mwana wake wamkazi ndi kuvala dzina lodzikweza la "chibwenzi chokwanira", kapena mwangwiro chabe "wachibale wam'tsogolo ".
Nthaŵi isanakwane kuti ukwati ukhale woyendetsa ndege, zomwe zingathe kuthetseratu chiwonongeko chifukwa cha kulakwa kwa woyendetsa ndege kapena chifukwa cha zolakwika za dispatcher.
Mosasamala kanthu kuti apongozi apamtsogolo adzatcha mkwatibwi amayi ake, iye adzayamba choyamba kuyesa maganizo a mnyamatayo kwa mkwatibwi. Chinthu chachilendo chomwecho ndikumasowa kwa chikwati chofuna kufotokoza chikondi chawo kwa mtsikanayo komanso mwachiwonekere chiwonetsero cha kukongola kwa thupi. Mkwati wabwino sayenera kuzindikira ntchito zake kwa mkwatibwi, komanso kwa makolo ake. Mayi apongozi ozindikira amadziwa ngati mwanayo akunena za mwana wake wamkazi ngati munthu wodziimira yekha kapena ngati adzasokoneza umunthu wake ngati wanyonga komanso wopondereza, ndipo mwina iyeyo adzakhala "pansi pa chidendene cha mkwatibwi." Mu mkwati wabwino, onse awiri bambo ndi mwana ayenera kugwirizana chimodzimodzi. Mwamuna ayenera kukhala okonzeka kuteteza "msungwana" wake, kukhala khoma lamtengo wapatali kwa iye, kuteteza aliyense ku mavuto, koma ngakhale munthu wamphamvu, ngati mwana, amafunikira caress ndi kusamalira.
Amayi apongozi, monga amayi onse, maloto okhumudwitsa munthu, ngakhale atakhala mwana wamkazi wa mkazi wake, koma nthawi zambiri mwamuna safuna kuchita izi panthawi yachisokonezo komanso chikondi, ngakhale chikondi chake kwa apongozi ake, chingalimbikitse munthu kuti akhale wabwino, kusintha makhalidwe ake , kusiya makhalidwe oipa. Kuphatikizana kumangowonjezera mfundo osati kwa apongozi ake okha.
Zenizeni za khalidwe la mkwatibwi wokongola ndizomwe zidzakhalire ndi udindo wake kuti azipereka ndalama komanso mowolowa manja. Ngakhale kutsutsana kwa wina ndi mzake, mkwati wabwino ayenera kuyang'anira ndalama zake ndi ndalama zake, koma nthawi ndi nthawi amatha kutaya ndalama kutali. Ngati, mkwati adzatembenuka, ndiye kuti ubale wake umakhala wouma komanso wowawa, ngati sangathe kuchitapo kanthu komanso osagwiritsidwa ntchito mopanda chilungamo, mkwati akuwonekera kuti ndi munthu wa mphepo komanso wosasamala. Kwa apongozi ake, monga mkwatibwi, kutanthauza golidi ndikofunikira.
Munthu wokondwa kwambiri, maganizo ake okhudzana ndi mavuto, malingaliro abwino pa moyo ndizofunikira kwambiri mu bizinesi ndi ubale wa nthawi yayitali ndi mkazi wokondedwa. Kukhala ndi nthawi zonse kukhala ndi chiyembekezo ndi khalidwe lofunika kwambiri kwa munthu, makamaka kwa wina yemwe amati ndi "mkwati wabwino". Kuphatikizanso, mkwati woteroyo, mosasamala kanthu za chikhalidwe chonse, maubwenzi ndi amayi ake sakhala ovuta komanso ovuta.
Wokondedwa wa mwana wamkazi ayenera kukhala ndi chithunzi chokwanira cha tsogolo. Mawu ake sayenera kukhala osiyana ndi nkhaniyi. Mkwati wabwino sangapereke malonjezo achangu, ndipo malingaliro ake amachokera pa zenizeni za moyo. Kwa apongozi ake, khalidwe la mkwati liyenera kunena kuti amadziwa zonse zomwe akufuna kumoyo, kuti ali ndi ndondomeko ya tsiku, sabata, chaka ndi zaka zonse zomwe zikuchitika. Zolinga zothandizira okwatirana a mtsogolo ziyenera kukhala mbali imodzi, osati kuyendana wina ndi mzake.
Kukhala mkwati wabwino pamaso pa apongozi anga sichinthu chofunikira kwambiri, anthu oterowo sangathe kukhalapo m'chilengedwe, ndipo sutizi sizingagwiritsidwe ntchito pa famu, koma ngakhale atasuntha ndi mtsikana wina kumapeto ena a dziko lapansi, kumbukirani makalata ndi telefoni ya amayi apamwamba kwambiri. Internet, palibe amene anachotsa, apongozi ake adzakhala akugwirizanitsa nthawi zonse.