Ndiye kodi zikutanthauzanji ngati mwamuna nthawi zonse akupempha ndalama? Choyamba, kuti inu nokha simunalankhule, koma munthu akhoza kupempha mkazi kuti apeze ndalama ngati ali mwana wake. Ndiyeno, mpaka ku usinkhu winawake. Munthu wamkulu sangatengere ndalama kwa mayi ake, kupatula ngati ali chidakwa, wogwiritsira ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena munthu wamba waulesi amene safuna kapena sangakwanitse kuchita chinachake pamoyo wake.
Muzochitika zina zonse, palibe munthu amene angafunse ndalama kwa mkazi. Inde, pali zochitika pamene mukufunika kupempha thandizo, koma pa nkhaniyi, mnyamatayu adzakhala chete kufikira omaliza ndikukana. Ichi ndicho chofunikira cha kunyada kwa amuna, ngati, ndithudi, chibwenzi chanu ndi mwamuna weniweni. Nkhani yachuma kwa iwo ndi imodzi mwa nkhani za ulemu zomwe anthu amadzifotokoza okha. Kodi munganene chiyani za mnyamata yemwe sazengereza kufunsa mwana wamkazi, komanso nthawi zonse? Choyamba, tiyeni tiyankhe funsolo: Kodi ndifunika chiyani ndalama izi, adanena? Ndipotu, achinyamata awa akhoza kubwera ndi nkhani zokhuza mtima kwambiri zomwe zimalimbikitsa mtima wa amayi. Zosiyanasiyana zingakhale zosiyana: odwala mum, ngongole, matenda ndi zina zambiri. Achinyamata ena amalonjeza kuti abwerere, ndipo ena amagwiritsidwa ntchito pazochitika zoterozo kuti amayamba osati kungofunsa, koma kufuna, ngati kuti mtsikana ayenera kukhala nacho chinachake.
Kodi mungayankhe bwanji? Choyamba, simuyenera kulingalira mnyamatayo ndikupeza tsatanetsatane wa zochita zake. Inde, chikondi chimasokoneza masomphenya ndi kumvetsetsa kwathu, koma sitiyenera kubweretsa chirichonse ku mawonekedwe a chipatala. Dzifunseni nokha, mukuwona bwanji zam'tsogolo ndi mnyamata wotero? Kodi mumaganiza kuti tsiku lina adzasintha ndikuyamba kudzipangira yekha ndalama ndi kuthandizira banja? Mwatsoka, malingaliro awa ndi opanda nzeru. Anthu onse akuledzera. Ngati mwamuphunzitsa kale kuti azikhala ndi ndalama zanu ndipo musamavutike, ndiye mukuganiza bwanji kuti nthawi zonse adzasiya kupereka njira yabwinoyi ndikuyamba kuvutika? Mwamwayi, pali mabanja ambiri komwe amuna amafuna chakudya ndi zovala, komanso, ndalama zosangalatsa, ndipo, panthawi imodzimodzi, amangokhala pamaso pa makompyuta kapena TV, kapena amasangalala ndi anzanu. Mkazi, nayenso, samangolandira kokha, komanso amachita nawo moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi kulera ana. Ganizirani ngati mumavomereza kukhala ndi munthu woteroyo komanso ngati mwakonzeka kukhala wantchito komanso wokondwa, kapolo wanu moyo wanu wonse. Zikungowoneka ngati tsopano kuti munthu angathe kukonza ndi kukonzanso, chikondi chimenecho chingasinthe mapiri. Ndipotu, moyo ndi wodabwitsa kwambiri komanso wamatsenga. Ndipo, ngati munthu kuyambira ali mnyamata samangofuna kupeza ndalama, koma amapanganso ndalama pa mkazi, ndiye kuyembekezera kuti achite chinachake chabwino sikungakhale koyenera.
Kawirikawiri, amuna omwe amatha kuitanitsa ndalama kuchokera kwa amayi awo amakhala amwano kapena nkhanza. Ndipo ngati oyamba akungoyenda bwino, akusewera kwambiri, akumaliza ndalama, akuwongolera ndalama ndi mphamvu, akuchita nkhanza ndi kuzunza. Pachiyambi choyamba, mukhoza kukhala ndi moyo wanu wonse, kupatula ngati ndalama zimatha kapena amapeza mkazi wolemera. Mnyamata wotero angakulimbikitseni maganizo ake ndipo inu, mwinamwake, mudzakhalanso okondwa, mukudya malingaliro a chikondi. Koma njira yachiwiri ndizovuta kuchipatala. Pankhaniyi, mwamuna si gigolo chabe. Zikuoneka kuti ali ndi vuto linalake, kapena amamwa mowa kwambiri ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Kawirikawiri, khalidwe laukali limayambitsidwa chifukwa chakuti munthu sangathe kukhala popanda zinthu za psychotropic. Ndipo, monga momwe akudziwira, anthu omwe amazunza zinthu zoterozo sangachite nawo ntchito iliyonse, monga momwe iwo aliri nthawi zonse. Choncho, ngati mnyamata wanu ali m'gululi, akusowa thandizo. Koma, ngati sakufuna thandizoli, ndipo mukumvetsetsa kuti simungathe kuchita chilichonse, ndibwino kuti mutuluke, ziribe kanthu zopweteka komanso zovuta. Anthu oterewa nthawi zina sitingathe kuwathandiza, ndipo akazi awo amazunzidwa kwamuyaya, nkhondo ndi umphawi. Ndiyeno palibe chikondi chidzapulumutsa. Ubale wotere umathera pokhapokha kuti mtsikana mwiniwake akumwa kapena kukhala wosokoneza bongo chifukwa cha kukhumudwa, kapena, akusiyabe ndikudandaula za zaka zosatayika, ndalama ndi thanzi.
Komanso, amuna amachita chiwawa, omwe akufuna kulamulira akazi awo, koma alibe mphamvu koma mphamvu. Amuna oterewa mosadziwa komanso mwadzidzidzi amadziwa kuti alibe chodzitamandira kwa bwenzi lawo, chifukwa iwo sali munthu wamoyo ndipo amakhalapo pa ndalama zake. Izi zimachititsa kuti amuna azidziona kuti ndi odzikuza, komabe amakayikira kusintha maganizo awo kuti mnyamatayo ayambe kudziwonetsera kuti ndi wamwamuna chifukwa cha manyazi komanso kunyozedwa. Amayesetsa kukulunga zonse kuti mkazi aganizire kuti ndizolakwa zake kuti chibwenzi chake sichikhala ndi ndalama zokwanira ndipo chiyenera kumuthandiza pa chilichonse, kuchepetsa kulakwa kwake.
Ngati mwamuna nthawi zonse afunsira ndalama, ndiye sali woyimira wogonana kwambiri yemwe amatha kuthandiza banja, kulera ana ndi kupereka mkazi wake wokondedwa. Ndipotu, ndi munthu wofooka komanso wosalemekezeka, chifukwa kwa munthu aliyense, phindu lazinthu ndilo limodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri pamoyo. Munthu wopambana yekha amamverera bwino. Ngati mnyamata wanu sasamala konse, ndiye kuti si mwamuna. Pambuyo pake, akaziwa amaloledwa kukhala pamtambo wa amuna awo ndikukhala opanda nzeru. Ndipo mwamuna yemwe amachita izi, basi samachititsa ulemu. Taganizirani izi, chifukwa pafupi ndi mkazi weniweni, payenera kukhala munthu woyenera komanso wolemekezeka.