Gawo loyamba 1. Chikondi chokhudzidwa.
Ndi chithunzi cha wokondedwa wanu kapena wokondedwa wanu ali ndi mtima wokhazikika. Gawo lachiwiri lauzimu limalimbikitsa zochita ndi zochita. Ngati pali zinthu zosasangalatsa, ndiye kuti musakhumudwitse wokondedwa wanu.
Gawo 2. Ena akuzizira.
Ngati wokondedwa sali pafupi, ndiye kuti sangakumbukiridwe, koma ngati akuwonekera, nthawi yomweyo pamakhala kukhumudwa.
Gawo Nambala 3. Kukhalitsa kumverera kozizira.
Kuwonekera kwa wokondedwa sikukwanira kuti munthu akhale ndi maganizo abwino. Tsopano tikusowa mawu achikondi, mphatso, tcheru, kupepesa, ndi zina. Panthawi ino ndi bwino kuti mmodzi mwa anthu okwatirana azipita kukachita bizinesi kapena kutenga tchuthi kuti apite ku gawo loyamba.
Gawo No. 4. Kuwonjezera kuzizira kwa ubale.
Kupezeka kwa mnzanuyo kumapangitsa kuti akwiyitse, nthawi zambiri samadziwa. Makhalidwe a umunthu ndi zizolowezi za mnzanuyo amawonedwa ngati zoperewera zolemetsa, ndipo, chifukwa chake, kukangana ndi zovuta kumachitika nthawi zambiri.
Gawo lachisanu 5. Mabwenzi olakwika.
Kukhalapo kwa mnzanu kumawonjezera mtundu wa ubale umenewu. Wothandizana naye amasiya kukhala wokondedwa, wokondedwa, mngelo ndipo amakhala wosawerengeka, wowerengera, wokhalapo, etc. Kuyanjana ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna kumasiya kukhala ndi tanthauzo lililonse. Kawirikawiri pa siteji iyi, chiwerengero chachikulu cha zopempha zothetsera zimaperekedwa. Lalalo likuganizira zomwe zikuchitika. Kawirikawiri mgwirizano pa gawo lachisanu watha.
Komabe, ngati pali zotsutsana, zifukwa zolimbitsa, ndipo chisudzulo chisanathe, ndiye patapita kanthawi, osadabwitsa, magawo a chiyanjano akubwerezedwa, koma, ndithudi, mu khalidwe latsopano.
Ngati izi zimakhala zosiyana, izi ndizoipa ndipo mwinamwake chibwenzi chidzatha pa chisudzulo. Ndibwino kuti magawowa adziphatikizidwa mu magawo osiyana. Banja lotero liri ndi mwayi wopambana.
Kodi n'zotheka kuchepetsa kukula kwa ubale pakati pa okwatirana kuti magawo achinayi ndi asanu asabwere? Akatswiri a zamaganizo anayambitsa phunziro, lomwe linali kupanga zinthu zabwino. Zotsatira zotsatirazi zinapezeka: Ofunsidwawo adanena mu chiyanjano ndi mkaziyo zofanana zachilendo za chikondi, zolemetsa komanso zopweteka kwa onse awiri.
Nthawi ya kuchepa kwa zochitika zamalingaliro ndi khalidwe ngakhale chaka choyamba cha moyo wokhudzana. Zotsatira zoterezi zinapezedwa pambuyo pokonzekera graph. Komabe, "zoperewera" m'chikondi siziri zakuya komanso zosakhalitsa. Pambuyo panthawi yochepayi, kugonana kwakanthaŵi pang'ono kumayamba.
M'chaka choyamba cha moyo wa banja mu nthawi ya "kulephera" mu chikondi kukangana sikungayambe. Kusokonezeka kungatheke kumangokhala chete ndikugwetsa chisoni.
Kusintha kwakukulu kwambiri kwa kusintha kwa maganizo a okwatirana, pamene kusiyana pakati pa maulendo kaŵirikaŵiri kumawonjezeka. Pomwepo "zoperewera" mu chikondi cha mnzanuyo zidzatsekedwa ndi chikondi chapamwamba cha wina. Ndi mgwirizano uwu, mnzanuyo adzakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro oipa pamene amalingalira mkazi wake pa malo osayanjana, enawo ali ofanana ndi maganizo abwino, choncho akukonzekera kukhululukira chirichonse, komanso amayesetsa kutsimikizira kuti mwamuna wake ali ndi maganizo oipa.