Muzikonda nthawi yambiri

Malingana ndi Chifalansa, "Kupatukana ndi imfa yaing'ono!". Koma nthawi zonse kusiyanitsa kungathe kufotokozedwa mu mdima wambiri komanso mitundu. Nthawi zina zimakhala kuti kupatukana kungakhale ngati kubadwa kwachiwiri kwa mikhalidwe yosasinthika mu ubale pakati pa anthu monga chida, chikhulupiliro, ziyembekezo zatsopano ... Ndipo, ndithudi, kuwukitsa kukhumudwa kamodzi komweko.

Matrix: Thiritsani Zambiri

Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti sizilibe kanthu kuti ndani kwenikweni amachokera kwa okwatirana omwe ali oyambitsa "mpumulo wa kanthawi kochepa". Zirizonse zomwe zinali, koma nthawi zina zimachitika kuti onse awiri amvetse lingaliro limeneli mosavuta. Ndipo chinthu chake ndi chakuti nthawi zina ubale umayamba "kudzichotsa wekha": Nthawi zambiri mikangano yosautsa, yomwe yakhala ikudziwika kale ndipo pambuyo pa kukambirana kwaukali, amayamba kufalikira ku mavuto a padziko lonse, "kutopa kwambiri" kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake , kutaya kugonana ndi zina zambiri.

Choncho, poyeza kuchuluka kwa ubwino ndi chiwonongeko, maphwando awiriwa akuganiza kuti njira yokhayo yomwe ingasinthire pakali pano ndiyo kusiyana. Koma osati kupatukana kwamuyaya, ndi otchedwa chikondi nthawi yotuluka. Chabwino, ndi chiyani? Mwayamba kale kale, muli (iwo onse ali nawo, koma amangokhumudwa pang'ono) ndipo zimakuvuta kuti muganize kuti munthu uyu sakhala pafupi. Pali chigwirizano choyenera, chomwe chiyenera kumangidwa pambali zotsatirazi:

1. Nthawi ya nthawi yonse. Kodi mudzayitana kapena kuthanirana nthawi imeneyi? Komanso pamphindi uwu "musauke" ndipo "musawonongeke" ...
2. Kukhala woona mtima - musayambe malemba pambali pa ngolole ndipo musayambe "njira zina".
3. Khala wokhazikika ndi "monga momwe mungathere, kuyanjana ndi ubale wanu ndi akunja".

Pambuyo pokhala ovomerezeka pankhaniyi, mutha kukhala mwamtendere, mukupuma, mukugawa "m'mabanki osiyanasiyana," mukuyembekeza kuti "mphepo yatsopano" ikuyenda bwino mu ubale wanu wotopa kale.

Zonsezi zidzakhalanso kuswa mabaki

Monga lamulo, lingaliro loyambali loyamba la kukonda chikondi kumayamba pamutu pambuyo pa theka la chaka chokhala limodzi, pamene chidziwitso chonse cha chilakolako chasowa, ndi zizoloŵezi zonse za chiyambi zomwe zasonyeza kuti zimakhumudwitsa. Panthawiyi, nthawi yomwe imatuluka nthawi zambiri imakhala yopweteka kwambiri: zokhudzana ndi maganizo ndizofooka kale ndipo zikuwoneka kuti n'zosavuta kupeza chiyanjano chatsopano kusiyana ndi kugwirizanitsa kapena kulekerera zolakwa zonse zakale.

Pa malo achiwiri pafupipafupi pa nthawi yakubadwa ndi kubadwa kwa mwanayo. Oimira abambo amphamvu nthawi zambiri pakali pano amayamba kumva kuti m'moyo mwathu muli "umbanda weniweni", ndipo kukhala woyenera "mpando wachifumu" wa munthu wokhawo unatengedwera ndi mwana wodandaula. Vuto la kusinthika kwathunthu kwa makhalidwe onse kumafuna kupuma kwathunthu ndi nthawi yambiri. Pano, mu nthawi iyi, theka lachiwiri nthawi zambiri amatsutsa mwamunayo kuti adziganize yekha.

Nthawi ina yoyenera yoyamba nthawi yopuma ndikuonedwa kuti ili pakati pa "masewera a moyo". Kale, monga lamulo, ali ndi zaka 35-38, amuna ayamba kukhala okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi malingaliro otengeka omwe a funso la kupeza cholinga cha moyo. Nthawi zonse amaganizira za zomwe zachitika kale ndi zomwe sizinayambe, mwamunayo akudzipangira yekha, koma amafunikira: ntchito iyi, ntchito, ndi mkazi uyu. Panthawi imene amathawa, amathawa ndi wokondedwa wake. Apa ndi nthawi yoti mum'patse ufulu komanso mwayi woti muchite. Mwa njirayi, ndibwino kuti tiwonetsetse kuti kukhala kosavuta kuti munthu akhale ndi "kukhudzana kwa iye yekha," ndikotheka kukhala kotheka kuti chirichonse chidzatha kubwerera kumalo ake omwe.

Malamulo oyambirira okhazikika omwe amatha

1. Choyamba, ziyenera kunenedwa kuti nthawi yosakhalitsa-mu nthawi yogonana pa mutu wakuti-"Mpakana ife tonse sitikumva kuti ..." akadalibe! Malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, munthu sangathe kuthandizira kuthetsa nkhawa koteroko. Nthawi yabwino kwambiri yopuma pachisamaliro imalingaliridwa ngati nthawi ya sabata imodzi mpaka mwezi.
2. Tonsefe timakumbukira mawu a nyimbo yomwe kale idali yotchuka: "Usalire, usawope, usafunse!". Kotero, pa nthawi yochepa, palibe chosowa ngati kasupe, kutsanulira malingaliro anu mosiyana, kapena, moipitsitsa, mu njira zonse zotheka ndi zosatheka, yesetsani kusunga wokondedwa wanu pafupi, ngakhale ngati pempho loti mupange nthawi yothetsa chibwenzi mumakulondera.
3. Sikofunika kuti tipeze gulu lonse la anthu pokambirana nkhaniyi. Ndipo ndi yopapatiza, mwa njira, muyenera kukhala osamala kwambiri. Pano mukuyenera kuganiza ndi mutu wanu ndikugwira ntchito ndi convolutions!
4. Palibe chifukwa chosinthanitsa "akaidi a nkhondo"! Sikoyenera kubwezeretsa zinthu zonse zoperekedwa, mwachiwonetsero ndi mwachangu zojambula zojambula zojambula zikwangwani ndi makalata ndikudula sofa pakati. Apa ndikofunikira kwambiri kuchita zosiyana, ndi mphamvu zonse zomwe mumayesa kutsimikizira kuti zonsezi sizingatheke ndi "mabala" awiri.
5. Lamulo lomaliza ndiloti muyenera kuthamangitsa maganizo onse. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, nthawi zonse muyenera kukumbukira kuti mtundu uliwonse wa zotsatira za chikondi-nthawi yotuluka, osabwereranso kwa iwo!

Ndipo kumapeto kwa mutu uwu ndikufuna kutchula Oscar Wilde, yemwe adanena kale kuti: "Okwatirana amatha kugona mosiyana ndi zipinda, amadya nthawi zosiyana, kusiya ma vroz.Onnnnim word, kuchita zonse zomwe zingasunge banja lawo losangalala ! "Choncho ganizirani za mawuwa ndikulolera kuti izi zichitike. Pokhapokha, zonsezi zingasinthe, ndipo ubale wanu udzakhala ndi tanthauzo latsopano, chifukwa nthawi zina ndiwothandiza kwambiri kuti mupumane wina ndi mzake!