Pambuyo pa zaka zingapo zokhala ndi malo ogonana, sikuli kosavuta kukhalabe ndi chikondi chokondweretsa, komanso kugonana komwe kuli pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Pambuyo pa chibwenzi mu chiyanjano chiyamba kudutsa, chikondicho pang'onopang'ono chimatha. Zitatha izi, nthawi zambiri anthu okwatirana amayamba kusunga zabwino zokhazokha, koma amakhala ochezeka kale. Makolo a ana omwe alipo amakhala ogwirizana chifukwa chakuti amakumana ndi ana okha, komanso poleredwa kapena pokonzekera. Momwe mungakhalire, mutatha kusokoneza tsiku ndi tsiku moyo ulibe mphamvu kuti muzisamalirana wina ndi mzake, ndipo ndizotheka bwanji kubwezeretsa kumverera kwa poyamba kukondwa kuchokera kuyankhulana ndi wokondedwa?
Zochita zosangalatsa. Chikondi cha mwamuna wake kubweretsa chiyanjano chidzakuthandizira zofuna zake, kapena zosangalatsa za wokondedwa. Osati mphatso zazikulu, monga CD yochititsa chidwi, kapena buku, kapena matikiti awiri kwinakwake, pa masewero, kapena mwinamwake masewera a masewera. Mphatso iyi imakhala yokondweretsa mwamuna popanda chifukwa ndipo izi zimapangitsa kuti ayambe kuchita. Palibe chifukwa choiwala zazochitika za tsiku lakubadwa, kapena maholide, komanso chisangalalo kapena masiku ofunika a banja. Lembani zochitika zing'onozing'ono nthawi zina zimathandiza kuti banja likhale ndi chinsinsi chomwe chingadzutse chidwi cha mwamuna wake.
Kusisita kosangalatsa. Kupaka minofu kokondweretsa ndi kupumula pamilingo kapena mapewa, kapena mwinamwake thupi lonse kumasamba kumapeto kwa ntchito lidzamasuka, lidzakhudzidwa ndi theka lachiwiri. Kuwonjezera apo, kugwiritsa ntchito mafuta ena onunkhira kumathetsa mavuto onse ndi kutopa, kumasula ndi kubwezeretsa zoipa. Pokhapokha simukusowa kudzikondweretsa nokha ndi chiyembekezo kuti mudzalandira mphotho pazochita zanu. Kusintha koteroko sikudzabweretsa chikondi mu chiyanjano, ndipo m'tsogolomu poyambitsa misala, mwamunayo ayamba kuyang'ana zolinga zachinyengo. Koma simukusowa.
Zosangalatsa zabwino. Makhadi kapena makalata osiyanasiyana amauza wokondedwa wanu za maganizo achifundo, ofunda komanso odzipereka. Ndipotu nthawi zonse akhala akukonzekera chikondi. Mauthenga a e-mail kapena foni alibe mwayi wowonetsa chikondi, chikondi, chikondi kwa mwamuna wake. M'zaka zathu, makalata olembedwa ndi makalata omwe amatumizidwa ndi makalata amasiyana kwambiri. Ngakhale iwo ali okondana kwambiri kuchokera ku mitundu yonse ya kutumiza makalata, kapena mauthenga. Iwo akhoza kukhala khadi la lipenga losangalatsa.
Mphindi za chidwi. Kubwereranso chikondi sikutanthauza kuti nthawi zonse zimayenera kumuuza mwamuna wokondedwa za zolakwa zake zonse, zomwe zimangodandaula. Kuti asaganize za momwe angabwerere mwamuna, wina ayesetse kupeza mwayi wopezerana ndi maanja omwe ali okondana naye. Kubvomerezana ndi kupsyopsyona pang'ono kudzakuthandizira kuthetsa maubwenzi osokonezeka. Mawu ofatsa sangathe kusokoneza, choncho ndibwino kuti nthawi zambiri muvomerezane wina ndi mnzake mu zikhumbo, chifundo.
Mawu okondweretsa. Mawu okondweretsa monga kutamanda ndi kutamanda kwathunthu, samayesa kuiwala za iwo pa moyo wanu pamodzi. Kawirikawiri pa zifukwa zamtundu uliwonse, chifukwa chokhala ndi moyo wathanzi komanso wodziwika tsiku ndi tsiku ndi ntchito zapakhomo, okwatirana amasiya zonse zabwino ndi zokoma, zomwe poyamba zimakondweretsa mwamuna wokondedwayo. Zidzakhala bwino ngati pamisonkhano ndi abwenzi ake akuyesera kulankhula za makhalidwe abwino a theka lina. Izi zikhoza kuchitika pa zokambirana pa foni, panthawi imene wokondedwayo, ngati kuti mwangozi, amatha kumva zonsezi. Aliyense adzasangalala kuphunzira kuti adakondedwa kwambiri ndi kuyamikiridwa.
Kwa awiri. Amayi onse aang'ono amakonda kulandira maluwa okongola, kapena bokosi la maswiti okongola. Pokhapokha ngati masewera a masewera a maswiti apitirira, atapambana mtima wa dona wokondedwa, bamboyo amasiya, akukhazika pansi panthawi yomweyo. Kubweretsa chikondi mu ubale ndizotheka ndi chithandizo cha tsiku. Woyambitsa pano akhoza kukhala munthu, ngakhale nthawi zambiri maganizo awa amapezeka ndi amayi. Kuiwala, osati kwa nthawi yayitali, za mavuto, kuti mupange kuyenda kosangalatsa pamalo omwe poyamba munali tsiku loyambirira, ndiye mukhoza kuyenda pamsewu omwe adakhala nawo palimodzi. Mwina kukonza nyumba si chakudya chokakamizidwa kwa awiri, ndi kukhalapo kwa makandulo, limodzi ndi nyimbo zomwe mumakonda. Chikondi cha m'mbuyo chimatha zambiri, kusonkhanitsa, kubwezeretsa malingaliro akale, ndipo mwinamwake kuwonjezera zina.
Ulendo woyanjana. Kubweretsa chikondi chachikulire mwachikondi ndi zotheka, ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti muzindikire komwe mungapeze ndikukhala nthawi yeniyeni pa malo enieni. Mtundu wina wa chikhalidwe muyeso ungayesere kubwezeretsa zomwe zimachitika, koma osasokoneze ndi ntchito imodzi. Mulole kuti zikhale zabwino mu mawonekedwe achizolowezi chofala. N'zotheka kumapeto kwa mlungu uliwonse kuti musayambe ulendo wopita ku mizinda yakutali, kapena picnic mumzinda wokongola komanso wokongola. Kuganizira za chithunzithunzi chimenechi, ulendo wopita ku chilengedwe ukhoza kuwonetsedwa ngati zodabwitsa. Mwachibadwidwe, nkoyenera kumudana mwamuna wake kuti sakukonzekera zochitika zofunika kwambiri pamapeto a sabata. Ndiye palibe chomwe chidzakulepheretseni kusangalala ndi chiyanjano cha wina ndi mzake.
Zinthu zazing'ono zokondedwa. Fotokozani za kukhalapo kwachisomo, komanso nthawi zosangalatsa, zithandiza zithunzi zokongoletsedwa. Pambuyo pake, mukhoza kusiya chithunzi cha mkazi wanu wokondedwa ku ofesi yanu kapena pa tebulo. Nyimbo zosangalatsa zingathenso kukondana. Kawirikawiri okonda amasankha nyimbo inayake yomwe imadziona ngati yawo. Iye, pamodzi ndi zidole zokwera pa chithunzi, akhoza kusonyeza nthawi zosangalatsa, zosaiwalika zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pamodzi.
Ngati malangizo omwewo sakupindulitsani, mowonekera, opanda chinyengo, muuzeni wokondedwa wanu za izo. Mwamuna wachikondi adzakumverani, kumvetsa, kufotokoza maganizo ake pazinthu zonsezi. Pambuyo pake, zikhoza kukhala kuti zizindikiro zoterezi zinkawonekera kwa inu.
Kodi mungabwezere bwanji chikondi cha mwamuna wake?
Ziribe kanthu momwe moyo ungakhalire wabwino ndi mwamuna, koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zofunikira pa nthawi ina ya chikondi chomwe chimakhalapo pa tsiku loyamba. Koma bwanji kubwezeretsa chikondi cha mwamuna wake ndipo n'zotheka?