Choyamba, choyamba, chikondi cha chirichonse chiyenera kuyamba ndi kudzikonda. Ngati tidzipusitsa tokha, m'moyo wathu kapena mu ntchito zathu, palibe chabwino chomwe chidzabwere. Komabe, kusudzula ndi kudzikonda ndiko zinthu ziwiri zosiyana.
Chiphunzitso cha Narcissism chagawidwa mu mitundu yosiyanasiyana
Zoonadi, aliyense wa ife mumsewu amakumana ndi anthu omwe amamukonda, komanso kuti awone, simukusowa kukhala ndi luso lapadera kapena kukhala katswiri - amaoneka kutali. Iwo amayenda ndi chidaliro, kukweza mitu yawo mmwamba ndi mapewa awo kuwongoledwa. Kawirikawiri, anthu oterowo amasamalira bwino mwana wawo ndipo amayesetsa kuti azigwira ntchito payekha. Iwo amakhulupirira kuti ayenera kukhala opambana ndi oyamba muzonse ndi nthawizonse, kotero iwo sazipumula kawirikawiri.
Anthu oterewa amakhala ochezeka ndi aliyense, osadzikonda, amayesera kupereka chithandizo kwa munthu wina ngati akufuna (pambuyo pake, adzatha kupeza kuphatikiza zambiri!), Koma ngati chithandizo sichikutsutsana ndi ziweruzo zawo ndi mfundo zawo. Iwo ndi abwino kwambiri pakudzudzula, kotero iwo angangowonjezera mkhalidwe wawo.
Anthu oterewa amakhala okondwa nthawi zonse poyankhulana, nthawi zina amafuna kukhala ngati iwo ndi kuwathandiza, ndifuna kuti ndiwatsatire.
Gawo lachiwiri la anthu odzudzula limaperekedwanso kwa anthu omwe amadzisamalira okha, amakhala otsimikizika nthawi zonse mwa iwo eni, zomwe sizikanatheka, zikhoza kuwonedwanso kuchokera kutali, koma ngati zikuyerekeza ndi mtundu woyamba wa anthu odzudzula, ndiye chifukwa cha maholide awa ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri pa moyo. Nthawi zina amasonyeza ulesi. Mosasamala kanthu komwe iwo ali, palibe malire kwa narcisissism, iwo amakhulupirira kuti palibe wina wabwino kuposa iwo mu dziko. Kawirikawiri, iwo ali okha.
Anthu oterewa sali okondana komanso amalankhulana ndi anthu, ali ndi mauthenga awo omwe amakwaniritsa mfundo zawo. Iwo sakonda kutsutsidwa! Kodi angathandize wotsatira? Zonse zimadalira pazimene ananyamuka kuchokera - maganizo.
Kuphatikizapo gulu loyamba la anthu odzudzula, izi, monga lamulo, zimapindula pokhapokha ngati sakhala aulesi, zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri, koma zimachitika!
Mtundu wachitatu wa anthu ndi anthu omwe ali achikondi kwambiri moti nthaŵi zina sangathe kudziyesa okha mtengo! Inde, pakati pa anthu oterewa pali akatswiri abwino komanso akatswiri si abwino, koma onse amadziona okhaokha!
Anthu oterewa ndi ovuta kwambiri, nthawi zonse amasunga maganizo awo, nthawi zonse samakonda chilichonse, sangathe kumvetsera maganizo a wina. Iwo amakhulupirira kuti aliyense wozungulira iwo ndi anthu omwe sali woyenera mlingo wawo, koma zomwe zimakhudza ntchito ndi moyo waumwini - palibe anthu ofanana ndi osinthika pano konse!
Ndi anthu oterewa ndizosatheka kulankhulana-ndizovuta kwambiri, chifukwa n'kosatheka kupeza chinenero chimodzi! Pambuyo pake, khalidwe la anthu awa ndilosautsa. Thandizo likhoza kupereka, kokha ngati lingakhale lopindulitsa kwa iwo! Ndi kwa anthu otere kuti mawu akuti "Ndipafupi ndipo anthu angakufikireni!" Akubwera.
Munthu aliyense amadziŵa momwe zimasonyezera malingaliro ake, koma nkofunika kukumbukira kuti nthawi zina zimawoneka kuchokera kumbali yodabwitsa kwambiri ndipo zochitika sizimapereka zabwino.
Dzikondeni nokha - mtanda wolemera
Akatswiri ambiri amaganizo amanena kuti chikondi chenicheni chiyenera kukhalapo monga chofunikira kwambiri chochitira bwino dziko lophika. Koma anthu ambiri amalakwitsa kwathunthu kuti adzikonda iwo okha, pomwe akuzisokoneza ndi kuzudzula.
Nthawi zina vuto ili limapha anthu ambiri, abambo ndi anyamata, anyamata ndi atsikana ambiri samatha kupeza chinenero chofala ndi anthu ena, komanso nthawi zambiri samapezeka kuti ali ndi moyo. Anthu omwe amawakonda sakudziwa zomwe akuchitazo. chifukwa chake anthu achoka pa iwo.
Koma taona kale kuti chikondi ndi ichi, koma chikondi ndi chiyani?
Choyamba, monga chikondi kwa munthu wina, ichi chikhumba ndi luso lomanga ubale wogwirizana ndi wekha pamene mukulandira kuchokera kuchisangalalo ichi. Ndiyeno ife tapeza kale ulemu, luso lokhala mogwirizana ndi kumvetsa. Zili zovuta kwambiri kuchita nokha - pambuyo pa zonse, kumanga ubale ndi munthu wina ndikosavuta. Izi zimatchedwa chikondi chokwanira payekha.
Anthu omwe ali pafupi, nthawi zonse afikirani kwa munthu woteroyo ndipo asankhepo, chifukwa mgwirizano wokha uli wokongola ndi wokongola. Koma kusudzula kungafanane ndi mtanda wolemera, umene anthu amanyamula miyoyo yawo yonse ndipo samaganiza kuti ndikofunikira kuchotsa.