Koma kodi mungasankhe bwanji mphatso yachikondi kwa mwamuna wake? Njira yokhala yophweka ndi yophweka: muyenera kungochepetsedwa ndi zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku, kupatula nthawi pang'ono kuganizira za izi, kukonda, kuphatikizapo malingaliro ndikuyiwala konse kukayikira.
Mphatso yopangidwa ndi manja.
Kodi chingakhale chikondi chotani kuposa gizmo yopangidwa ndi manja? Chodabwitsa, chopangidwa kwa iye yekha ndi malingaliro ake, kuganiza kuti chikugwirizana ndi khalidwe lake ndi zikhumbo zake - ndithudi adzakumbukiridwa ndi munthu aliyense. Inde, kulimba mtima kumafunika apa. Koma simungakhoze kuiwala kuti anthu amakhala osamvetsetseka kusiyana ndi magawo awo awiri. Ndipo ngati mwamuna ndi amene mbali yowonjezera yayamba kale, wina akhoza kuyembekezera mwachidwi kuti malingaliro ake ndi zilakolako zake zimasonyeza mwazinthu zambiri zomwe mkazi wake wokondedwa amamva. Ndipotu, mfundo yakuti mamembala a banjawo amatsatizana kale atsimikiziridwa kale ndi sayansi.
Ndipo kusankha kwa mphatso mu gulu lotere ndikulondola. Izi zikhoza kukhala chilichonse chimene mkazi angakhoze kuchita: chithunzi chachikondi chokongoletsedwa pamtanda ndikuikidwa mu chimango chokongola, chophiphiritsira chapamwamba kuchokera ku njira yopangira chikondi, ikebana yoboola ngati maluwa, yopangidwa ndi mtima, kapangidwe ndi mtima, kapena mtolo wa satin. Mpango ndi ziyambi zake, thukuta ndi kuvomereza chikondi, moyo watsopano wa zipatso, wokhala ndi chikhalidwe cha chikondi kapena mkate wophika ndi mbiri yake ya kirimu.
Mphatso yapadera kwa mwamuna wanga - chakudya chamakono. Sichiyenera kukhala ndi makandulo kapena nyimbo zochepa. Makamaka ngati wokondedwayo akumva wosasangalatsa ndi kusowa kwauni kapena kuti amamukonda kwambiri thanthwe lalikulu. Ndikofunika kuti usakonze chakudya chamadzulo ndikukongoletsa mogwirizana ndi chitsanzo chomwe chimatchedwa chikondi pakati pa anthu. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kukonzekera chirichonse kuti zidzudzule mumtima mwake. Zakudya zokondedwa, zokongoletsedwa mosayembekezereka, zokonzedweratu monga mwa dongosolo lapadera (limene, ndithudi, adzayenera kufotokoza) ndi mkazi wokongola ndi kumwetulira kwa munthu wodziwa bwino, wodziwonetsa yekha chikondi, ndi mphatso imene munthu aliyense adzakumbukire kwa nthawi yaitali. Makamaka ngati chakudya chamadzulo chimachitidwa momwe amachitira ndipo adzatha ndi zochitika zomwe zidzamusangalatsa kwambiri.
Mphatso yosakondana yachikondi.
Osati kwenikweni, kuyesera kusintha mphatso ya mwamuna wake ku njira yolondola, kulowetsa mu chiwombankhanga cha gezmos chodziwika bwino. Mafanizo a makapu, madengu a maluwa, positiketi ndi kuvomereza kwaulemu ndi mbuzi kwa awiri ndi mphatso zabwino zachikondi kwa akazi. Amuna ndi othandiza kwambiri. Amawona zinthu zenizeni koyambirira kuyambira pakuwona kuti ndizofunikira, ndiyeno - za tanthauzo la ndalama. Chosiyana ndi chinthu chopangidwa ndi osankhidwa ake. Mphatso imeneyi munthu wamba silingaganizidwe, monga chinthu china, m'moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku wogwiritsidwa ntchito. M'malo mwake, adzayesa kuteteza chinthu ichi ngakhale chowopsya chovala ndipo adzachisunga mosamala kwambiri ndi mtima.
Koma kugula mphatso kumafunika ndithu. Ndipo ngati mzimayi akufuna kuti mphatso yake ikhale yachikondi, ndiye kuti ndizokwanira kuti asankhe chinthu chomwe chili chofunikira kwambiri kwa mwamuna wake, ndikuchikonza pang'ono, kumupatsa chikondi chowoneka bwino. Kotero, gulu loyamba - zinthu zilizonse zothandiza pamtima, Cupid ndi miyeso ina ya Mfumu Yake ya Chikondi. Pano chisankho ndi chachikulu: kwa woyendetsa makompyuta - mbewa pamtundu wa mtima, kwa banki - kapu ya banki ya nkhumba, kwa inshuwalansi chitsanzo cha ndondomeko kuti atsimikizire mtima wake kuti asaswe. Ndikofunika kuti mphatso yachikondi ikhale yachindunji kwa iye ndi yosankhidwa malinga ndi zofuna zake ndi zokondweretsa, ndipo ngakhale kumupangira mawonekedwe achikondi omwe mungathe komanso nokha.
Gulu lachiwiri ndi mphatso zogula zamatsenga. Ili ndi mphatso yapadera yomwe munthu ayenera kusamala kwambiri. Ziribe kanthu momwe wosankhidwayo alili womvera ndi wokhazikika mu ubale wake ndi zokondana, mphatso yotere kuchokera kwa mkaziyo ikhoza kumukakamiza kumaganiza zosautsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati ali ndi nsanje, mphatso yochokera ku shopu yogonana ingakhale chifukwa chake kuti akayikire kukhulupirika kwa mkazi wake. Pokhapokha ngati kudzidalira kwake kumakhala kosakwanira, angaganize kuti sakonda kwambiri yemwe amamukonda. Choncho, pofuna kupereka mphatso kwa mwamuna wake, ndikofunika kukonzekera ndikutsatira mawu, osaphatikizapo kusamvetsetsana koteroko. Chisankho chabwino pa izi ndi masewera a masewera a chikhalidwe chokondana. Adzakhala ndi chikondi ndi munthu aliyense, chifukwa nthawi zambiri kugonana kolimba kumakhala kosavuta kukhalabe mwana mpaka kukalamba.
Zakale za mphatso zachikondi.
Osati kale kwambiri, maphunziro adachitidwa omwe adawululira dziko zinthu zambiri zochititsa chidwi za momwe amuna amamvera mphatso za chikondi kuchokera kwa akazi okondedwa awo. Chinthu chochititsa chidwi cha phunziroli ndi chakuti amuna okhawo a zaka zapakati pa 25 ndi 37 omwe akhala m'banja losangalala kwa zaka zosachepera 2 akhala akugwira nawo ntchito, ndipo osakwatirana, osalandira mphatso zachikondi kwa okondedwa awo.
Zidawoneka kuti mphatso yawo yogwira mtima kwambiri idzakhala zinthu zitatu. Choyamba, uwu ndi ulendo wosayembekezereka mu chikondi cha mzinda wa usiku. Ngakhale anthu omwe amafufuza kuti adziwe ngati akukula akulankhula kuti akuyenda mumsewu wopita kukambirana ndi amayi omwe amakhala ndi malo ambiri okondana, omwe amatha ndi usiku wamkuntho wokonda chikondi, mwachitsanzo, mu chipinda cha hotelo kapena motel, iwo angakhale osangalatsa kwambiri . Zonse zokhudzana ndi kukhazikitsidwa kwa ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi: nthawi zambiri amamuitanira ku mabungwe osiyanasiyana - mahoitchini, mahobe, mabala, zosangalatsa zosangalatsa. Ndipo iye amangomutsatira iye kupita ku malo ake osankhidwa. Chotsatira chake, chikadali chinsinsi kwa mwamuna wake kulikonse kumene amutsogolera, ngati udindo wa wopereka waperekedwa kwa amayi.
Chachiwiri, amuna okwatirana samakonda kwenikweni pamene amapatsidwa maluwa. Zowonjezereka, pamene amaperekedwa ndi anzako, anzanu, abwenzi ndi mabwenzi awo. Koma mzimayi wake maluwa, owala kwambiri komanso makamaka maluwa - amuna ambiri amavomereza ngati chidziwitso cha chikondi. Iwo sangadzitamande chifukwa cha mphatso iyi pagulu, koma chikondi chake sichitha kuchepetsa.
Chachitatu, chokoleti, zakudya zamatabwa, nsalu ya bedi ndi chikondi - amuna awa amasangalatsidwa kwambiri. Osati mu phukusi lokongola, ndi uta pa bokosi. Ndipo amatha kufalikira pa kama (ngati ndi lala) kapena amaikidwa mu mbale (zokoma). Kwa iwo, mu nkhani iyi, si mphatsoyo yokhayo yomwe ndi yachikondi, koma yofunikira.