Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Nchifukwa chiyani achinyamata adakopeka kuti alowe mu chiyanjano ndi wina wamkulu wamkulu? Nchifukwa chiyani anyamata akusankha akazi achikulire kuposa iwowo?
Pambuyo pake, palibe china chokongola kuposa kuyang'ana achinyamata angapo, pafupifupi zaka zofanana. Chifukwa cha malingaliro a anthu, timakonda chiyanjano cha mtundu umenewu. Ndipo, pamene mnyamata wamng'ono ndi mkazi wachikulire akudutsa nanu, akugwira manja ndikukamwetulira mokondana wina ndi mzake, mosasamala ife timamveka mphuno zathu ndikusiya mawu osalankhula poti achoka: "Sindinapeze mtsikana" kapena "Inde" iye akhoza kukhala woyenera kwa amayi ake. "
Timaiwala mawu akuti "zaka zonse zimagonjera chikondi." Sungathe kukondana, kulemekezana, chilakolako chiripo pakati pa awiriwa?
Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani anyamata amasankha akazi okalamba kuposa iwowo?
Pali zifukwa zingapo. Choyamba, mayi wachikulire ali ndi maganizo osiyana kwambiri ndi mtsikana. Chachiwiri, mkazi wachikulire, yemwe ali kale zaka zoposa khumi ndi ziwiri pambuyo pake, ali ndi mwayi wapadera. Iye ndi wochenjera, wowerengedwa bwino, wodziwa bwino - ndi iye mnyamata wamng'onoyo adzakhala ndi chidwi nthawi zonse. Pa nthawi yomweyi, wachinyamata nthawi zonse adzakhala ndi mwayi wophunzira chinachake kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wake, kuti aphunzire pazochitikira zomwe zingamuthandize m'moyo wotsatira. Chachitatu, chinthu chachikulu chimene chimakopa anyamata ndizochitidwa ndi mwamuna wachikulire. Ndiponso, ali ndi zambiri zoti aphunzire. Ndili ndi mwamuna wamkulu wamkulu, anyamata achichepere kawirikawiri amakhala amuna enieni. Zinthu zosavuta nthawi zambiri zimatha kupezeka chifukwa cha kusadziŵa zofanana pakati pa awiriwa.
Musaiwale kuti akazi okhwima kufikira zaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi kudza makumi asanu ndi limodzi, ali kale umunthu. Mkazi wokhwima amaima molimba, samadalira munthu aliyense. Amadziwa mosapita m'mbali kuti ali ndi chirichonse ndipo ngati pakakhala vuto, munthu yekhayo amene angamudalire ndiyekha. Wodzidalira, wodzidalira, wokhutira - ndi mkazi uyu amene amakopera achinyamata, osati achinyamata odziwa bwino ntchito.
Kodi pali ubale wamtsogolo pakati pa mnyamata wamng'ono ndi mkazi wamkulu?
Ndi kovuta kuyankha funsoli, chifukwa aliyense wa ife ali ndi tsogolo lathu, ndipo palibe mwayi wowona zam'tsogolo.
Koma, mukhoza kulingalira zotsatira zonse zomwe zingatheke pamene mnyamata akusankha mkazi wamkulu kuposa iyeyo. Inde, pali zitsanzo pamene maubwenzi amenewa amakhala otalika, pamene onse awiri amakonda komanso akusangalala. Koma, monga lamulo, maubwenzi oterewa sakhalapo nthawi yayitali.
Ndipo zonse chifukwa, monga sikuli kunyoza, posachedwa kapena mtsogolo, kusiyana kwa msinkhu kudzakhala ndi udindo wake. Kapena mkazi adzasokonezeka ndi ubale umenewu ndi mnyamata wamng'ono. Adzaleka kukonda nthawi zonse komanso muzonse kukhala chinthu chachikulu, kukhala "amayi". Pambuyo pake, mkazi aliyense amafuna kumva kuti akutetezedwa, ndipo mochulukirapo, ambiri samayesedwa kuti azikhala nthawi zonse komanso pazinthu zonse kuti azikhala ndi udindo wotsogola.
Nthawi zambiri maukwati osagwirizana amathera chifukwa chakuti mkazi amatsekera yekha nthawi. Amakhulupirira kuti sali woyenera chiyanjano choterocho. Ali wamkulu, amakhala pafupi kwambiri pamene mnyamata wake wokondedwa ayamba kuyang'ana atsikana aang'ono. Zikatero, ngakhale khalidwe labwino la mnyamata yemwe amayesa kumutsutsa mnzake mu malingaliro ovuta sangamupulumutse. Mayi akamatsekera mantha ndi maofesi ake, monga lamulo, ndiye yekha amene angamuthandize.
Kulongosola kwina. Chifukwa chiyani osagwirizanitsa mgwirizanowu ndi mwamuna weniweni. Atakhala ndi chidziwitso ndi kudzidalira, motero, pokhala atakomoka, mnyamatayo akuyamba kuganiza mosiyana. Iye akufuna kale (ndipo ali ndi chidaliro mu luso lake) kuti adziyese yekha ndi atsikana aang'ono.
Khalani monga momwe zingakhalire, musaiwale kuti mibadwo yonse ikugonjera kukonda. Ndipo, ngakhale ngati chimwemwe chanu sichikhala motalika, muyenera kusangalala kokha kuti m'moyo wanu munali nthawi yosangalatsa.