M'dziko lamakono nthawi zambiri amalembedwa kuti apanikize, ndipo mavuto mu gawo la kugonana sali chimodzimodzi. Zoonadi, mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana ali ndi zotsatira zake zowononga, timakhala okwiya, osasokonezeka komanso osokonezeka. Katswiri aliyense wa zamaganizo anganene kuti mavuto ali pabedi ndi chizindikiro choonekeratu kuti pali mavuto mu ubale wawo. Choncho pofuna kuthetsa mavuto opatsirana pogonana, muyenera kupeza chifukwa chenicheni chimene chakukhudzani, ndikuyamba kuchichotsa.
Anthu ambiri amapezeka kuti chilichonse chozungulira sichoncho. Kuntchito, nthawi imakwera pang'onopang'ono, ndipo imasowa nthawi zonse, mabwana amakhala okhumudwa nthawi zonse ndikuyika maganizo awo, kunyumba, zinthu zambiri zomwe ziribe nthawi, nthawi, osakhumba. Chifukwa chake, zolakwikazo zimakula pang'onopang'ono, kukula chifukwa cha nkhawa.
Otopa komanso amakhalidwe abwino, anthu, mosasamala za msinkhu wawo, sangathe kuganiza zokwaniritsa zosowa zawo zogonana. Zofukufuku zasonyeza kuti anthu oposa 40% a zaka zapakati pa 35 ndi 46 safuna kugonana pamene akuvutika maganizo. Ndiye, mungachite chiyani ngati simukufuna kugonana? Akatswiri a zamaganizo amapereka malangizo angapo.
- Chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuti muzindikire, ndizofunikira kuti mukhale nokha, kuti pali zifukwa zomwe simukufunira kugonana, mwachitsanzo simunagone usiku, chifukwa mwana wodwala sanakulole kuti iwe uchite izo, kubisala kuntchito, kapena kutopa kwa banal. Pamapeto pake, ndinu munthu wamoyo, osati robot ndipo simungathe kusintha zovuta za moyo wanu wonse. Zikatero, simukuyenera kudzizunza nokha, kutsimikizira kwa aliyense kuti ndiwe mkazi wabwino kwambiri amene angadye ndi kuyeretsa ndi kusamba ndi kugona ndi kuika mwamuna wake wokondwa, kungodzipumula. Perekani ntchito zina zapakhomo kwa mwamuna wanu, chitani mokweza, chifukwa amuna samatha kuwerenga maganizo, monga amayi. Musati muzichita mwadzidzidzi ndi zonena, kungofotokozera mwamtendere mkhalidwewo, mwamuna ndi mwamuna, iye amamvetsa ndikumva chisoni.
- Ganizilani, muli ndi chilakolako chogonana pogonana. Ndipotu, kuchuluka kwa mahomoni ofunika kuti thupi lachikazi likhale lopangidwa osati pokhapokha panthawi yogonana, nthawi zina zimangokwanira kupweteka komanso kusisita. Ngati kugonana kumakupangitsani kumva kukhala kofunika komanso kokongola, valani kavalidwe kodabwitsa kwambiri, khalani ndi tsitsi, mutuluke ndikukangana ndi munthu wina kuti mukhale wokondweretsa (chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi). Ngati kugonana ndi njira yodzipangira nokha, yesani mphamvu yanu mu njira ina, funsani ntchito yosangalatsa, ikhale yophika yopangira pulasitiki kapena pulasitiki, ndipo pembedzerani ndi mutu wanu, podziwa nokha, ndi zina, kupeza luso lothandiza.
- Musayese kusunga zosatheka. Maganizo sangakhoze kukhala nthawizonse monga analiri pachiyambi, amasintha mofanana ndi momwe timasinthira. Iwo samaipiraipira, iwo amangokhala osiyana, okhwima kwambiri ndi amphamvu.
- Musaiwale wina ndi mnzake. Musalole ntchito, moyo ndi chizoloŵezi kutenga nthawi yanu yonse. Siyani pang'ono kwa wina ndi mzake. Ngati maubwenzi anu sali okhudzana ndi kugonana, koma chifukwa cha chikondi ndi chikondi, ndiye kuti chidwi chenicheni kwa wina ndi mzake chidzakulolani kuchotsa kudziletsa kwa nthawi yayitali.
- Sinthani malo a dislocation. Palibe chomwe chimathandiza kuthetsa mavuto ndi malingaliro osangalatsa, monga kusintha kwa mkhalidwewo. Yesetsani kukhala pamodzi nthawi zambiri, osati pabedi ndi TV, koma kwinakwake kunja kwanu. Pitani kwa mwamuna kukagwira ntchito ndi kumuitanira ku kanema kapena cafe, kapena kungoyenda. Ndipo ichi sichiyenera kukhala chimodzimodzi!
- Khalani ofanana. Zimadziwika kuti munthu amafunika nthawi yochepa kuti afike pachimake kuposa mkazi. Kodi zimadziwika kwa munthu wanu? Kodi amadziwa zomwe mumakonda pazogonana, kodi mumakonda malo otani, malo anu ovuta kwambiri ali kuti, pamapeto pake mumakonda mukukambirana? Ngati simukudziwa yankho la mafunso awa, mwamsanga muwafotokozere, ndipo ngati kuli koyenera, fotokozani mkhalidwewo. Kugonana kuyenera kuchitidwa payekha, koma ngati sikuli kugonana, koma kudzisangalatsa, komwe mnzanuyo sakufunikira.
- Ngati mukufuna kukwaniritsa, simukusowa zolaula, koma zifukwa zamphamvu. Ganizilani phindu la kugonana kwa thanzi, kuwerenga mabuku ofunikira, kapena kufufuza zolondola pa intaneti, kugwiritsira ntchito mfundo zenizeni ndikuchita bizinesi.