Ndipo iwo anadziwitsanso kuti ndi hormone yotani yomwe imayambitsa zomwe. Nanga chikondi chaukwati ndi chiani? Dopamine - chifukwa cha chimwemwe, serotonin - chifukwa chokhazikika maganizo, phenylethylamine - chifukwa chachisangalalo, ndipo norepinephrine imakupatsani "mapiko kumbuyo kwanu." Maganizo athu amayendetsedwa ndi zinthu zomwe zimayambitsa zamoyo za thupi lathu: amphetamines, oxytocins ndi endorphins.
Zamoyo zimapangidwira kwa iwo. Zili ngati mankhwala osokoneza bongo, tikusowa zambiri kuti tilimbikitse malo amanjenje, motero timapanga chikondi. Mahomoni awa amapereka chinyengo cha chikondi. Pambuyo pa nthawi inayake, ndipo molondola, pambuyo pa zaka 3-4, njirazi zimasiya kugwira ntchito. Chikondi ndi kukopa, ndithudi, zimatha. Wokondedwa aliyense akufunikira chinthu chatsopano cha chidwi. Choncho, chikondi chonse ndi chisakanizo chafizikiki, zamagetsi, thupi ... Njira yeniyeni ya chikondi muukwati.
Ndi chikondi chanji chomwe tikhoza kukambirana? Zonsezi ndizo izi. Ndipo moyo waumunthu umatsimikizira kuti thupi limakhala lopanda chikondi.
Zosangalatsa?
Zotsatira za nthendayi za mahomoni, zomwe, ngati palibe chokwanira kupanga, zimayambitsa kusowa chikondi, ndiyeno zimasiya kuchitapo kanthu ndikupempha chinthu chatsopano, kuphatikizapo chidziwitso cha kupitiriza kwa mtundu, ndizo zotsalira za nthano zokongola za chikondi chapamwamba.
Komabe, pazifukwa zina ndikufuna kukhulupirira kuti kulibe kwinakwake, kuti n'zosatheka kuchepetsa kokha kapangidwe ka kemisi ndi thupi. Chifukwa pali chinthu chosaoneka ndi chosaoneka mwa munthu aliyense, chomwe timachitcha kuti Soul. Zosamvetsetseka, chinsinsi chosasintha cha munthu, chikondi chake.
Inde, amaloledwa kupanga mwatsatanetsatane zomwe zimachitika ndi zovuta zowoneka ndi zovuta, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mahomoni ena ndi zinthu zina zimasulidwe m'magazi. Mukhoza kulenga zinthu, kuwona zotsatira za zochita za mahomoniwa. Komabe, n'zotheka kukhudza zida zoonda za moyo. Maganizo, maloto, zoyembekeza, chifundo, kukana - zonsezi sizikulenga mwadala.
Ngakhale munthu akumbukira ndikuphunzira kuti adziŵe zomwe akufuna, amakhalanso choonadi chofunikira mkati mwa munthu amene samakulolani kupanga chikondi "choyera."
Mkati mwa aliyense wa ife muli liwu lachilendo, lomwe mwini wake amalankhula ndi mtendere. Liwu ili limadziwa zonse zokhudza chikondi chenicheni. Ndipo sangathe kunyengedwa ndi mahomoni, chifukwa cha iye simungathe kupanga chikhalidwe cha chikondi.
Kuti ziwonekere, n'zotheka kunyenga munthu mwa kutsindika chifukwa chake ndi thupi lake, kenako amasewera kwa nthawi yambiri pa malamulo omwe amachokera kunja, akugonjera zochitika zosakhalitsa za khalidwe, zochita zake zimakhala zodziwika. Koma panthawi ina chinthu chamkati chimachotsa chipolopolo chokongola ndipo chimamuululira munthuyo zokhumba zake zenizeni. Chokhacho mtima wake umadziwa.
Izi ndizo zomwe zimagwirizanitsa kwambiri ndi cosmos, zomwe zimagonjetsa nzeru zakuya, zomwe palibe wina pa dziko lapansi wokhoza kufotokoza momveka bwino.
Koma kodi timatha kumvetsera ndi kumva mawu awa? Nthawi zonse timasokonezeka ndi chinachake, mwachitsanzo, chizoloŵezi chovomereza zomwe tikuzifuna panopa.
Zomwe tingamve sizomwe zimakhala zosangalatsa kwa ife, chifukwa zimatipangitsa kuti tisawonongeke pamaso pathu ndi ena, zikuwonetsa zolakwitsa zathu ndi zolakwitsa, ndicho chizindikiro cha zolephereka zathu, zolakwika, zosayenerera. Ndani amakonda kuona chitsimikiziro cha zofooka zawo pamunthu wa wokondedwa? Chifukwa chake, timayesetsa kuti tisamawone zenizeni, ndipo kuganizira za izi ndizovomerezeka kwa ife pakalipano, timapanga chikondi chathu m'banja.
Zochitika za anthu ndi zofanana zogwirizana.
Tingathe kunena zikwi zana kuti sitimasamala zomwe anthu akunena za ife. Koma yankho, moona mtima, kodi zochita zanu ndi anthu zimadalira chiwerengero cha anthu ambiri kapena ochepa, mwachidziwikire, cha mtundu uliwonse? Timamuopa, timamvetsera. Lamulo lokhudzana ndi kukhalapo kwa anthu mdziko, ndipo izi sizingasinthe. Koma malamulo a anthu sagonjetsa chikondi chathu, palibe amene adzakukakamizani kuti muzitsatira chikondi chachilendo.
Zosowa zathu kwa inu nokha. Ife ndife aulesi kwambiri kuti tiganizire za mkhalidwe wathu, nthawi ndi nthawi timachita zofuna za moyo, osati mwadzidzidzi, koma pazinthu zina zomwe tinakonzeratu, kuchokera ku chikhulupiliro chakuti iwowo kamodzi anatulukira. Sitikuyesera kuti tipeze yankho la funso lofunsidwa ndi moyo - tikufulumira kuchita zomwe anthu ambiri amachita pazochitika zoterozo. Koma ngakhale zili choncho, aliyense wa ife ndi wapadera, ndipo aliyense wa ife ali ndi malo ake omwe ali ndi makhalidwe, maluso ake ndi nkhope yake yeniyeni, yomwe sitikudziwa, chifukwa sitinayang'anenso.
Fufuzani njira zosavuta. Timatsatira njira yosatsutsika. Muukwati timayesetsa kuchita zonse kuti zikhale zabwino kwa ife. Tikuopa kuona ndi kuthetsa mavuto. Timakhulupirira kuti chikondi ndi, pambuyo pa zonse, osati katorga ndipo simumachita khama. Ndipo komabe, chikondi ndi ntchito ya hellish ya moyo wathu, choncho sichimangopereka, koma amatenga chinachake kuchokera kwa ife mphindi iliyonse. Ambiri a ife timakhulupirira kuti chikondi ndi mndandanda wosatha wa zosangalatsa ndi madalitso. Komabe, kumbukirani kuti chikondicho chimaphatikizapo kukhumudwa, nsanje ndi misonzi.
Popanda ululu wamkati, ntchito yowonongeka ya moyo wathu, sikutheka kuigwira mwamphamvu. Zili ngati mkati mkati mwa babu. Koma ngati mumakhudza, mumamva kuti ntchito yaikulu ili pansi pa galasi. Ndipo izo zidzakupwetekani inu.
Pafupifupi zinthu zonse zofunika sizingatheke m'mawu okongola okha, omwe akukonzekera kulengeza pamene akulankhulana ndi wokondedwa pazithunzi za chibwenzi. Moyo waumunthu amangomangidwa osati pa maswiti, maluwa, mawu achifundo. Mu moyo palinso ululu, ndi ntchito, ndi kuzunzidwa. Ngati wina akuwopa ndikukhulupirira zimenezo
iwo sakugwirizana ndi malingaliro enieni, iwo akulakwitsa.
Mu nthawi zovuta za maubwenzi, timatha kuona nkhope yeniyeni ya wokondedwa wathu, kuchokera pamene masks onse akuuluka, nthabwala zonse. Theognis anati: "Mwanjira ina, imvani khalidwe la anzanu, makamaka, tawonani, ndani ali wokwiya." Mungathenso kunena za chikondi.
Komabe, musati mutengere kwenikweni, chifukwa mwachisoni, mu chikhalidwe chokhudza, munthu akhoza kunena zinthu zoopsa zomwe zingakhoze kupha ngakhale chikondi. Mabanja zikwizikwi amatha kusokonezeka, kutaya chikhalidwe chogwirizana cha chikondi muukwati, komanso osapirira kutentha kwa zilakolako zomwe nthawi zina zimakhala pakati pa okondedwa. Munthu ali wofooka, wachiwerewere ndipo nthawi zambiri amalephera.
Komabe, penapake mu kuya kwa moyo ndi timer countdown zabodza. Akadzibisira yekha, amadziŵa. Munthu amadziwa nthawi zonse pamene ubongo wake umapusitsa mutu wake, ndipo sachita nthawi zina pa moyo wake, koma motere:
- monga ziyenera kukhalira;
- monga lamulo la phukusi likunena;
- monga wina adazikonzera.
Moyo ndi chinthu chonyenga. Nthaŵi ndi nthawi amatumizidwa kumangidwe oterowo, iwo amagona ndi zinyalala zambiri moti simungayambe. Komabe, ndibwino kuyesa.
Chikondi chimayang'ana nkhope yeniyeni ya munthu, ngakhale m'misautso yoopsya kwambiri, mowopsya kwambiri, zomwe timatenga nthawi ndi nthawi. Chizindikiro cha chikondi muukwati chimafuna kuvomereza.
Kotero, chomwe chiri muzinthu izi za mawonetseredwe a munthu, timadziwana.
Chinachake chimapangitsa munthu kukhala wapafupi kwambiri ndi dziko lapansi, ndipo mwakonzeka kumusonyeza ngakhale mbali zovuta kwambiri za khalidwe lanu ndipo mumalola kuti mukhale ofooka, opanda ungwiro, osakhala okongola kwambiri, osakwanira - monga momwe mulili. Ndipo iye sakupatuka kwa inu, koma amakukondani kwambiri ndipo amakuonani monga momwe mumachitira. Izi ndizofunika kwambiri.
Kukhulupilira munthu wina, ine mwini, wosatetezeka komanso wosatetezeka, kudalira kwathunthu ndi zosasintha, kudziwa ndi kuzindikira kuti pochita zimenezi mudzatetezedwa ndi kudalira - ichi ndi chizindikiro choyamba chakumverera koona, panthawi ino chikondi chaukwati chimayambira pang'ono zinthu.
Ndipo komabe ... Tili okonzeka kukonda anthu onse, koma sitikudziwa momwe tingakonde munthu wina. Tikufuna kuti chikondi chathu chikhale chokongola, chokongola kwambiri, monga chojambula mu Album, tikufuna kupanga njira yabwino ya chikondi muukwati. Inde, chifukwa moyo wathu wa tsiku ndi tsiku umakhala wowawa kwambiri! Ngakhale mungathe kulota za chikondi?
Ndipotu, chikondi chimakhala chonchi. Iye, taganizirani, akugwirizana ndi zotsalira za moyo monga kuyeretsa nyumba ndi kutulutsa zinyalala, masokosi osayera ndi maunyolo amvula. Ndipo kwa ichi muyenera kukhala wokonzeka, muyenera kupanga njira yanu yachikondi.
Musaiwale kuti chikondi nthawi yomweyo chimagwira ntchito ndikupumula, ndi moyo basi, mpweya womwewo, popanda chilichonse chimene chimawonongeka. Ndipo muyenera kuvomereza ndi mavuto onse, kusagwirizana, kukhumudwa ndi kupeza, ululu, zosangalatsa, chimwemwe, chifukwa popanda chikondi, moyo wa munthu ulibe kanthu.