Kodi mungapeze bwanji munthu wapamtima? Palibe malingaliro enieni, kotero aliyense amachita mosiyana. Ena amakula pamodzi, amaphunzira, kupanga mabwenzi, ndiyeno amalumikizana ndikupanga banja. Ena amalira mwakachetechete pamene akukhala pakhomo ndipo musachite khama. Enanso amafunafuna bwenzi pa gawo lalikulu kapena laling'ono la moyo wodziwa. Nthawi zina amapeza mofulumira, nthawi zina amasintha anzawo, monga magolovesi. Chikondi chingafike "mwangozi ngati simukuyembekezera" ndikukhala moyo wonse ... Kapena simungakhoze kuyima nthawi.
Ndipo mu nkhaniyi ndikuyesera kukuuzani momwe mungapezere mwamsanga mnzanu wapamtima. Ndipo uphungu waukulu sungakhale "kuyembekezera nyengo panyanja", koma kuti muchite khama, yesetsani kudziwana bwino, chidwi ndi kusunga munthu.
Kumene mungakumane nawo?
Inde, paliponse. Poyenda pagalimoto, komwe mungakumane ndi munthu wina woyenda pakhomo; pa phunziro kapena kuntchito, kumene mumadziwa zambiri za anzako; pa maphunziro, masemina, mawonetsero, mawonetsero pa phunziro lomwe mukulifunira, kumene mungakumane ndi anthu amalingaliro, kapena munthu amene ali ndi zofanana; pa zikondwerero za nyimbo, zikondwerero, zomwe kawirikawiri zimachezeredwa ndi atsikana ambiri ndi achinyamata; pa tchuthi - paulendo, m'mphepete mwa nyanja, dokotala, m'sitilanti, sauna. Mukhoza kudziŵa bwino m'mapaki, mabwalo, pamakwerero kapena pamsewu wa magalimoto, pa intaneti, mu masewero a masewera ... Palibe malo enieni okhudzana ndi chibwenzi, zonse zimadalira zochitika, kuchokera kwa munthu mwiniyo. Nthaŵi zina chibwenzi chimangochitika mwachidziŵitso: "Ndinayang'ana mmbuyo kuti ndiwone ngati akuyang'ana mmbuyo kuti aone ngati ndayang'ana kumbuyo." Chinthu chachikulu sikuti tikhale kunyumba.
Kodi mungakonde bwanji?
Kaŵirikaŵiri pamayesero, njirayi ndi ya mwamuna. Cholinga chake - kupeza chifukwa cha chibwenzi. Malangizo kwa amuna.
Malangizo kwa amuna.
1. Chitani choyamba ndipo musamaope kuti "mutenge." Musati muphimbe mantha anu okumana nawo zifukwa zina, koma kumenyana nawo. Mu moyo wonse, phunzirani kuthetsa mantha anu ndi kusatetezeka mu chinachake. Ndipo atsikana adzayamikira izo.
2. Mtsikana ndi munthu. Ndipo akufuna kulankhulana, kukhala mabwenzi. Choncho, yesetsani ku "mafilimu ochezeka", kuyankhulana, momwe mungalankhulire ndi mnyamata yemwe sadziwa bwino. Nthawi zonse muzilemekeza umunthu wa msungwanayo. Ndiye adzakulemekezani ndikukukondani, akufikira kwa inu.
3. Mphungu sizidzapweteka. Musalankhule za inu nokha mwakamodzi. Khalani chete pa chinthu china, lonjezerani kuyankhula nthawi ina. Mukhoza kudziwa za mtundu wa ntchito, zofuna, udindo wa ufulu waumwini. Pa nthawi yomweyi, tidzikanire pang'ono ndipo musamanamize chinthu chachikulu, kuti asungwana asakonde.
4.Zowonjezera ngati chizindikiro cha chidwi. N'zosatheka kuti aliyense wa akazi adzalandire. Ndipo ngati mtsikanayo walandira mphatsoyo, zimakhala zovuta kuti asayankhe zomwe mukufuna.
5. "Akazi amakonda makutu." Choncho, nthawi zambiri amamutchula dzina lake, musamangomuthokoza, nthabwala, ngati n'koyenera. Zonsezi zimayambitsa chisomo ndikutsutsa.
6. Mtsikana akhoza kukwiya kapena nkhawa. Choncho, sikovuta kusiya kuyesera kuti mudziwe bwino, komanso kukhala amwano. Musayankhe mwachinyengo kuti mukhale amwano - tulukani m'mbuyo makutu. Choncho, simungathe kukhala pachibwenzi "funsani ubale", ndipo mtsikanayo sakunena kuti ndinu wamwano poyamba. Chitani ichi ndi kuseketsa. Ndi bwino kumwetulira poyankha, kupepesa, mukhoza kunyoza, kapena kunena monga: "chomwe uli, chomwe iwe", "inde-ah-ah" ... izi ndi zothandiza kwambiri.
7. Musamunamize mtsikanayo. Mwina sangalowe m'maganizo, koma amvetsetsa zonse, atenge yekha, asiye kukhulupilira, ndipo zidzakhala zovuta kuti muyambe kukondana kwambiri.
8. Pezani njira yanu ndikulimbikira. Atsikana amayamikira. Koma musakhale okhumudwa, osangalatsa komanso okhumudwitsa. Atsikana sangathe kupirira okha.
Koma munakumana ndi kumuitana mtsikanayo pa tsiku kapena muli naye yekha ndipo mukufuna kuyamba kukambirana. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Musamangodandaula ndi mafunso okhudza moyo wanu. Yambani ndi mitu yodziwika. Choyamba, ganizirani kuti mumadziwa za mtsikana uyu, zomwe amakonda, zomwe amamukonda, ndi kumufunsa za izo. Mungathe kukambirana nawo omwe mumadziwana nawo, kuphunzira, ntchito. Kapena pitani pa anthu otchuka: nyimbo, cinema, mabuku, mafunso a filosofi, mabungwe, malo odyera, malo okondedwa ndi osakondedwa mumzinda, ndi zina zotero. Chinthu chachikulu: musasinthe kukambirana kukhala mafunso. Tiuzeni za inu nokha, zofuna zanu, ndiyeno mupeze momwe mtsikanayo amaonera zinthu zoterezi. Mvetserani mwatcheru ndikufotokozera zomwe mumauzidwa. Ganizirani zomwe zikuchitika ndikuwonetsani malingaliro. Ngati mutu wa zokambiranazo watopa - kusintha kwabwino. Musakambirane nkhani zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa inu - izi zikhoza kuchitika mukamadziwana komanso mutamvana bwino.
Mayi akamapereka chitsogozo kwa mwamuna, ntchito yomwe akuyang'anizana nayo ndiyo kudziyang'ana yekha.
Malangizo kwa atsikana.
1. Nthawi zambiri pitani kumene mungakumane ndi munthu.
2. Yesetsani kumuona mwamunayo, kuti mumusangalatse. Kuti muchite izi, mutengere pulogalamu yamakono ndi kugonana. Onetsani momveka bwino kuti mumadziŵa bwino, ndipo simungatumize, kutali. Yendani pambali pake kuti amve fungo lanu, yongolani tsitsi lanu, kuyang'ana m'maso mwake, kumwetulira pang'ono. Brazenly akuweramitsa ndikuyang'ana kuti iwe wagwa chinachake.
3. Lowani "malo ozungulira" a munthuyo, ndiko kuti, kuyandikira mtunda wapatali kwa iye, womwe umayamba kumva wokhala nawo pafupi-theka la mita. Mu dzanja lanu, mutha kukhala ndi chinthu china, mwachitsanzo, magazini, kuti ikhale ndi mutu wokambirana.
4.Ngati pambuyo pake sakuonetsa ntchito, yambani ndikulankhulana poyamba. Yankhulani chinachake mopanda ndale, mwachitsanzo, kuti nkhope yake ikuwoneka bwino kwa inu. Mukhoza kufunsa ora liti, kupeza momwe mungapezere adiresi, funsani malangizo. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuyamba kukambirana. Mulole zokambiranazo zitsogolere munthu, ndipo mumachirikize, mwaluso mukutsogolera mafunso omwe mumakhala nawo kuti macheza asokonezeke. Kawirikawiri, khulupirirani chidwi chanu. Mwina mnyamata sangasewere ndi malamulo anu, choncho khalani olimba mtima. Ngati mutalephera kudziwana, simungataye chilichonse.
Kodi mungasunge bwanji?
Wokhudzidwa ndi momwe mwamsanga mumapezera munthu wapamtima kulenga mu malingaliro awo abwino kuti "theka lachiwiri" liyenerane. Inde, mtsikana sangathe kukomana ndi "kalonga wokongola", ndi mnyamata "nyenyezi yochokera kumwamba." Koma kuti musunge wosankhidwayo kapena wosankhidwayo, nkofunikira kuti akuwoneni mwa inu zoyenera zomwe akufuna. Mwachikhalidwe, mwamuna amadziwika ngati wotetezera ndi chithandizo chodalirika, mkazi ngati mayi wabwino. Choncho, zimakhalidwe abwino zimatengedwa kuti zikhale zabwino. Kwa munthu, izi ndi zomvetsera, ulemu, chikondi, kudzipereka komanso kusangalala. Kwa mkazi - ukazi, kukhulupirika, kunyengerera, kusangalala, kusatetezeka, kupepuka, kufatsa, chifundo, kumvetsetsa, kutonthoza, kumvetsera ena. Yesetsani kupeza "chilankhulo chofala" ndi mnzanuyo, yesetsani kupeza zotsutsana, ngakhale ziri zovuta.
Pomalizira, ndikukulangizani kuti musamagonjetse moyo wanu wonse kuti mupeze osankhidwa osankhidwa kapena osankhidwa, koma kungodzikonda nokha, kusintha kunja ndi mkati. Lembani kuvina, dziwe losambira, gulu la masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndi zochitika zina zakuthupi. Pezani nokha nkhani yosangalatsa. Sinthani fano kapena kalembedwe mu zovala. Ndipo zambiri zimakhala zabwino. Ndipo anthu adzakufikira. Mungathe kupeza mwachangu munthu amene ali ndi zofuna zenizeni ndi inu, makhalidwe abwino, malingaliro pazinthu zina. Mwina mudzakondana, ndipo adzakhala "theka lachiwiri." Iyayi! Chinthu chachikulu - kufuna!