Zimayambitsa
Kawirikawiri mkazi amakwatira mwamuna yemwe ali wamng'ono kwambiri kuposa iye, pamene sali ndi chidwi ndi mbali ya chibwenzicho. Monga lamulo, akazi oterewa ankagwira ntchito, omwe amakhala ndi nyumba komanso ndalama zokhazikika. Thandizo kwa mkazi wamng'ono sikofunikira kwambiri.
Chifukwa china chofala ndi ubale wapamtima. Azimayi omwe ali ndi mtima wodetsa nkhaŵa sangakhale ndi chidwi chokwanira ndi anzawo, amafuna china chake, akulakalaka usiku, monga adakali aang'ono. Osati munthu aliyense wazaka makumi anayi ali ndi zaka zokwanira, koma mnyamata ali ndithu. Ndipo izi ndi zomveka - patapita zaka makumi atatu, akazi amayamba kukonda kwambiri kugonana, pamene amuna amayamba kuchepa, kotero abwenzi achinyamata amakopa anzako ambiri, chifukwa angathe kukwanitsa zofunikira zonse za amayi ogona.
Ndipo, potsiriza, gawo lofunika limasewera ndi chidaliro ndi chitetezo. Kawirikawiri izi zimayembekezeka kuchokera kwa amuna, koma ukwati wosalinganika, kumene munthu ali wamng'ono, amamuyika pa malo a munthu amene akufunafuna chitetezo mmalo moupereka. Monga lamulo, amayi achikulire omwe sasowa thandizo, amatha kuwapondereza okondedwa awo. Izi zimachitika mbali imodzi ya chibadwa cha amayi omwe ali odwala.
Njira zothetsera ubale
Ukwati wosalinganizana umene mkazi ali wamkulu umaweruzidwa ndi chilango chachikulu m'magulu. Anthu okwatiranawo ayenera kukhala olimba kuti athetse zopinga zonse ndi kusapatukana.
Choyamba, zosowa zosiyana kwambiri zimayikidwa patsogolo pa maonekedwe a mkazi. Nthawi zonse ayenera kukhala pampikisano wopikisana ndi atsikana aang'ono. Muzokwatirana, amayi nthawi zambiri amachitira nsanje, kotero amayesa kukhala achinyamata nthawi yaitali, chifukwa maonekedwe ndi ofunika kwambiri, ziribe kanthu momwe chikondi chingakhalire cholimba.
Chachiwiri, palibe chomwe mungachite kuti mwapange mnzanu pa udindo wa mwanayo, ziribe kanthu momwe akudziwiratu. Amuna ndi zaka 20 amamva kufunika kokhala mtsogoleri, motero ndikofunika kulimbikitsa makhalidwe a utsogoleri, osati infantilism. Ngati mkazi akuphwanya mnzake ndi ulamuliro wake, mwa mawu enieni a mawu amatenga mphuno za boma m'manja mwake, pakapita nthawi munthu adzamupeza wokonda kwambiri.
Chachitatu, musamasuke. Maukwati samatsimikizira moyo wautali palimodzi, ndipo ukwati wosalinganika uli ndi mwayi wambiri wogwa mu zaka zitatu zoyambirira za kukhalako. Ubwino wa maubwenzi oterewa ndikumverera kwawo mosasinthasintha, kupezeka kwa chiyeso, kutsutsa ndi kudandaula. Musamachite nsanje ndi mnzanu chifukwa chakuti ali wamng'ono komanso ngati atsikana azaka 20 omwe ali okonzeka kupanga chinyengo chilichonse. Zaka zimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale wanzeru.
Ndipo, potsiriza, ndalama ndi kugonana. Ngati mkazi wachikulire amachepetsa tanthauzo lonse laukwati pokhapokha kuti sakudziwa ndalama za mwamuna wamwamuna, ndipo pobwerera amangodikirira kugonana, ndiye kuti posachedwa munthu adzasokonezeka ndi chidole. Ubwino wa kugonana ndi wofunikira kwambiri, umoyo wabwino ndi wofunika kwambiri, koma popanda kudalirika, kuwona mtima ndi kumvetsetsa, ubale sukhalitsa.
Ukwati wosagwirizana umapangitsa anthu ambiri kukhala osangalala, koma angapangitsenso kusasangalala. Anthu omwe amasankha kulumikiza ubale woterowo, musamamve miseche yomwe idzachitika. Nkofunika kuti musalole ngakhale kuganiza kuti izi ndizovuta ku mavuto oyambirira. Ndipotu, pali zitsanzo zokwanira pamene banja losalinganika linakhala motalika kuposa nthawi zonse ndipo linali losangalala. Anthu ali ndi ana, kumanga mapulani, amayesetsa chinachake, mosasamala za msinkhu. Kumene kuli chikondi komanso chikhumbo chokhala pamodzi, sipadzakhala chifukwa cholekanitsa.