Kawirikawiri amai amavutika chifukwa amamva ngati sakonda wina aliyense, kapena ngati amuna onse omwe ali pafupi sawakonda. Koma zimakhalanso kuti mayi amakonda mtsikana, koma sangathe kukomana naye. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika ndipo nchiyani chimalimbikitsa amayi pamene aganiza kuti sangathe kumanga ubale ndi mnyamata wina?
Chilombo cha Krasavetsi
Izi zimachitika kuti chifukwa cha khalidwe ili ndi kusowa kudzidalira ndi zovuta. Poyang'ana mnyamata wokongola, yemwe amatsalira anthu omwe amamukonda kwambiri, msungwanayo samangokhulupirira kuti iye, imvi yokha, yosadziwika bwino ndi kukongola, akhoza kukhala ngati mnyamata wabwino. Pankhaniyi, ngakhale mnyamatayo atabwera kwa iye ndikumuuza, skoreevsego, mtsikanayo akukana. Chowonadi ndi chakuti nthawi ina, pa oimira oterewa, kugonana kwachilungamo, anyamata ambiri omwe amawaseka komanso ovutitsidwa. Maganizo amenewa amakumbukiridwa kwambiri ndipo amachokera mu chidziwitso. Msungwanayo akuganiza kuti sangakonde aliyense, makamaka mnyamata wokongola yemwe ali ndi mbiri pakati pa anyamata okongola omwewo.
Msungwana wonyansa (ndipo mobwerezabwereza, mtsikana yemwe anali ndi maganizo oterowo), ndi wotsimikiza kuti nthawi zonse amatha kutenga awiri kuchokera ku bwalo loyenera la amayi. Mnyamata wokongola adzadziwana ndi anthu omwe sachita manyazi kunena nawo mabwenzi omwe angapite nawo ku phwando lokongola. Iye samadziwonekera yekha ndi gulu loterolo la akazi, ndipo sanalitenge konse. Choncho, mtsikanayo amadziwana ndi mtsikana wabwino kwambiri. Ndipo ngati atasankha kukonza zoti akakomane naye, ndiye kuti pamapepala makumi asanu ndi anai mphambu asanu ndi anayi amachokera pa zana, mtsikanayo adzalandira chilakolako ichi ndipo amangofuna kumunyengerera, ndiye amangoseka ndi abwenzi ake. Ndicho chifukwa chake, ziribe kanthu momwe mnyamatayo sakondwera, asungwanawa samadzipangitsa kukhala pachiopsezo ndi kuyamba kumanga maubwenzi, chifukwa poyamba iwo adathamangitsidwa kwambiri ndi kudalira amuna.
Iye ndi wabwino ... zabwino kwambiri
Atsikana ena safuna kumanga maubwenzi ndi amuna omwe amawakonda, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti angathe kuswa miyoyo yawo. Mwa njirayi, amayiwa nthawi zambiri ndi njira yabwino. Iwo amangodziwa momwe angadzifufuzire mwadala ndi khalidwe lawo. Amayi ena amadziwa kuti mwamuna wabwino wokhala ndi iwo sangakhale ndi moyo. Adzavutika, kuyang'ana m'mene amasinthira kwa iye, chifukwa ndi chikhalidwe cha mphepo kapena amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yake yonse kugwira ntchito, monga ntchito kwa iye kuposa china chilichonse. Amayi awa amayesa kuti asapereke amuna chifukwa chokondana, chifukwa safuna kukhala ndi udindo chifukwa cha iwo anyamata amakhumudwitsidwa ndi amayi onse kamodzi. Atsikana amenewa ndi anthu abwino omwe angathe kukonda, koma safuna kusintha wina ndi kupanga zokondweretsa. Kawirikawiri amadziona kuti ndi ofooka, odzifunira okha komanso osaloledwa, ndipo izi sizikhoza kuloledwa ndi munthu aliyense. Makamaka ngati ali munthu wabwino ndi wokoma mtima. Chifukwa chake, podziwa kuti sizinalengedwe kuti azikhala ndi banja labwino, asungwanawa amayesa kuti asamasonyeze malingaliro awo, motero, Mulungu asalole, kuti asangalatse mnyamata ndipo asawononge moyo wake. Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti anthu amasintha chikondi chawo, koma ndi munthu woyenera. Atsikana oterewa amadziwa kuti zitsimikizo zotere si zoona. Chikondi chimangosintha kwa kanthawi, ndiyeno munthuyo amayamba kuchita mofanana kachiwiri, monga kale. Ndipo khalidweli ndi njira ya moyo, zomwe amazisankha, sizidzasangalatsa anthu abwino komanso okoma mtima omwe akufuna kupanga banja lachilendo ndikukhala pafupi ndi woyang'anira nyumba, osati ndi mkwiyo wamisala omwe sakudziwa zomwe angachite ndi komwe angabweretse mphindi yotsatira.
Cholinga Choyenera
Ambiri a ife timakondweretsa anthu, koma ena okha ali ndi mphamvu kuti avomereze okha. Asungwana oterewa, akuyang'ana munthu wabwino, akudziwa bwino kuti adabwera ndi khalidwe, abwino, aluso, omveka komanso okongola. Amamvetsetsa kuti sakonda mnyamata, koma fano lomwe adalenga pa maziko ake. Ndipo kuyang'ana pa chithunzi ichi, msungwana amapeza kuti kuli kovuta kukhala ndi chikhulupiriro kuti amuna enieni alipo. Iwo akukayikira kukomana ndi mnyamata wabwino wotero, chifukwa amadziwa kuti chinyengocho chikhoza kusokoneza ndipo mphindi yokhumudwitsa idzabwera. Ndipo izi sizingatheke. Iwo akhoza kukhala mabwenzi ndi kalonga wawo woyenera, koma panthawi imodzimodzi musawalole iwo kuwoloka mzere umene zinthu zonse zidzakhala zosiyana. Ndipotu, mkazi aliyense amakhala ndi chidwi ndi kalonga wotero, kuti asakhumudwitsidwe ndi theka la umunthu. Koma anthu ambiri, poona zoyenera zawo, kapena mmalo mwake, poyambitsa etotideal, yesetsani kumanga ubale ndi iwo ndikupanga zomwe iwo akudziimira okha. Mwachibadwa, amuna amayamba kupandukira makhalidwe amenewa, ndipo pamapeto pake, amakhumudwa. Ndi ochepa chabe omwe amatha kukhala kutali ndi malo abwino kuti adzikhala m'dziko lachikunja, osakhudza moyo ndi maganizo a kalonga wabwino, yemwe nthawi zambiri safuna kukhala choncho.
Zosiyana kwambiri
Chabwino, chifukwa chimodzi chomwe amai safuna kukhazikitsa maubwenzi ndi iwo omwe ali ngati iwo ali osiyana ndi zolinga pamoyo. Mtsikana angakonde mnyamata. Komanso, amatha kumukonda, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo amadziwa kuti palimodzi sangagwirizane, chifukwa lingaliro lawo la moyo wa banja ndi moyo wawonthu ndi losiyana kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, mnyamata wina akufuna banja labwino, ana, akufuna kuti abwere kunyumba yosangalatsa ndikusangalala m'banja. Mtsikana akuganiza kuti alibe chikhumbo chokhala ndi ana, kuphika, kusamba ndi kuyeretsa. Iye ndi munthu wolenga yemwe akufuna kupanga chinachake, kuyenda, kawirikawiri, kuti azikhala momwe iye amachitira. Mkhalidwe uwu, mayiyo amadziwa kuti mnyamatayo adzawona ndi kuzunzidwa basi. Mwinamwake mosiyana, pamene mkazi akufuna kuti ayambe kukula, kupeza zinthu zatsopano, kuyenda, kupanga banja lokongola, kuganizira zam'tsogolo, ndi mwamuna amene amamukonda, amakhutira ndi ntchito yamba, moyo lero, nyumba yaying'ono. akazi. Ndipo iye amafuna chirichonse ndipo amamvetsa kuti sangathe kusintha, chifukwa ndi zosiyana ndipo sangapulumutse kusintha koteroko, adzatayika. Ndipo pazochitika zotere, atsikana amakana kulumikizana ndi omwe amakukonda, kotero kuti chikondi chimenechi sichisandutsa chidani komanso kukwiya.