Nchifukwa ninji chikuchitika kuti msungwana kapena mkazi sangapeze munthu woyenera, ndi momwe angakonzekere moyo wake pambuyo pake? Zaka zisanafike 25-30, mwayi wokakumana ndi mwamuna woyenera kuti akhale mwamuna wam'tsogolo ndi waukulu kwambiri. Ngati, ngakhale kuti mkazi akufunafuna izi, sizichitika, wina ayenera kumvetsa zifukwa. Chifukwa choyamba chotheka ndi manyazi a mkazi uyu. Pankhaniyi, m'pofunika kumvetsa zifukwa za manyazi, yesetsani kuthana ndi zovutazo ndikuphunzitseni kudzidalira ndi kukongola. Mwina mkaziyo sakondwera ndi maonekedwe ake. Wolemba zamalonda ndi katswiri wamaganizo angathandize pano. Tiyenera kudzikonza tokha, kuvomereza ndi kudzikonda tokha chifukwa cha ife. Pali amayi omwe ali ndi deta yabwino zakuthambo, koma ndiulesi ndipo sakufuna kudzisamalira okha.
Chifukwa china chotheka - cholakwika choyipa choyipa pochita ndi amuna. Mayi akhoza kukhumudwa mu ubale ndi amuna pambuyo pa zolephera zawo. Kodi mayi wosungulumwa angakonzekere bwanji moyo wake? Pankhaniyi, m'pofunika kukhulupirira kuti sikuti anthu onse ndi oipa kwambiri moti mumangofunikira kupeza "munthu" wanu, ndipo chifukwa cha ichi muyenera kupitiriza kukhulupirira anthu, kuyang'ana munthu woyenera, yesetsani kukhala osangalala.
Azimayi, makamaka adaphwanya mzere wa zaka 30, nthawi zina sangathe kukonza moyo wawo wokhawokha, chifukwa amatsutsana kwambiri ndi zofuna zawo. Kuonjezera apo, monga tanenera kale, amuna ambiri akutanganidwa ndi nthawi ino. Koma zosankhazo ndi zochepa, koma zofanana zimakhalabe. Azimayi ena akufunafuna zabwino, koma tikuyenera kukumbukira kuti palibe anthu abwino, aliyense ali ndi zofooka zawo, zomwe zimafunika kuzindikiridwa ndi kuwonedwa kwathunthu, osati "molingana ndi njerwa". Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kuzindikira ngati mukugwirizana ndi munthu kapena ayi, kaya zolephera zake zimatsutsana ndi mfundo zanu ndi makhalidwe anu.
Akazi ena, mosiyana, ali okonzeka kutseka maso awo ku zolakwa zirizonse, ngati pangakhale munthu wina wapafupi. Izi ndi zolakwika. Musachedwe. Muziyamikira ngati mungagwirizane ndi munthu uyu, ndi zofooka zake, zizoloŵezi zake, zokondweretsa zina ndi zina zotero. Pambuyo pake, kusintha munthu wamkulu sikungatheke kuchitika.
Kawirikawiri, amayi osakwatira okhala ndi mutu amapita ku sukulu, ntchito, kukwezedwa pamsinkhu wa ntchito. Amapeza maphunziro abwino, amafika pamapamwamba pa ntchito zawo, amakhala otsimikiza, okhutira, ndipo ndi zabwino. Pano chinthu chofunikira ndicho kukhala ndi nthawi yokhala ndi moyo waumwini komanso maubwenzi mwakhama.
Pali amayi omwe amasankha kusungulumwa. Iwo amakana kwathunthu ubalewo, kudziganizira okha kudzikhutira ndi kukwaniritsidwa. Kukhala wosungulumwa, pali mbali zabwino ndi zoipa. Pachifukwa chimodzi, mkazi wosakwatira yekha, ambuye, amatha kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yake yaulere monga, komanso ndi wina aliyense. Iye sayenera kuyankha kwa wina aliyense, panthawi imodzimodziyo akhoza kutsogolera ku chiyanjano chosakakamiza. Iye samalemedwa ndi moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, mwachitsanzo, iye amafuna - amakonzekera chakudya, safuna - samaphika. Mkazi woteroyo akhoza kuthera nthawi yambiri kwa wokondedwa wake. Koma palinso zovuta. Mwachitsanzo, mkazi ayenera kuthana ndi kuthetsa mavuto a moyo pafupi yekha. Pali, ndithudi, abwenzi, koma ali ndi miyoyo yawo, ndipo vuto lonse la mavuto awo pa iwo mwinamwake ndilovuta kuti alowe. Zokondweretsa pamene pali chithandizo chodalirika pafupi ndi inu, munthu wapafupi yemwe angathandize ndi kuthandizira onse muchisoni ndi chimwemwe. Pamapeto pake, ndibwino kukonda ndi kukondedwa.
Vuto la kusungulumwa lingathetsedwe, chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kukhumudwa ndikukhulupirira kupambana. Ambiri amathandiza abwenzi kukomana ndi munthu wokondedwa ndi abwenzi, makamaka okwatirana ndi okwatira, komanso achibale. Mungathe kukomana ndi munthu woyenera ngati simukukhala pakhomo, ndipo mumakhala nthawi yokwanira kumudzi komwe mungathe kumudziwa. Pambuyo pake, tsopano simukumana ndi anthu angapo omwe anangokumana mumsewu.
Kodi mayi wosungulumwa angakonzekere bwanji moyo wake? Masiku ano, ambiri akuyesera kupeza munthu, podziwa pa intaneti, ena amapambana. Pali mabungwe ambiri okwatirana amene amapereka maubwenzi oteteza masewera, malo osiyanasiyana ochezera maubwenzi ndi zina zotero. Zolinga zoterezi zimakupatsani inu kukhazikitsa zofunika zonse magawo: zaka, kutalika, kulemera, zofuna, cholinga cha kudziwana ndi zina zotero. Pali anthu osungulumwa okwanira pa intaneti, koma mukakumana ndi kulankhulana, muyenera kutsatira malamulo ena. Talingalirani mfundo yakuti pamene mukulankhulana pa intaneti, fano la munthu yemwe mumamuyimira ndi munthu weniweni akhoza kukhala wosiyana kwambiri. Ndipotu, kulankhula ndi munthu kumakhala kosangalatsa kwambiri, komabe, poyesera kubisala zolakwika. Kotero musataye kwathunthu munthu amene mumayankhula naye pa intaneti, kotero kuti mu moyo weniweni simudzakhumudwitsidwa.
Okhaokha pamene akulankhulana pa intaneti pofuna cholinga cha chibwenzi ndi maubwenzi ena samatsanzira munthu yemwe salipo, musati muike chithunzi cha wina. Kulankhulana, kukhala wanzeru, wophunzira ndi kuwerenga, yesetsani kukhala interlocutor yosangalatsa, lembani momveka bwino, musagwiritse ntchito mawu a hackneyed, kumudziwa kumumenya munthu bwino. Musamayesetse mwamsanga, pafupi tsiku lotsatira kukakumana, kuyankhulana kwambiri ndi munthu, kupeza bwino ndi kumvetsa, komanso ngati ndibwino kuti mukomane naye.
Ngati patapita kanthawi mutakumana, musayese kutsanzira munthu amene simukumuyesa, musayesere kukhala nokha, chifukwa chigoba chachinyengo chidzatha posachedwa, ndipo sikukhala bwino kwa wina aliyense.
Kodi mayi wosungulumwa angakonzekere bwanji moyo wake? Kulikonse kumene mungasankhe kupeza moyo wanu waumunthu, musataye mtima ngati simunapeze pomwepo. Khulupirirani kuti mudzakumana ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikukhala ndi moyo wosangalala naye.