Izi ndi zomwe tidzakambirana m'nkhani yathu "Statute ya Fund ikonda Banja lachiyanjano." Mwinamwake, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri m'moyo ndi kukwaniritsa mgwirizano m'zonse, ndipo choyamba, m'banjamo, chifukwa ichi ndi chofunika kwambiri kwa munthu. Chikondi chotere chimapangitsa banja kukhala logwirizana, ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zoyamba zogwirizana m'banja.
Koma chikondi chenicheni ndi chiyani? Ndipo ndi chiyani, malingaliro, maganizo kapena zochita zomwezo? Ndikufuna ndikuuzeni za izi mwatsatanetsatane, kuti muthe kupeza mgwirizano pamene muli ndi chikondi. Kodi mukudziwa chifukwa chake ndikuganiza kuti chikondi sikumverera komanso kumverera, koma ntchito? Chifukwa pamene chikondi chathu chimachokera pamaganizo ndi kumverera, ndiye kudzikonda ndipo chikondi choterechi chingakupangitseni kuti mukhale ndi moyo womasuka m'banja lanu.
Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti chikondi ndi kuleza mtima, chikondi sichichita nsanje, osati kunyada, samachita zoipa. Chikondi chenicheni chimakhala chokonzeka kudzimana nokha kuti munthu wina akhale wachimwemwe. Ngati simukuwona chikondi chanu, chodzikonda kwambiri, ndiye musanyengedwe, ichi si chikondi chenicheni ndipo "mphepo yonyansa" ikuchepa.
Khalani okonzeka nthawi zonse kudzipereka nokha, ndipo chikondi choterocho chidzakubweretsani mgwirizano m'banja. Inde, izi zimagwira ntchito kwa onse a m'banja, onse kwa mkazi ndi mwamuna. Ndipo ngati mkazi ndi mwamuna ali okonzekera kudzipereka okha chifukwa cha wina, zidzakhala zogwirizana kwenikweni, chikondi chenicheni kwa wina ndi mzake.
Ndikuganiza kuti muvomerezana ndi ine kuti ndalama za ndalama ku Russia zimachepetsa kwambiri makhalidwe ake. Ndipo ngati kale sizinali kale, maukwati omwe amatha zaka makumi asanu ndi atatu (80) adakali amphamvu, ndiye kuti maukwati adatha kumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 90 ndi zowonjezereka m'zaka za m'ma 2000 ali ndi gawo losinthasintha komanso kusudzulana kawirikawiri.
Pano mungathe kudziwa chifukwa chake izi zikuchitika, mukuyang'ana mabanja omwe akazi ndi abambo kapena munthu mmodzi m'banja amadzipereka kudzipereka okha chifukwa cha chimwemwe cha wina ndi cholinga choti asunge malo ndi chitonthozo, ndiye kuti mabanja oterewa ayima. Ndipo pamene tikuwona khalidwe kwa banja, tiyeni tiyitane: "Ife timapanga banja kuti lizindikonda ine palimodzi," ndipo tikuona kuti pali kugwa kwina komaliza ndikutha kusudzulana.
Pomaliza nkhani yanga ndikufuna kunena kwa aliyense, omwe samangotenga banja, koma ali ndi mgwirizano. Palibe chifukwa choyikapo, kuika maganizo anu pa zomwe mukufuna, kuyang'ana zosowa za theka lachiwiri, ndi theka lanu lachiwiri liziyang'ana zosowa zanu ndipo ndi inu, ndikupanga mgwirizano m'banja lanu ndi moyo wanu.
Yesetsani kupereka chikondi chochuluka kusiyana ndi kufunsa mobwezera. Ndipo nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti banja si masewera, koma ntchito yaikulu ya onse awiri, ndipo pamene mukulowa moyo watsopano, musalowemo ndi kuzindikira kuti mutha kusudzulana nthawi iliyonse. Pambuyo pa zonse, kodi amene amanga nyumba amaganizira momwe angawononge? Yang'anani zam'tsogolo mwachisangalalo, ndikumanga mu mtendere ndi mgwirizano wina ndi mnzake.
Pamene mwamuna wanu wam'tsogolo akukupatsani mwayi, mum'funseni ngati ali wokonzeka kumanga ukwati kapena zonse zomwe adafuna kukulipirani. Mufunseni ngati ali wokonzeka osati kungogwiritsa ntchito mfundo yakuti mudzakhala mkazi wake (kuchotsa kuphika kuti muyeretsedwe), komanso kukhala mwamuna wathanzi m'banja. Tengani maudindo ndipo mukhale mbusa yemweyo mu banja pomwe, zomwe zimati munthu aliyense.
Pambuyo pake, Ambuye samangokhala ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zabwino, koma amagwiranso ntchito pazinthu zotchedwa zabwino. Ndipo atsikana okongola amayang'ana mozama pa funso laukwati, chifukwa chosankha chomwe tsopano chimadalira moyo wanu wam'tsogolo.