Ubale ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri. Ndikoyenera kukhumudwa, ndipo chirichonse chikugwera mwa iwo. Koma kwenikweni ndi chifukwa choyambitsa mavuto ndi chiwonongeko, kapena mosiyana?
Ndipo nthano zingati zosiyana zokhudzana ndi momwe akazi amasinthira! Ndipo iwo ndi achinyengo, ndipo amasintha amuna awo mwauzimu ... Chigamulo cha chigamulo!
Koma kupandukira kwa mwamuna wake ndiko kusonyeza kusakhutitsidwa ndi ubale. Choncho, mwachidziwitso ndi molondola, popanda kuweruza, tidzayesa kumvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe chigololo chimakhalira ndi momwe tingabwererenso chibwenzi pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika kwa mwamuna, palimodzi.
Zinachitika bwanji?
M'mabuku ambiri - kuchokera m'nkhani za nyuzipepala kupita ku ntchito ya sayansi ya akatswiri a maganizo a maganizo - zimatsutsika kuti chigololo ndi chosiyana ndi chachimuna. Kwa munthu (monga) mwachibadwa kufunafuna zambiri - kuphatikizapo amayi ambiri.
Mkazi amatsutsidwa ndi zomwe amasintha osati thupi kwambiri monga mzimu kapena moyo. Mwa ichi pali lingaliro, koma kachiwiri, musakokomeze kapena kumanga mfundo zaumwini pamtheradi.
Chinthu china ndi chakuti pali chinyengo chenichenicho, ndipo chigamulo chake - kaya chinali chopusa kapena cholungama kuchita, ndikumverera sikubwerera. Kaŵirikaŵiri munthu wachilendo (kapena ena) amawoneka kuti amayi ndi olemekezeka, owona mtima, okoma mtima ... Ziri zosavuta kuti apachike malemba omwe amasangalatsa ndi kutilimbikitsa.
Komano mkaziyo akhoza kukhumudwitsidwa - ngati zikutuluka, ndi zakumwa, ndi mabwenzi amatha, ndipo mbuye wake amachita zinthu mosamveka. Lero mukusowa madzi mumtunda, mawa - "musapite," "musadandaule," kapena chifukwa chopatulika - "Ndikufunika kugwira ntchito."
Nthaŵi zoterezo zonse zimagwera m'malo. Ndipo zanga, zanga, ngakhale kuti sizinali zokondedwa monga kale, zimakhala zovuta komanso zomveka bwino. Sizifooka zake zokha poyerekeza ndi maso osakanizidwa - komanso ulemu wopanda chilema. Koma momwe mungabwezerere ubale mutatha kumupandukira munthu - ndi kovuta kunena.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?
Kotero, ubalewo umabwerera ku maphunziro omwe akhalapo nthawi zonse. Koma ngati musanapusitse munthu wanu "kunyumba" akudziwa zomwe angakukhulupirireni, ndiye kuti "kuthamangira kumanzere" kuti mupeze chikhulupiliro sikuvuta.
Monga momwe chiwonetsero chikuwonetsera, kudzidetsa nokha ndi pempho la chikhululukiro sikuwatsogolera pa zabwino. Ndiye momwe mungabwezerere ubale mutatha kugulitsidwa kwa mwamuna, ngati simukupempha chikhululuko?
Musadalire kukhululukidwa
Simukusowa kupempha chikhululuko. Kuchokera ichi munthu amakhala ndi kukhudzidwa kokakhudza chinthu chodetsedwa, chofooka ndi chodwala. Mukufuna ubale, osati chisoni "kupirira, kukhala moyo"? Ndiye chitsanzo chokha choyenera cha khalidwe
Uzani choonadi chonse, ndi zina zambiri
Khalani owona mtima, koma mwachinyengo. Pambuyo pa zonse, mukusowa munthu uyu, ndipo ndi mlingo wofanana ndi poyamba? Kotero kuti iye ankakonda, amvetsa, amayamikira ...
Ndikovuta kwambiri kuti tibwererenso kukhulupilira, ndithudi, kuposa kuwononga. Koma ziyenera kuchitika, ndipo mwinamwake osati mwachizolowezi.
Kodi mukufuna "kupepesa"? Lembani chifukwa chake mukufunikira maubwenzi awa "otsala". Kambiranani izi ndi mwamuna wanu. Nthawi yaitali yachisokonezo, kusamvetsetsa kwanu, zabwino kwambiri. Maganizo olakwika - chidani kapena, mosiyana, kukhala ndi umutu wautali m'banja.
Izi siziri chifukwa. Izi ndi zoona, chifukwa cha zomwe munaganiza kuti mupereke (kapena "zinachitika" kwa kanthawi chifukwa cha kusaganiza kwanu). Ndipo kubwezeretsa ubale pambuyo pa kugulitsidwa kwa munthu, pang'onopang'ono kuvomereza kubwerera kwa chidwi mwa iye, wokondedwa ndipo tsopano yekhayo.
Utsi wopanda moto sizimachitika
Koma asanayesere kubwezeretsa chibwenzi, atatha kugulitsa mwamuna ayenera kuganiziridwa mozama. Pambuyo pa zonse, chinachake chinakupangitsani kukaikira kuti "ali yemweyo"? Kapena mwinamwake mumangoyamba magalasi obiriwira, mtundu umene munakwatiranapo nthawi ina?
Palibe amuna abwino, ndipo tonsefe tikukakamizidwa kuti tilingalere zofooka za anthu. Kusuta kumodzi, kachiwiri kumalankhula, wina wachitatu sakonda kupeza ndalama ndipo sangathe ... Aliyense ali ndi "zigoba mu chipinda", zinthu zosavuta komanso zovuta zomwe sizikupangitsani moyo wanu kukhala wosavuta.
Ndipo komabe iwe umamukonda iye-kwa chinachake. Mudakonda munthu uyu. Ndipo, pamapeto pake, munabwerera kwa iye, mosasamala kanthu za kupandukira. Kotero, ndibwino kuti muwone mwamuna wanu monga momwe nthawi zina zimachitikira - amphamvu, olimba mtima, ofunika ...
Kupewa chigololo chachikazi
Sichikugweranso m'mikhalidwe yotereyi, pamene mumayamba kukondana ndi misala mwa munthu wina, ndipo mumabwerera kunyumba mutatha msonkhano wamtendere, kumathandizira kuti muwone bwino moyo ndi maubwenzi. Chowonadi ponena za amuna sizotsutsana - kani, chidzakhala "wand-wand", ngati mumaganiza mwadzidzidzi za munthu wina.
Kunena zoona, amuna enieni si ambiri. Chifukwa chake, amayi nthawi zambiri amanyengerera, kuyembekezera kuti adzapirira, kugwa m'chikondi kapena mwanjira ina.
Ndiyeno timakhumudwa. Osasamala, osati wodalirika momwe mukufunira. Panthawi yochepa, mukufuna kuthawa, kuchoka pachibwenzi, kapena choipitsitsa - kulanga, kukwapula, ngati mnyamata wolakwa.
Koma ife tonse tifunikira kukolola zipatso za zoyesayesa zathu ndi zikhulupiliro. Munkafuna chitetezo - kudziwa kuti mu ubale umenewu simumayesa. Mosiyana ndi mesalliance yeniyeni "osauka - osauka", "otchuka - osadziwika" ndi zina zotero. Ndipo tsopano tikuyenera kupirira moyo wakuda, wosasangalatsa.
Kumbali ina, ili mu ubale weniweni woterewu kuti mukhale nokha, khalani ana, "kuchokera apa" mukhoza kumanga ntchito kapena kusangalala ndi ntchito ya mkazi wanu wokondedwa ... Mvetserani! Musaiwale chifukwa chake zonse ziri chimodzimodzi monga momwe mumafunira.