Tonsefe tikudziwa kuti monga lamulo, ambiri oimira kugonana amphamvu ndi mitala. Ndipo izi zikuwonetseredwa ngakhale pamene munthu akutsindika mozama kuti mumtima mwake palibe malo kwa wina aliyense kusiyana ndi iwe yekhayo. Nthawi zambiri, okhulupirika anu adakali kuyang'ana akazi ena, ndipo nthawi zina amayenda "kumbali." Ndipo, ndithudi, pa nthawi yovuta kwambiri, mkazi aliyense, iye ndi "wovutitsidwa" wa zochitika, amaganizira mozama za momwe angapangire mwamuna wake kuyenda?
Choncho, ngati simukumva bwino ndi zokondedwa za mnzanu wokondedwa wanu (ndipo mwinamwake, ndizo), muyenera kuyesa njira zonse zothandizira. Timakupatsani inu njira zingapo zomwe mungathe kupha "mosavuta" mwa kufuna kwa mkazi kuti asayende mosavuta kumbuyo kwa mkazi wake.
Yendani, yendani, koma kumbukirani zotsatira!
Njira yodalirika kwambiri, mothandizidwa ndi zomwe ifeyo mwamunayo tikuyenda kuyenda - kuwopseza okhulupirika. Ayi, ndithudi, apa sizingagwiritsidwe ntchito pogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu ndi njira zina, zomwe zingawopseze ngakhale munthu, kumulepheretsa kuyenda. Zomwe mukuyenera kuchita ndizolemba pa bukhu lovomerezeka ngati banja limodzi, ndikuopseza mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndi chisudzulo. Kawirikawiri, mawu a ndondomeko imeneyi ali ndi zotsatira zochepa. Komabe, sikuti nthawi zambiri amalimbikitsidwa kugwiritsa ntchito njira zoterezi pa "gulena" yanu, mwinamwake kuopsezedwa kwa mtundu uwu kumangowonjezera kukhala "mawu a mphepo" wamba ndipo sikudzatengedwa mozama. Ndipo chinthu chimodzi chokha, njira iyi, yomwe cholinga chake ndi kuyendetsa wokondedwa kuyenda, ali ndi "zovuta" zake. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, ngati mwamuna wanu akukumana ndi zofooka zoopsa, amatha kusinthana ndi moyo wamakhalidwe abwino komanso osasangalatsa.
Koma kodi sayenera kulowerera mu zolinga zake?
Njira yachiwiri yokhalira mwamuna wamtendere kunyumba - m'njira iliyonse yomwe ingamulepheretse kukwaniritsa zolinga zake. Ndipo apa pamene akunena: "Njira zonse ndi zabwino!". Poyamba, chonde mvetserani mwamuna wanu ndi kugonana nthawi zonse. Ndipo nthawi zambiri mumakhala paubwenzi wapamtima (pafupipafupi, katatu patsiku), ndibwino. Yesani kufanikila juisi onse kuchokera kwa mwamuna mpaka kumapeto kochepa ndipo kenaka sakufuna, kapena ayi, sangathe kutsatira zomwe akufuna. Mwa njira, kwa chirichonse mu dziko inu musamachite chikondi ngati njira yowonjezera kapena muyeso wokakamizidwa. Kumbukirani kuti ndi zophweka kuti amuna azisiyanitsa zabodza kuchokera ku zolinga zenizeni, chifukwa mwamuna amamuwona mkazi yemwe amakhala naye pansi pa denga limodzi. Chifukwa cha khalidwe lake lachinyengo iwe sungakhoze kumunyengerera iye kuti ayende "kumbali", koma ngakhale kukankhira mkazi wako kutali.
Koma, ndipo ngati kugonana mobwerezabwereza sikungogwirizane ndi malingaliro anu, mukhoza kuyamba nawo mwambo wa chikondi kwa mnzanuyo. Chifukwa chiyani simumasonyeza kulimbika mtima osati kubwereranso mu chigololo "wansembe wa chikondi", zomwe zimadabwitsa munthu wanu nthawi iliyonse pabedi. Pano, katundu wochokera kugula la kugonana, malo atsopano ogonana, caresses, etc. angathandize. M'mawu, muyenera kuchita zonse zomwe nthawi zonse zatsopano zimadabwitsa mwamuna wanu, ndithudi, ndi mawu abwino. Chifukwa chake, mwamuna kapena mkazi adzizoloŵera kugonana koyeretsedwa, ndipo maulendo a banal "kumanzere" amamuletsa kuti asawononge chidwi chilichonse.
Ndipo komabe ntchito ndi mmbulu!
Koma apa pali ndondomeko yowonjezera njira yina yosamalirira mwamuna wake - kudzaza ndi mavuto a m'banja. Ikani ndi ntchito mwathunthu kuti asakhale nayo nthawi ya "mphepo" yake. Koma sitikulimbikitsanso kugwiritsa ntchito mau a "muyenera" kapena "mukuyenera". Kufunsa mwamuna kuti atenge nawo ntchito zapakhomo ndi kofunikira komanso mwachikondi, ndi panthawi yomwe munthu angamve kuti ukulu wake ndi ukazi wake chifukwa cha luso lake ndipo mosangalala adzachita zonse zomwe sangafunsidwe.
Ndipo potsiriza, ngati muli wothandizira kuwona mtima, kambiranani ndi mnzanu mwachindunji ndikuyesera kupeza zifukwa za changu chake "kuyenda", chifukwa kukambirana momveka bwino kungathetse mavuto ambiri a pabanja!