Komabe Sigmund Freud, yemwe ndi bambo wa psychoanalysis, analemba kuti posankha chinthu chogonana, mphamvu (libido) imachokera ku zinthu zoyamba za chikondi-makolo-pa wokondedwa. Ndipo chifukwa chake, munthu akuyang'ana mnzanu yemwe amawoneka ngati amayi ake, ndipo mtsikanayo akuyang'ana abambo. Mfundoyi ndi yosangalatsa, koma 100% yosatsimikiziridwa. Ndipotu, mawu akuti "ofanana" ndi osawoneka bwino. Kodi ndondomeko yomwe wokondedwa angawoneke bwanji kwa amayi ndi amayi? Kuti mudziwe izi, m'pofunika kuti mufufuze zambiri. Ndipo nthawi zina anthu amawonezana ndi kumvetsetsa - izi ndizochitika. Tiyeni tiyesetse kuona momwe atsikana akufunira mkwatibwi, momwe amachitira zosankha zawo ndi kusunga wosankhidwayo? Tiyeni tiganizire njira zazikazi zazikazi za kukopa mnzanu. Kuti tichite izi, timaphunzira kwa anthu otchulidwa m'nkhaniyi: atsikana omwe analibe zofunikira nthawi imodzi, koma adalandira mphete yamtengo wapatali pamanja.
Chitsanzo cha Cinderella.
Nkhaniyi ikuwonetseratu kuti kuli kofunika kukweza chidwi cha munthu komanso kusalola chidwi ichi nthawi yomweyo. Nthano iyi ndi sayansi kwa atsikana omwe ali pamsonkhano woyamba ali okonzeka, monga momwe amachitira kale, "kuuza chirichonse ndi kusonyeza chirichonse". Ndipo izi sizofunika nthawi zonse.
Munthu wamkulu - Cinderella - ndi wosauka, wokhudzidwa ndi chiwawa. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi kofunika kwambiri kuti iye asatuluke kuzinthu zovuta zomwe akukhala.
Alina anafika ku likulu kuchokera ku tawuni yaing'ono yamapiri. Bambo adamwa, banja limakhala muumphawi komanso nthawi zonse. Alina anazindikira kuti mwayi wokha wosintha moyo wake unali wogwirizana ndi ukwati wabwino. Iye analibe mulungu wamulungu, kotero iye amayenera kudziyesera yekha. Alina anaphunzira bwino kusukulu ndipo adalowa ku yunivesite kuti akapeze dipatimenti yaulere. Kwa zaka ziwiri ndikuphunzira ndikukhulupirira kuti anzake a m'kalasi sali abwino kwa iye. Iwo okha amafunikira jekeseni zachuma, ndipo Alina amalephera kupeza zofunika. Iye ankakhala pa maphunziro, ankagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochuluka, ankaphunzira moyenera - ndipo ankayang'ana. Patapita kanthawi, adayang'ana munthu wina - pulofesa wothandizana naye kuchokera ku chipani choyandikana nawo, akufuna sayansi. Ali ndi zaka zoposa 30, zikuoneka kuti si zokongola, koma Alina sanachite manyazi. Anaphunzira kuti ali ndi "ufumu" wonse - chipinda chamagulu atatu ku Minsk. Osamwa, osasuta, kuchita yoga - osati osati kalonga? Komabe, kuzungulira "kalonga" nthawi zonse kunkawomba anzawo ndi ophunzira ena. Ndiye Alina anaganiza zopanga njira yokopa chidwi. Anaphunzira zomwe zingatheke pa zizoloŵezi zake ndi zokondweretsa (mpira, ndale, mbiriyakale). Zinapezeka kuti anali wamanyazi, amaopa atsikana ndipo nthawi zonse amathawa nawo sayansi. Wowonongeka Aline wa nkhaniyi anali wokwanira kuti apange ndondomeko yothandizira. Anapeza kuti masiku omwe "kalonga" anali ndi makalasi, pamene adadya chakudya chamasana, ndipo pa mphindi yabwino adakhala patebulo lake. Iye anali yekha, zomwe zinapangitsa kuti ntchitoyo ikhale yosavuta. Kuchokera ku funso losalakwa la Alina: "Pepani, simungandiuze momwe dzulo" Manchester "?", Anapitiriza kukambirana za ndale, ndiyeno-ndi moyo. Mphindi zochepa kuti "kalonga" asamwe madzi, Alina anapepesa ndipo adathawa. Nthawi yotsatira adamuzindikira, adamwetulira ndikuyimira. Anali okongola, analankhula naye kwa mphindi zingapo, ndipo, ponena za ntchito yake, adathawa. Kalonga anayamba kusonyeza chidwi. Patatha mwezi umodzi adakumana kawiri pa sabata, koma sanadziwe kanthu za iye. M'masiku amenewo pamene anali ndi maphunziro, adadya pamodzi. Ndiyeno Alina ... sanawonongeke kwa mwezi umodzi. Iye anali ndi chizolowezi, ndipo iye anaima pang'ono, kotero iye ankafuna kumuwona iye. Koma ndinkaopa kupasula chilichonse. Kuwerengera kunali kolondola. Kuwonjezera pa dzina la maphunziro ake ndi mphamvu yake, "kalonga" sanadziwe kanthu. Ndipo ^ iye anayamba kuyang'ana msungwanayo. Ndipo adapeza, ngakhale kuti analibe nsapato zake kapena manambala a foni. Alina anayenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama pamaso pa "wolamulira" wamanyazi, wamanyazi komanso wachikulire. Anamupatsa dzanja, mtima ndi chilolezo chokhalamo mu ufumu wa zipinda zitatu, koma kale chaka chachisanu, iye ankasewera mphete pamphindi ya dzanja lake lamanja.
Ngakhale kuti Cinderella si cholengedwa cholengedwa, amadziwa kukweza chidwi mwa munthu wake. Wina wa "akumira" kupita panja, wina-ku nzeru, wina - kuti amamveka ndi kumvetsetsedwa. Ntchito ya Cinderella ndikutuluka pakati pa gulu, kukweza chidwi ndi khalidwe lachilendo kapena mawonekedwe, kusonyeza khalidwe lapadera la mfumu ndikuthawa. Kuti kalonga Mulungu amaletsa, Mulungu sankaganiza kuti Cinderella akuponya ukondewo. Chilichonse chiyenera kuyang'ana mosavuta. Cinderella ndikumadzutsa chiwongolero cha mchimwene wa msaki, ndipo ngati atachita mwalamulo, pakapita kanthawi mkuluyo amayamba kufunafuna wosankhidwa wake.
Njira ya Cinderella:
1) Fufuzani chinthu chomwe mukufuna.
2) Chionetsero cha kukhala wapadera.
3) Chisangalalo cha chidwi.
4) Kulephera.
5) Chilolezo kuti mudzipeze nokha.
6) Ukwati, (mfundo 4 ndi 5 zikhoza kubwerezedwa kangapo - chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti zotsatira zachilendo sizikutha).
Chitsanzo "The Frog Princess".
Mbiri ndi yophunzitsa kwa atsikana omwe alibe makhalidwe abwino. Kumbukirani nkhaniyi: Ana achichepere anadyetsedwa ndi bambo ake, ndipo adaganiza zokwatira. Ndipo popeza iwo samasamala omwe amakwatirana nawo (zomwe, zolondola, chifukwa chosaloledwa!), Bamboyo amapereka aliyense wa iwo kuti awamasule. Kumene amapeza - pali wosankhidwa. Ana akuluakulu amatsitsa atsikana oyenerera muvi pabwalo, ndipo wamng'ono ... ndizochititsa manyazi kunena kuti ... Simukusowa kukhala psychoanalyst kuti mugwirizane ndi muvi ndi ulemu wa munthu. Kenaka zimakhala zoonekeratu zomwe zimatanthauza "kugunda muvi": ngakhale asanakwatirane, mtsikanayo amasonyeza mwayi wake muzochitika zogonana.
Ndi chule, timagwirizanitsa malingaliro monga "ozizira", "owopsa", "osasangalatsa." Potero, popanda kukhala ndi deta yowonekera kunja kapena, mwatsatanetsatane, kukhala wonyansa, frog, komabe, amapeza njira yolondola yopambana mwana wamng'ono.
Komabe, m'nthawi yathu ino izi sizikwanira: chiwerengero cha kusudzulana ndi magawano amakula, ndipo frog ya msungwanayo sichifuna kuti ingotenga woweruzayo, komanso kumusunga. Choncho, pambuyo pa chikwati (kapena pambuyo pa kuyamba kwa mgwirizano) achule amasonyeza matalidwe osiyanasiyana. Mu nthano, frog imadabwa ndi kukula kwa luso lachikazi: kukwanitsa kusoka, kukonzekera ndi kuchotsa mulingo woyenera kuchokera ku maonekedwe ake. Tidzazindikira, kuti m'nkhani ya nthano, gulu wanzeru limapereka thandizo la munthu wofunikira kwambiri kwa Ivan (mwamuna wake) - abambo ake. Pambuyo pake, pamene malo amtundu wa anthu amakomera mtima wosankhidwa wake, zimalimbikitsa chidaliro cha munthu pa choyenera cha kusankha, kumalimbitsa kudzidalira kwake, kumamuthandiza chidwi chake. Mwamuna amamangiriridwa ku chule lake, chifukwa ndi kwa iye yemwe amayesera molimba kwambiri. Ndiponso, pamene, malingana ndi nthano, frog inatha, Ivan mwamsanga amadziwa kusiyana pakati pa "moyo ndi ..." ndi "moyo wopanda ...".
Maxim ndi Nastya anakumana kwa zaka zingapo. Maxim ndi chikhalidwe, chokonda, chokongola-munthu wokongola yemwe nthawi zonse amadzifufuza yekha. Nastya ndi mtsikana wamba, osati wokongola. Ali ndi chikhalidwe chokongola, tsitsi lodabwitsa, koma mwinamwake iye ali kutali ndi zitsanzo zabwino. Makamaka pamene ili pafupi ndi okongola Maxim. Maxim, popanda kukayikira, nthawi ndi nthawi amauza Nastya kuti sanali mwamuna, chifukwa anali munthu wabwino, ndipo Nastya-ngati siwotchi, ndiye kuti anali wosagwirizana. Nastya analipirira moleza mtima zonsezi. Iye mokhulupirika anasamalira Maxim, ankamuphika iye chakudya, ankamvetsera nkhani zake zonse ndipo sanakhumudwe konse ponena za mawonekedwe ake. Koma zomwe zinachitika zinali zosayembekezereka - Max ankafuna kuwombera ndi mivi yake, ndipo anatumiza muvi wake, ndipo utawu unatuluka ... tiyeni tizinena-kulowa m'bwalo la mtsikana Diana. Ndipo Maxim Nasta adamuuza kuti anakumana ndi mtsikana wina wokongola, ndipo anasintha Nastya naye. Iye anayima iyo. Koma pamene adawauza kuti azikhala pamodzi, Nastya adasiya - mwamtendere komanso mwaulemu. Iwo sanakumane ndipo sanabwerere kwa miyezi itatu. Kwa nthawi yaitali adakhala ndi chimwemwe chokhazikika cha Maxim ndi Diana wokongola. Zinaoneka kuti omalizira osadziwika, osamvetsetseka, ouma khosi komanso osadzikonda kuposa Maxim yekha. Patatha mwezi umodzi adayamba kumvetsetsa kuti kukongola mu ubale - osati chinthu chofunika kwambiri, ndipo Diana nthawi zambiri anakangana naye - komanso wanzeru. Zinali zoti Diana anali wopusa - pambuyo pake, nthawi zonse ankamudziwa, ndipo ngakhale mwachindunji amadziwa zambiri za khalidwe lake losakhala mogul komanso zopanda malipiro. Inde, adalibe nzeru ndi kuleza mtima kwa Nastinyh (sanadziwitse zoona zopanda tsankho), komanso maluso ake okhwima ndi luso lachuma. Pambuyo phokoso lachisangalalo, Maxim anaswa ndi Diana ndipo, atangomusiya, adayesa kubwerera ku Nastya. Koma apo panali. Wusamala Nastya adanena kuti sali wokonzeka kupitiriza chiyanjano ndi mtundu wakalekale. Kuonjezera apo, adali ndi mwamuna wachikulire osati wokongola (onani nkhani - chikhalidwe Koschey, iye ndi mpikisano). Koma munthu uyu amaona kuti Nastya ndi wokongola, amamupempherera ndipo ali wokonzeka kukwatira tsopano. Ali ndi iye, amamva mtendere ndi chidaliro. Monga momwe nkhaniyi ilili, Oxim anayenera kumenyera Nastya. Pambuyo pa zonse, ndi chinthu chimodzi - pamene ndi "chule lanu" mu bokosi ", wina - pamene adadulidwa ndi Koschey. Mpikisano, momwe Maxim adayanjanako, adamuthandiza kuzindikira ndi kufunika kwa mtsikanayo. Ndipo abwenzi onse, achibale, achibale, makolo, kupotoza zala zawo pakachisi pazochita za Maxim, adathandizanso.
Kawirikawiri, pambuyo pa zokambirana zonse, panali mapeto osangalatsa. Maxim anabwerera kubwerera ku Nastia (iye, ndithudi, sanatsutse), Nastya - kudzikakamiza kulemekeza. Pa ukwatiwo, Nastya anali wokondeka, ngati onse okwatirana, pafupi ndi mwamuna wokongola wa Mulungu. Pali chophimba kwa inu.
Kotero, kwa chule, mawonekedwe si chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Talente yake ili mzake.
Njira ya Frog Princess:
1) Kuukira kofulumira chinthu choyenera.
2) Kugonjetsa malo ake pafupi ndi munthuyo.
3) Kupanga kudalira kwa munthu.
4) Kugonjetsa chifundo cha chikhalidwe chake powonetsera zoyenera zake.
5) Kuperewera poyankha zochita zowononga kapena zowononga, koma pambuyo pa chinthu chachitatu.
6) Chisangalalo cha mpikisano mwa osankhidwa ndi Zenizeni kapena Zina.
7) Chilolezo kuti mudzipindule nokha monga mphoto yoyenera.
8) Ukwati.
Chitsanzo "Kukongola Kogona".
Nkhaniyi ndi yokondweretsa kwambiri kwa atsikana omwe, "pazifukwa zilizonse", "anaphonya" nthawi ya golide, pamene anzawo onse ali okwatirana, ndipo tsopano akufika m'maganizo awo ndipo akuyang'ana kalonga.
Kuchokera m'nkhaniyi kumadziwika kuti msungwana yemwe anafika pa msinkhu, atagwidwa ndi nsonga (kachiwiri, ngati sichikuyenda bwino). Pambuyo pake adagona tulo. Mwamuna amene amamupeza anali mwachilengedwe wofufuza, sayansi ya chilengedwe, trailblazer. Anayenera kudutsa m'mitengo yambiri (zimatidziwitsa kuti izi ndi zotani), kuti tipeze mfumuyo, kumpsompsona ndikumuukitsa. Koma atangomuka, bwalo lake lonse limadzuka msangamsanga. Kalonga-Liberator pansi pa mikono kapena kupatula woyera - ndi kumtunda! Kupsompsona? Aliyense anawona! Ndipo ndi ndani yemwe ali mfumu yachifumu yokhala ndi ziboda zaka 100 zapitazo, atagonjetsedwa, palibe yemwe amakumbukira ngakhale, zinthu ndizopita masiku ambiri ... Koma inu nokha kupyola muzitsulo - ndiye, ngati munthu wabwino, ndiyenera kukwatira!
Marina "anagona" mpaka atakwanitsa zaka 27. Ndikutanthauza kuti ndinali kugona. Mofananamo, anayenda. Ubale umodzi ndi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, miyezi iwiri ina. Palibe kamwedwe kamodzi kotchedwa Marinochku. Koma makolo anga ankaganiza kuti mwana wanga anali wolemekezeka kwambiri. Nthawi zina amakhala ndi abwenzi ake, nthawizina amapita ku bizinesi. Ndipo agogo anga aakazi atachoka panyumbamo - ndipo mavuto ambiri atha. Koma pamene Marina adadzuka, adapezeka kuti ali yekha ndipo palibe yemwe anafulumira kukwatira. Chirichonse chikuwoneka kukhala - ntchito, kukula kwa ntchito, nyumba. Mwamuna wina wabwino - kotero onse anakwatira, pamene Marina ankaganizira ndi kugwira. Ndiyeno Marina anayamba kupanga pulani. Atakumana ndi Stepan, msilikali wachinyamata wamphamvu komanso wodalirika, anali ndi chidwi ndi iye, ndipo anali wokondwa ndi chikazi. Ndipo komabe_nkhani yakuti iye ndi msungwana wabwino ndipo akudikirira wosankhidwa wake. Kwa miyezi yambiri, Stepan "adang'amba pang'onopang'ono." Nditalandira mphotho yachangu pambuyo pa onse ohov, ahov ndi misonzi ya Marina, ndinapita naye tsiku lotsatira kwa wonyamulira. Koma mwinamwake ndinakayikira ... Kuti zonse zinali zabwino, Marinochka ananama - patatha masabata atatu adanena kuti posachedwa adzakhala makolo okondwa. Ndipotu, mwanayo sankatha kuona, koma Marina ndi makolo ake adalenga zofunikira. Patapita masiku ochepa Stepan anakhala mwamuna. Ndipo patapita kanthawi "padali padera padera" ... Ana omwe sanawonekere posachedwa, koma ukwatiwo uli wodekha. Marina tsopano "adadzuka" - monga mkazi, komanso monga mkazi ndi amayi. Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti ukwati unayamba ndi chinyengo, koma Stepan sadziwa za izo mosangalala.
Kugonana kwabwino:
1) Zovuta zokhudzana ndi kugonana, zomwe "zimawamasula", kapena kusowa kwathunthu kokopa kwa wokondedwa chifukwa cha kusakhazikika kwa thupi kapena maganizo.
2) Kuzindikira za kufunika kopeza wokwatirana naye.
3) "Kulimbitsa" kuti ukhale wogonjetsa ndikugonjetsa. 4) Kuloleza mnzanu kuti "adzike" (kumpsompsona kapena "kugwedeza ndi ndodo" - zonse ziri pafupi chinthu chomwecho).
5) Kupatsa udindo wa mkwati wa wopulumutsa wapadera.
6) Kupanga zikhalidwe zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ukwati ukhale "wopulumutsira" ndi Sleeping Beauty.
7) Ukwati.
Zitatu zomwe zimafotokozedwa m'nthano zimasonyeza kufunika kwa njira zodziphatikizira komanso njira zamakono pakufufuza, kusankha, kukopa ndi kusunga mkwati. Pambuyo pokhala ndi "zotsalira zaumaganizo ndi zamaganizo", munthu yemwe angakhale naye pachibwenzi angasonyeze kuti ndi woyenera, kapena amapeza yekha mudekesi.
Kotero, ndi chofunika kukumbukira mtsikana wosasankha mnyamata, koma mwamuna wake?
Choyamba, sankhani bwino. Ichi ndi gawo lovuta kwambiri, chifukwa limafuna kudzidzimva komanso kuchita "bwino msanga" za makhalidwe a mnzanuyo.
Chachiwiri, dziwani kuti ndondomeko iliyonse idzafuna mphamvu ndi mphamvu, zomwe zimachotsedwa m'malo mwa kugwa. Nthawi zina nsomba zimachoka pamphepete mwa nsomba pafupi ndi nyanja, koma izi si chifukwa choti musayambe kuwedza.
Chachitatu, yesani ndikumvetsetsa kuti ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zingakhale zothandiza kwambiri. Ngati mnzanuyo akuyesetsa kuti atonthoze ndi mwamtendere, muyenera kusonyeza kuti mumatha kuzilenga. Ngati kuli kofunika kuti iye apambane ndi kumenyana, amulandire nawo mpikisano, komwe muli mphoto yaikulu. Ngati akufuna
khalani wopulumutsa moyo - mpatseni mwayi wakupulumutsani: kuchokera ku chimfine, kumiza mu bafa, mvula ...
Ndondomeko zingasinthe - timasintha, nafenso. Winawake amadziona ngati chophimba, ndipo wosankhidwayo akuwona Cinderella mmenemo. Ndiye mukuyenera kupuma ndi kukumbukira kuti, monga Shakespeare analemba, "dziko lonse lapansi ndilo masewero" ... Ndipo jambulani chinthu chomwe chili chofunikira kwa woyang'ana wanu wamkulu.
PS Onse vyshenapisannoe saloledwa mtsikana ndi mkazi aliyense kuti azigwira ntchito payekha ndikuyesera Gwiritsani ntchito kusokoneza moyo wawo wa banja. Kondani munthu amene mwamunayo kuti mupeze ndi kugonjetsa. Koma iye safunikira kudziwa za izo. Mulole iye aganize kuti iye anakusankhani inu ndipo anagonjetsa. Chifukwa iye ndi mwamuna, ndipo kwa iye nkofunikira.