Nsanje sikumverera bwino, nthawizina kumapangitsa anthu kukwiya, kuchita zinthu zosasangalatsa. Chifukwa cha nsanje imeneyi akhoza kusonyeza nkhope yeniyeni ya aliyense. Tonsefe tikudziwa kuti nsanje za amuna ndi nsanje za amayi, monga akunena ku Odessa, zimasiyana kwambiri. Ndipo mfundo yonse ndi yakuti, zomwe amuna ndi akazi amachita ndizovuta (kapena zachitika kale) kusakhulupirika ndi zosiyana, koma chiyambi cha nsanje ndi chosiyana.
Zotsatira zake, monga momwe moyo umasonyezera, ndizosiyana kwambiri. Anthu amati: "Nsanje - zikutanthauza chikondi." Koma, nsanje sizikugwirizana ndi chikondi chosatha. Zimaphatikizapo malingaliro osiyana siyana: kusatetezeka m'zinthu zonse, mantha osiyana (eni eni eni eni enieni) komanso kukhala ndi umwini. Kenaka, tiyesera kuganizira nsanje za amuna ndi akazi pokhapokha, kuti tiwone zomwe zimayambitsa nsanje pazochitika zina komanso zotsatira zake.
Nsanje ya akazi
Nsanje ya akazi inali, ndipo idzakhala. Mwachitsanzo, sindinayambe ndakomanapo ndi mayi yemwe sakanatha kumvetsa izi. Ena mwa iwo amadzibisa bwino. Nsanje yachikazi imadziwonetsera yokha chifukwa choopa kutaya chidwi kuchokera kwa yemwe mkaziyo, kwenikweni, ali ndi nsanje. Kapena musataye chidwi chenicheni, komanso munthu mwiniyo. Amaopa kuti malo ake adzatengedwa ndi wina. Izi zikutanthauza kuti akazi amachitira nsanje mkazi wina wazimayi. Uwu ndiwo kusiyana koyamba pakati pa nsanje ya amuna ndi akazi.
Kusiyana kwachiwiri ndikuti nsanje ya amai ikhoza kukhala mkati ndikudzikundikira zaka. Pachifukwa ichi, mkaziyo amamuopseza mwamuna wake ndi zida ndi ziganizo zokhudzana ndi chiwembu. Pazochita zowonjezereka kwambiri chifukwa cha nsanje yino, mkazi sangathe kukhala wokhoza.
Nsanje ya akazi ndi yoopsa kwa mkaziyo komanso mkazi wina (yemwe mwamuna wake ali ndi nsanje), koma kwa amuna amangoima kwa mphindi zingapo (maola, masiku) akuukira mwamphamvu, mwinamwake, kuwopseza. Asanayambe kuchitapo kanthu, nkhaniyo, monga yanenedwa kale, kawirikawiri sikhudza.
Amayi ambiri ali ndi chizoloŵezi chokwiyitsa ndi zakale. Zomwe akumbukira zakale, zithunzi, zinthu zimamupangitsa mkazi kukwiya. Ndipo ngati munthu adakumbukirabe tanthauzo lake, kunena momwe analili wabwino, ndiye kuti mkwiyo wa mkaziwo udzatuluka pampando wokwanira.
Nsanje ya amuna
Apa pali chinthu china chosavuta komanso chomveka bwino. Mwamuna amachitira nsanje mkazi wake pamene amayamba kukondana ndi wina, amachititsa chidwi ndi ena, amavala bwino komanso amavala zovala. Ngakhale iye ali ndi chidwi china chake kuposa iye mwiniwake. Sizingakhale "mwamuna" yekha, komanso ntchito yake, zokondweretsa, zosangalatsa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, chifukwa cha nsanje yamunthu, ndizomwe zimakhala ndi umwini wambiri.
Munthu amasonyeza nsanje zake poyera, mwachiwawa komanso m'maganizo. Angalenge mu mkwiyo, chirichonse. Monga lamulo, abambo amwamuna amatsanulira pa mkaziyo, mobwerezabwereza kwa yemwe amamuchitira nsanje.
Pali lingaliro lakuti amuna samakhala achisoni ngati akazi. Koma ngati munthu adakali ndi maganizo ake, ndiye kuti iyeyo ali ndi "manyazi". Izi, ndithudi, ziri zomveka, koma, monga akunena, "palibe utsi wopanda moto."
Kuchotsa nsanje
Funso lofunika kwambiri likubwera - m'mene mungachotsere nsanje? Njira yayikulu yothetsera chilengedwe chonse ndikutengera pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ngati izo ziri, ndiye chuma sichiri chowopsya. Inde, ikhoza kuyambira kwinakwake pamtima, koma mtundu womwewo wa kuyang'ana mkhalidwe umene unakuchititsani nsanje, ungathandize. Funso lokhalo ndilo kuti amuna, ochepa omwe amawakonda anthu, angathe kuthana ndi chikhumbo chowonetsa chisangalalo chawo ndi wokondedwa wawo, kuganizira momwe zinthu ziliri ndi kusankha ngati kuli koyenera konse. Azimayi amangofuna kuti azitha kumvetsa chisoni komanso kuyatsa milatho, osadziŵa bwinobwino zomwe zikuchitikazo. Mwinamwake, palibe yemwe angakhale ndi nsanje, koma kudandaula kulikonse komwe kwalowa mu moyo wazimayi kumayambitsa mkuntho wamantha ndi kuimitsa izo si zophweka.
Choncho, kuti tipewe nsanje ndikufunikira:
- Khulupirirani kuti mnzanuyo ndiye maziko a chiyanjano chilichonse, choncho tilankhulana wina ndi mzake, tiwuzeni za momwe mumamvera, mantha, kupeza mavuto onse ndi kuyamba chiyanjano chanu ndi "slate safi";
- yesetsani kuchotsa mantha amantha: mantha otaika mnzanu ndikukhala nokha, kuopa kufotokoza maganizo anu momasuka ndikufotokozera malingaliro;
- kumenyana ndi kukayikira. Ndi iye yemwe amapanga munthu mu zovuta, ndipo, monga momwe akudziwira, mavuto onse okhudzana ndi maganizo amachokera ku maofesi.
Ndi nsanje mungathe kumenyana, ndipo mwina zingathe kuwononga banja lanu komanso ubwenzi wa munthu wokondedwa, komanso moyo wanu. Zotsatira zomwe zimabwera chifukwa cha nsanje ndizosiyana kwambiri. Tonse timakumbukira Othello ...