Komano funso likubwera, ngati mwamuna wanu wokondedwa ndi mwamuna yekha wakukhumudwitsani mwakusintha inu, kodi akuyenera kukhululukira kuti iye akupereka kapena sakukhululukira?
Tiyeni tiyambe kunena kuti izi sizongopeka, koma nkhani yomwe ikuyenera kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa ngati n'zotheka kukhululukira wokondedwa wanu. Ndipo ziri kwa inu kuti musankhe izi potsatira mkhalidwewo. Chifukwa palibe yankho lachilengedwe pa funso ili. Ndipotu, mungathe kukhululukira kapena ayi, zimadalira pazinthu zambiri: pa kuchuluka kwake, nthawi komanso ndi ndani, pa ubale wanu, kukhalapo kwa ana komanso zinthu zina.
Tiyeni tiganizire pansipa, zomwe tingafune tikamapanga chikhululuko kapena osakhululukira.
Kuopsa kwa kusakhulupirika.
Kuopsa kwa kusakhulupirika, ziribe kanthu momwe kulili kovuta kulingalira, lingaliro ili ndi locheperapo komanso mu kilogalamu yomwe sangathe kuyeza. Pambuyo pake, mmodzi wa akaziwo adzakhululukira mosavuta, winayo sadzakhululukidwa kwa chirichonse ndipo sadzachita konse. Komabe, tikhoza kusankha mbali zina zomwe tiyenera kuziganizira. Ndipo mwinamwake ndibwino kuti muyambe, ndi kulingalira kwa chiŵerengero cha nthawi ya chiyanjano chanu ndi kusakhulupirika.
Pambuyo pake, ngati mutatha zaka 10 mutagwirizanitsa ndi moyo wabwino mwamuna wanu paulendo wina wautali sangathe kulimbana ndi mayesero a wophunzira wamng'ono, izi ndi chinthu chimodzi, ndipo ngati, patatha chaka chimodzi mutakhala pamodzi, mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akusintha iwe ndi mnzako pamasitepe, . Pachiyambi choyamba, chikhululukiro chikhoza kukhululukidwa, ndipo, mwinamwake, sikokwanira kuthetsa chiyanjano chokhazikitsidwa kale chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika kamodzi, ndithudi mwamuna ayenera kupepesa ndi kulapa. Koma pachifukwa chachiŵiri, kukhululuka, mwinamwake, sikuli koyenera, ngati athamangira kuketi yoyamba mumapeza mpweya wanu ndipo mutatha kukhala limodzi, ndiye kuti ngakhale mwamuna wanu akupempha chikhululuko pamabondo anu, simuyenera kukhulupirira kuti mukulapa.
Chizindikiro china chokhudzidwa ndi chiwembu ndi chakuti anali wosakwatira kapena nthawi. Ndipotu, ndi chinthu chimodzi chokhululukira zofooketsa panthawiyi, pamene mwamuna adangokhalira kulakalaka, ndi chinthu china chokhululukira chigwirizano chodziwika bwino, chomwe iye anachibwereza mobwerezabwereza kumbuyo kwako. Ngakhale movuta kumvetsa, njira yoyamba ndi yosavuta kukhululukira kuposa yachiwiri.
Chinthu chachitatu chimene mungathe kuweruza kuopsa kwa chidziwitso ndi ubale wanu ndi mwamuna wanu, panthawi yachinyengo. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mumakangana kwambiri, ndipo mwamunayo anasiya mofuula, akuwombera pakhomo mokweza, anapita kwa anzake ku kampaniyo ndipo kumeneko anasintha, awa. Koma ngati ananyamuka tsiku la Sabata, akunyengerera, kuti apite kwa abwenzi, ndipo iye mwiniwakeyo, ndi nkhani ina. Pachiyambi choyamba, udindowu unayesedwa ndi mitsempha ndi mantha, ndipo mwachiwiri ndi bodza lodziwika ndi lopindulitsa.
Zinthu zogwirizana.
Dzina lalikululi timatanthawuza zonse zomwe sizikugwirizana kwambiri ndi malingaliro anu - ndalama, nyumba, zolakwa zanu zakale, ndi zina zotero, chirichonse chomwe sichikhudza kwenikweni momwe akumverera, koma chimakhudza kwambiri njira yanu ya moyo. Zifukwa izi, nazonso, zimatha kusinthitsa mamba mu funsolo, kukhululukira kapena kusakhululukira kugulitsidwa kwa mwamuna wake. Izi ndizo, ngati inu mwachimwa, mwachibadwa mulibe ufulu womunamizira kuti ndi wamwano.
Pa zonsezi, mukhoza kuwonjezera zotsatirazi, kuti mukhululukire mwamuna wanu pokhapokha atapempha kuti akhululukidwe ndipo ziwonekere kuti akulapa pazochita zake. Ngati izi siziri, ndiye kuti chiwombankhanza chopanda chilungamo sichingakhululukidwe. Ndipo ndidzanenanso, kuti ndikukhululukireni mwamuna wanga kapena ayi, ichi ndi nkhani yaumwini, ndipo ndizofunikira kudziyendetsa mmenemo, osati maganizo a ena.