Kugawana mwamuna ndi munthu wina osati mkazi aliyense angakonde lingaliro ili. Winawake adayamba kumudziwa, ndipo mudapitiliza kukhala wachizolowezi. Ili ndilo njira yoyipa kwambiri. Kuti muchite izi, m'pofunika kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake adapezera mkazi wina ndi zomwe zimamuchitikira.
Mwinamwake mwamuna wanu ndi mmodzi wa iwo achikondi, omwe amapeza chikondi chosafunika, chikondi chomwe mukufuna kupereka wina. Ndipo vuto ili sikuti inu pano simukumvetsera kwambiri zakukhosi kwake ndi malingaliro ake, ndipo vuto ndilo kuti simungakhoze kulandira chirichonse. Iwe uli ngati mtsuko wodzaza, momwe madzi ena sangakhoze kuwonjezeredwa. Mu mkhalidwe uno, mwamuna akuyang'ana mtsuko wina yemwe akufuna kudzaza chikondi chake, chisamaliro. Zingathe kuonekeratu kuti munthu adapezanso wina, kumumirira pang'ono, amavomereza kukhala ndi wina, choti achite? Ndi bwino kulingalira ngati mukufuna mnzanuyo. Ngati muzindikira zosowa zanu, yesetsani kutaya maganizo anu, kuti mutenge madzi atsopano. Onetsani chisamaliro chochuluka kwa bamboyo, ndipo mulimonsemo musayambe kunyengerera. Kungosonyeza kuti umamukonda kuposa wina aliyense ndipo ndiwe woyenera iwe, kuti ndiwe yekha amene ungakhale pansi pa mapiko ake ndi chisamaliro chake. Ngati mwamuna akuzindikira kuti akukufunani, ndiye kuti amayi ena amangochoka mosavuta mofulumira pamene akulowa.
Nanga bwanji ngati, povutitsidwa, munthu amavomereza kuti akhale ndi wina, choti achite, ngati ili ndi vuto lanu? Nthawi yomweyo dzifunseni funso la zomwe mwakhala mukulakwitsa, chifukwa chiyani mukulakwitsa kwanu, ndipo sikuti iye ndi wolakwa. Yankho ndi lophweka. Mwamuna ndi mwana yemweyo, galu yemweyo amene ayenera kupatsidwa chisamaliro chokwanira. Ngati nthawi zonse mumamukondweretsa, yambani, perekani nthawi yokwanira, chikondi ndi chikondi, iye sadzachokapo kwa wina, amene angakhale m'malo mwake. Apanso, nkofunika kusonyeza - yemwe mwamuna wake amafunikira ndi amene ali. Ngati mumvetsetsa bwino kuti mukufunikira ngati mpweya, ndiye kuti musayambe kukwiya. Khalani wochenjera ndipo mumangomenyera nkhondo kwa iye, musamubweretsereni mwamtundu yekha m'banja, koma chitani kuti iye afune yekha, kapena, amaganiza kuti ndilo kusankha kwake.
Zindikirani zomwe mumapindula nazo, pambuyo pake, chifukwa china chake chisankho chaima pa inu. Ganizilani zomwe munachimangirira ndipo mungakhale pafupi ndi inu, mwinamwake mudakondwera, mukumwetulira, mwamphamvu, ndipo tsopano mwataya mawonekedwe. Gwiritsani ntchito makhalidwe awa ngati mwayi wanu kuti muthezenso mtima wa munthu wanu. Ndipo kuwonjezera pa izi, ndithudi, mupatseni nthawi yambiri ndi chidwi. Kumbukirani momwe mudapindulira, momwe adakupindulitsani ndikupita patsogolo. Mulembereni mauthenga omwe mumamuphonya, pomwepo pa tsiku logwira ntchito komanso tepi yonse yofiira, kuyitana, funsani momwe akugwirira ntchito, kukonzekera kadzutsa, kuwona kuti agwire ntchito, ngakhale ngati mukufuna kugona maola angapo, kukonzekera mosayembekezereka, koma zosangalatsa zodabwitsa. Amuna ngati ana aang'ono akutsogoleredwa ku chirichonse chokoma, chowala ndi chosangalatsa. Yambani, tcherani chidwi, musonyeze kuti sangakhale paliponse padziko lapansi ngati wabwino komanso omasuka pamene ali pafupi ndi inu. Inu nokha simuwona momwe izi zidzasinthire moyo wanu palimodzi, zikhale zokondweretsa, bweretsani munthuyo, ndipo zidzalimbitsanso ubale wanu.
Ngati munthu avomereza kuti ali ndi wina, komanso pamene akukumana ndi mavuto, ganizirani ngati mungakhale ndi chinachake chowonjezera. Kuwombera kumatsenga, kukangana kuno sikungakuthandizeni, lingaliro limodzi lokha lolondola ndi kupeza chifukwa chake chochita chotero ndi kusankha. Ngati iye ali wovumbulutsira, ndiye palibe chomwe chiyenera kuchitika pa izo. Musatseke nyumba yake ku nyumbayi, musamangomangiriza ku mpando, choncho samathawa kufunafuna ulendo. Tifunika kuchitenga, kapena kubwereranso, ngakhale ziri zovuta bwanji. Ndipo ngati simunamugwire kale mwamuna wanu, iwo akutopa ndi dongosolo, kapena amapeza zomwe nthawi zonse ankazifuna ndipo sanazione. Ndiye musamamukakamize, kumukakamiza kuti asakakamize zam'tsogolo ndi iye yemwe simukumuwona. Ayi, ndithudi, mungayese kubwezeretsa, kuoneka bwinoko, kumvetsetsa mtundu wa mkazi yemwe akusowa ndi kukhala monga choncho. Koma idzakhala masewera, ndipo simungathe kusewera nawo moyo wanu wonse, kuti mumusunge. Panthawi ina, kusintha kwake kudzachitika, ndipo simungathe kuchita chilichonse, muyenera kupirira zotsatira zake. Pa mavuto a munthu wina, chimwemwe chake sichimangidwe. Kotero mwina ndibwino kuti musadzipweteke nokha, ndi kudziyesera nokha tsopano, kuti mupite patsogolo ndi kupeza chimwemwe chanu chenicheni?
Ndipo, ngati pansi pa zovuta munthu amavomereza kuti akhale ndi wina-choti achite kwa ife, atanyengedwa? Ndiko kulondola, pewani zovutazo ndikusiya. Chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kugwera kuvutika maganizo, sadathandizire aliyense, koma amangowonjezera vutoli. Sungani izi kuti zisakukhumudwitseni, koma mosiyana ndi zosangalatsa, zatsopano. Pambuyo pake, musanatsegule zatsopano zosagonjetsedwa. Tsopano muli ndi ora latsopano. Inu mukhoza kumadzizindikira nokha ngati simunazipezepo kale. Iwe tsopano ndi mfulu ndipo ukhoza kuchita china chake, yesani china chatsopano. Dziko lonse liri lotseguka kwa inu. Dziwani, ndinu woyenera kwambiri komanso wabwino kwambiri akuyembekezera inu patsogolo, ndi munthu amene sakonda inu ndipo sakukuyamikirani, choncho sanakumenyerani inu ndipo mosavuta anakana. Koma pambuyo pa zonse, sizinthu zonse, msilikali wanu ndi mfumu kwinakwake pafupi kwambiri. Konzekerani nokha kusintha, kusintha maonekedwe, chithunzi, malo olankhulana, malo ochezera, kulembetsa maphunziro, maphunziro amathandizanso zatsopano, kapena mwina kuwerenga buku latsopano limene manja sanafike. Mwachidziwikire, munthu ayenera kuphunzira momwe angadzikondere yekha, ndiye chikondi ichi chidzakukoka chikondi chatsopano kwa iwe. Choncho, zomwe sizinachitike m'moyo, zonse zimangotengera tsogolo lathu.