Chifukwa chiyani amuna amasintha
Mwamuna ndi cholengedwa cha mitala. Ndipo kukhulupilika kwathunthu ndi malingaliro kawirikawiri sikulumikizana. Chiwembu nthawi zambiri, zimachitika mwadzidzidzi. Inde, izi sizolondola, koma muzochitika izi sizili koyenera kuwombera. Paziwerengero ndi chimwemwe cha banja, ndipo chimakhala chosagwirizana ndi kunyada. Ndipo apa gulu lovulala, sankhani chomwe chidzakhala chilango. Ndipotu, banja ndi losavuta kuwononga.
Mwamuna wanga anali ndi zolaula zatsopano. Wofiira mu kugonana, moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, imvi tsiku ndi tsiku umakakamiza anthu m'manja mwa okonda. Ndipo ngati mwamunayo sanakonzekere kuchoka m'banja, ndiye mwadzidzidzi amapeza kuti malingaliro kwa ambuye akukula. Izi ndizoopsa kwambiri. Ili ndi maphwando okhudzidwa kwambiri.
Palinso mgwirizano weniweni wa thupi. Cholakwika chonse cha chikhalidwe, pali amuna omwe sangathe kukhutitsa wokondedwa kwambiri. Izi sizipezeka kawirikawiri, ndipo chifukwa cha kuwonongeka kwa zachilengedwe, zikukhala zochepa.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?
Poyamba, yankho losavuta ndilo kuti musakhululukire wotsutsa. Koma zowawa zowonetsera zimasonyeza kuti kudandaula za zochita zopanda nzeru kumabwera kale kwambiri kuposa momwe tinkayembekezera. Pamene simungathe kusintha chirichonse. Pofuna kuthetsa vutoli, apa kunyada sizothandiza kwambiri. Ngati simukufuna kukhululukira, musati muwakhumudwitse. Ndizotheka kupita kwa kanthawi kwa achibale kapena paulendo, koma izi zisanakhale zomveka bwino.
Amayi ambiri ali ndi maganizo osiyana. Amafuna kusunga banja m'njira zonse zomwe zilipo. Khalidweli liyenera kulemekezedwa, mukhoza kukhululukira ntchito, koma musatengeke makutu a katsabola. Posakhalitsa zonsezi zidzasokonezeka.
Pamene munthu samangoyenda, koma pamene pambali pali maganizo ndi malingaliro. Kulimbana ndi vutoli kudzafuna kuleza mtima ndi mphamvu zambiri. Ndikofunika kutsimikizira kwa wokondedwa yemwe ali bwino, chifukwa ichi ndi kofunika kusonyeza zolakwa za mbuye. Thandizo limabwera ndi nsanje, muyenera kuchita chirichonse kuti mbuye wanu azichitira nsanje. Amuna panyumba amafunika kukhala ndi mtendere wamphumphu, amuna samawakonda, ndipo sayenera kumva kuchokera kwa inu.
Muyenera kuti munthu akuyang'ane mosiyana. Iyenera kusintha kwambiri, kotero kuti zonsezi zimazindikiridwa ndi anzanu omwe mumadziwana nawo. Pambuyo pake, mwamuna ndi mkazi wake akugwirizana kwambiri kuposa amayi awo. Osati chizoloŵezi chokha, katundu wokhala nawo. Mwachibadwa, awa ndi ana omwe amuna ambiri ali nawo pachiyambi, komanso nthawi zambiri zosangalatsa.
Kodi mungabwezere bwanji mwamuna wake?
Mkazi aliyense amakhulupirira kuti wosankhidwa wake sikuti adzakhala ndi moyo wautali komanso wosangalala, ndi chikondi chawo kwamuyaya. Koma mu moyo zonse sizili monga ife tikufunira kuti zikhale.
Mukazindikira kuti mwamuna wanu anayamba kuyambiranso ntchito, anayamba kudziyang'anitsitsa nokha, ndi wina wokongola akuyankhula pa foni. Ndiyeno inu mudzapeza kuti chifukwa cha kusintha uku ndi mkazi wina. Panthawi yotere munthu amakhala ndi nkhawa pang'ono:
ululu - munapereka wokondedwa
- mkwiyo - mumamupatsa zaka zabwino kwambiri za moyo wanu, kumukonda, kumusamalira, kubereka ana, angakuchitireni bwanji izi?
- kudandaula - mumamukhulupirira, mudali ndi chidaliro mwa iye, ndipo adatsogoleredwa ndi nkhope yokongola ndi chiwerengero chochepa.
Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani? Chinsinsi cha kupambana ndi kusalakwitsa: misonzi, kusudzulana, kukuwa, kunyoza ndi zina zotero. Ngati mungapulumutse banja lanu, musaganize, izi sizingatheke. Ndizovuta, koma ndizothandiza. Simungasonyeze kuti mukudziwa kuti akunyengerera. Mwachidule ndiye kuti adzadzipangira yekha, ngati akudziwa kuti ndimamupusitsa, ndipo amamukhululukira, amakhala, choncho adzakhululukira. Sichidzakukondani.
Ngati mumakonda mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, mwakonzeka kumukhululukira, ndiye kuti mumudziwa kuti simudziwa chilichonse, ndi kutsatira malangizo ena:
- Dziyang'ane nokha pagalasi ndikuganiza, kodi vuto lingakhale mwa iwe? Mwinamwake muyenera kudziganizira nokha? Ngati muli olemera kwambiri, ndiye kuti zakudya zowonjezera mwamsanga zidzakuthandizani. Funsani wovala tsitsi, pedicure, manicure. Ino ndi nthawi yosintha chithunzi chanu. Inde, izo zidzatengera khofi lokongola, koma iwe susowa kuti udzipulumutse wekha. Olemba masewera olimbitsa thupi amasankha kalembedwe ka tsitsi kamene kamakuyenererani. Ngakhale munthu wosasamala kwambiri adzawona kusintha koteroko, ndipo ngakhale ulendo wopita ku salon wokongola udzakubweretsani inu chisangalalo chochuluka.
- Kugula zovala zapamwamba kwambiri zomwe simunayambe mwakhala nazo, ziyenera kukhala zokongola, zomwe simunazionepo kale. Yang'anani kudzera m'masamba a intaneti, ma catalogs, magazini a amayi ndi zithunzi za zatsopano, mutenge zovala zanu zabwino zamkati. Mukamabwera kunyumba, onetsetsani kuti muli ndi zovala zamkati, ndipo ngakhale zikuwoneka zachikongola, simuyenera kuyendayenda pamaso pa mwamuna wake, mukunyengerera. Tengani ndi kupotoka mu nsalu kutsogolo kwa galasilo, chitani ndi kuwonetsa maloto ndi kumwetulira koipa, mukudziwa chomwe ine ndikutanthauza?
- Musalankhulane ndi anthu omwe mumakonda kukambirana nawo za moyo wanu. Yambani ndi anthu okondwa, okondwa, ndipo mudzakhala ndi maganizo abwino.
- Sinthani zomwe iye ankakonda kugwiritsa ntchito. Mwachitsanzo, ndiwe wokondweretsa alendo, koma tsopano nthawi zina mukhoza kulola pepper kapena kudyetsa mbale. Mukhoza kuyang'anitsitsa pawindo mukatsanulira tiyi kapena khofi komanso mukumwetulira, ganizirani zinthu zabwino ndikusamwanso zakumwa. Ndiye, kodi mwamuna wake angatani, aganizire za mutu wake, ndipo mwinamwake anayamba kugwirizana?
- Sinthani mzere wa khalidwe lanu. Kodi munatani mukamaliza kufika kwa mnzanuyo? Mudamufunsa mafunso ndi zizoloŵezi, adapeza zina mwa "zifukwa" zake. Chifukwa chake, mumadziona kuti ndinu wokongola, ndipo ndi woyera. Zitha kuchitidwa mosiyana: kuchepetsa nokha pamene ayambiranso, kapena pamene akuchedwa kuti asamamuzunze ndi mafunso, koma kungonena kuti: "Ndichedwa kwambiri, undiuze mawa momwe tsiku lako lapitira. Ndipo tsopano tigonana ndikuganiza momwe tingasinthire. " Adzachita mantha, nthiti yake idzagwa pansi.
Si zophweka, koma mumvetsetsa pamene muwona zotsatira zomwe masewerawa ndi ofunikira kandulo. Ngati atasankha kukakumana ndi abwenzi ake, musamve chisoni, kuti sakufuna kukhala ndi inu, koma ngati mwadzidzidzi funsani kuti: "Kodi simudzachedwa?". Koma musangosewera, chifukwa mumayenera kugwedeza mwamuna wanu, komanso kuti musamulangize ndi nyanga.
Yesetsani kuthana ndi mavuto pamodzi
Mukukhala mosiyana kwa kanthawi ndipo simudziwa kubwezeretsa chikondi patali? Ngati mubwera ku chisankho, mutatha kuganiza mozama, momwe mungabwezere chikondi cha munthu, ndiye kuti muyenera kudziyankha nokha chifukwa chake chinachitika, kuti munataya ulemu ndi chikondi cha mwamuna wanu. Zitha kukhala zovuta pakati, kapena ali ndi ambuye, chifukwa cha zomwe adakusiyani. Nthawi zambiri izi ndizo njira yoyamba, yomwe ndivuto mu ubale wa banja, ndipo ndi kosavuta kubwezeretsa chikondi cha munthu kusiyana ndi ngati ali ndi chikondi kumbali.
Mavuto amapezeka m'banja pamene ana akukula ndi kuthawa pa chisa cha kholo. Mwamuna kapena mkazi atapuma pantchito ndipo alibe chochita. Amatopa, ndipo sakudziwa choti achite. Musalole kuti zinthu ziziyenda okha, kuwathandiza kuyamba kuyamba moyo watsopano ndi kudzipeza okha. Tenga nthawi ya tchuthi ndikupita ku tchuthi, komwe ungaiwale, ndiwe zaka zingati, uzidzikonda nokha. Yesetsani kuthetsa mavuto onse palimodzi. Tangoganizani kuti ndinu wokongola komanso wamng'ono, koma moyo wayamba kale.
Matenda a wokondedwa, kukonzanso, kusamukira, mavuto ena omwe angakuthandizeni kugwirizanitsa. Chinthu chachikulu pa nthawi ino ndi kukhala pamodzi. Ndiyeno theka lanu lidzayamikira ndikuzindikira zomwe mukuchita. Ngati ali ndi ambuye, ndiye kovuta kwambiri. Zingopeka chabe m'nthano yakuti pali mapeto abwino - "adakhala mosangalala nthawi zonse ndikufa tsiku limodzi." Mu moyo, izo sizikuchitika. Wokondedwa wanu wapita. Kukhumudwitsidwa ndi nthawi ya misonzi yowawa ili kumbuyo kwathu, tikuyenera kuchita. Ganizirani bwino momwe, popanda kutaya ulemu kuti mubwerere mwamuna wake.
Malangizo ochepa chabe onena za momwe mungabwerere mwamuna
- Ganizirani ngati mukufuna kubwereranso wokondedwa wanu kulikonse. Nchiyani chimakupangitsa inu khungu kukonda kumanda, kapena kubwezera pa yemwe anakutsutsani inu? Mkazi aliyense amadziwa kuti kubwezera ndi chonyansa, chaching'ono, koma palibe kuthawa, izi zimakhala zachikhalidwe cha akazi. Sikoyenera chifukwa cha chikhumbo chopeza ngakhale, kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu yonse yamtengo wapatali pa izo.
- Ngakhale munthu atatenga njira yowonjezeretsa chiyanjano, musayembekezere kuti nthawi yomweyo adzabwerera kwa inu. Musakhale ovuta, osatchula, ola lililonse mu chiyembekezo chokumva mawu ake, ndi kupeza pamene adzabwerenso. Zochita zoterezi zingangopangitsa kusakonda, ndipo sakufuna kukhala pamodzi. Dzichepetseni nokha kuti munthu, kuti apange chisankho choyenera kukhala ndi inu kapena ayi, muyenera kuganizira bwino. Musamamukakamize ndikuyamba kuchita zinthu zomwe zingakuchitireni zabwino.
- Monga mukudziwira, kugonana kolimba kumakopa chinthu chomwe sichipezeka. Khalani odziimira ndipo musamukankhire munthuyo ndi zochita zanu. Sizingatheke kumudzutsa, ngati mupempha kuti akukhululukireni, muthamangitseni. Aliyense amadziwa kuti amuna ndizosaka mwachibadwa, akhale oyenera nyama. Khalani oleza mtima ndipo musamuwonetse iye momwe mumamuyembekezera. Ndibwino kuti muzisamalire nokha, dzipangire nokha ndi zovala zatsopano, nsalu yatsopano ya tsitsi, minofu yokonda kwambiri. Pitani kwa anzanu kumaseŵera kapena kumaseŵera, tulukani nawo pa chilengedwe. Konzani kukakumana ndi wokondedwa wanu ndi kukhala wokongola kwambiri. Onse omwe alira ndi amayi osokonezeka akhoza kumangomvera chifundo, koma osati ulemu ndi chikondi.
Mwamuna akatha kuona kuti simukusowa pokhalapo, poyamba adzakhumudwitsidwa, zomwe, pamapeto pake, zidzasokonekera. Zimadalira machitidwe anu ndi inu ngati mungathe kutentha malawi kuchokera ku ntchentche yowonongeka.
Zina zothandiza zothandiza kumanga maubwenzi omwe agwedezeka kale
- Musamangomangirira ndipo musabwerere ku maganizo oipa nthawi zonse. Ganizirani zokhazokha zokha, muziyamikira mphindi iliyonse yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito pamodzi.
- Musapewe mgwirizano wapamtima. Moyo watsopano uyenera kukhala wodzaza ndi inu, chifukwa mwamuna, pambuyo pa zonse, anakusankhani inu mofanana.
- Chitani zonse pamodzi ndikugawana maphunziro osangalatsa ndi maudindo ofanana.
- Mkazi aliyense simukusowa kuti muwone mdani, chifukwa abwenzi anu abwenzi alibe chochita ndi chiwembu. Choncho, munthu sayenera kupeŵa kuyanjana nawo.
- Mutabwereranso mwamuna ku banja, mumayenera kumanganso ubale watsopano, yesetsani kupeŵa zolakwitsa, phunziraninso. Ndikofunika kuyesetsa kubwezeretsa ulemu kwa mwamuna ndi kubwezeretsa chikondi cha mwamuna wake. Lonjezani kudzidalira kwanu. Musamadzitamande mkazi wobwererayo. Umunthu ndi wofunika koposa kupembedza khungu. Kukhala wotsimikiza ndi wolimba mwa iyemwini mkazi ndi wokongola kwambiri ndipo sikungatheke kuti mwamuna wako akufuna kupeza malo.
Tsopano tikudziwa chifukwa chake amuna amasintha momwe angabwezerere mwamuna. Kulimbana ndi chimwemwe chanu ndikofunikira. Chifukwa cha kusinthaku, simungataye chilichonse, mudzakweza kudzidalira nokha, mukusangalala, mudzawoneka bwino. Mbuye wabwino kwa inu!