Nthawi zambiri kuchokera m'mabuku a mafilimu ndi mafilimu achikondi tikhoza kulingalira nkhani zokongola za chikondi, zomwe timakumana nazo motere: "Ichi ndi chikondi poyang'ana poyamba." Nchiyani chomwe chimalongosola mawonekedwe a kumverera uku, chimachitika chiani pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi? Ndipo kodi pali chikondi chenicheni chomwe chimayimba ndi ndakatulo zambiri?
"Ndiuzeni, chikondi n'chiyani?"
Yankho la funso loyakala limeneli silifunidwa ndi iwo amene akufunafuna moyo wawo, koma ndi gulu lonse la asayansi. Mwachitsanzo, asayansi ochokera ku yunivesite ya London kupyolera mu kuyesera ayambitsa chinthu chodabwitsa. Amuna eyiti ndi akazi asanu ndi atatu anapatsidwa zithunzi za alendo osangalatsa omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Zotsatirazo zinali zodabwitsa ngakhale kwa asayansi enieni: ngati mu chithunzichi maso a munthuyo anali kuyang'ana mwachindunji kwa woyang'ana, ndiye malo apadera a ubongo anayamba kugwira ntchito kwa woyang'ana. Chabwino, ngati maso pa chithunzicho adasinthidwa kumbali - munthu amene amamuyang'ana, anamva chisoni kwambiri. Chilichonse chimene munganene, ndi kuyang'ana maso kumakhala ndi chikondi choyamba mukamayang'ana poyamba.
Chikondi ndi kuusa moyo koyamba, monga mankhwala amphamvu akuchitapo kanthu
Kumverera uku nthawizonse kumakankhira ndi kukankhira anthu kuti azichita zoipitsitsa kwambiri. Icho chinkagwiritsidwa ntchito monga cholimbikitsira kudzoza kuti apange luso ndi anthu olenga. Kuwoneka kwakumverera poyamba pakuwona kwa zaka zoposa khumi zokhudzana ndi umunthu. Nthano zonse zachikondi zomwe zinayambika ndi maso amodzi, nthawi yomweyo zimakhala pansi pamalemba ndi mafilimu. Kumapeto kwazaka za m'ma 1900 asayansi ochokera ku United States adayikitsa maganizo awo a masomphenya a chidziwitso cha chikondi, zomwe zinali zokayika kwambiri ndi ma Romantic ambiri. Chofunika cha chiphunzitsocho ndi chakuti chikondi ndizomwe zimayambira mu ubongo wa munthu.
Asayansi anatha kufufuza ubongo wa munthu mothandizidwa ndi matekinoloje atsopano, omwe anathandiza kuthetsa kusintha kwa mankhwala osiyanasiyana. Kuchita izi kumadutsa mu zovuta zozizwitsa (euphoria, yotengedwa kuchokera mu lingaliro lokopa kwa theka, malingaliro okhudza chinthu chopembedzera, chilakolako, chilakolako chokhala pafupi ndi munthu uyu, nsanje, ndi zina zotero).
Inde, palibe amene amatsutsa kuti maumboni awa amanena kuti ndi oona, koma iwo omwe amakhulupirira kuti chikondi chimalimbikitsa, amayamba kutsatila malingaliro awo, kukana kuti tanthawuzo lonse lakumverera uku likuchokera pa mankhwala ovuta kwambiri. Yankhulani zomwe mumanena, n'zovuta kwa munthu wamba kuti akhulupirire mwanjira yoyamba ya lingaliro la "chikondi ndi kukwera kwake" nthawi yoyamba.
Chikondi mu masekondi 30
Malingana ndi kafukufuku wa akatswiri a zamaganizo a ku America, chikondi chimene chinayambira panthawi yolumikizana maso chikhoza kuonekera pamasekondi 30 oyambirira a msonkhano. Mkaziyo ayamba kuyang'ana zizindikiro za khalidwe lamphamvu mwa mwamuna, kuyesa makhalidwe ake, kusangalala kwake. Pambuyo pake izi ndizomwe zimayendera mikhalidwe ya amuna: Nthawi zambiri, amai amawoneka pa mapewa akuluakulu, zofooka, manja amphamvu. Koma chifukwa cha kugonana kolimba chifukwa chofunika kwambiri mu 52% kutenga miyendo yaikazi. Pambuyo poyesa kuchitika: dongosolo, chiuno, maso.
Chikondi kapena chikondi
Chikondi kuchokera pamaso pa anthu ena chimakhudza chigoba chakunja, kukopa kwa thupi. Koma chifukwa cha maonekedwe enieni, nthawi ndi ubwenzi wauzimu ndizofunikira. Kotero, pakuwona munthu kwa nthawi yoyamba, atayang'ana maso ake ndi diso-mu-glase ndi kumverera chifundo kwa iye, tikhoza kumangokhalira kukopeka. Chikoka ichi chokha chingakule mukumverera, ndipo chikhoza kukhala pa mlingo uwu. Ngati panalibe kusiyana pakati pa kukongola kwa kunja ndi mkati, ndiye chikondi kuchokera kwa oyamba wamanyazi kuyang'ana kungakhale chinthu chozoloŵera. Maganizo omwe amalandira kuchokera kwa munthu mumasekondi oyambirira nthawi zina amanyenga. Inde, nthawi zina zimachitika kuti chifundo chachizolowezi chikhoza kubadwira m'chikondi. Kawirikawiri anthu amasokoneza chikondi ndi chifundo, chikondi kapena chilakolako. Kumva kukopa kwa munthu, sakudziwa kusiyanitsa pakati pa malingaliro awa, amakhulupirira kuti izi ndizo. Kawirikawiri, anthu okonda kwambiri amayamba kuchita izi, omwe samaganizira kawirikawiri phokoso la chilakolako - mahomoni, pheromoni, ndi zina zotero.