Ndani mwa ife sangakonde kukhala naye pafupi kwambiri, wokhoza kugawira chimwemwe ndi chisoni chonse, kutembenuza moyo kukhala nthano. Pazigawo zoyamba za ubale wa banja, nthawi zambiri zimachitika: mwamuna amagwira mkazi m'manja mwake, amamuyang'anitsitsa, amamvetsera mwachidwi. Koma zaka zingapo zikudutsa, ndipo moyo wowala umalowetsedwa ndi imvi moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, womwe ukuwonjezeredwa ndi chizoloŵezi cha zibwenzi wina ndi mnzake. Pano mwaphunzira kale kuganiza zofuna za mnzanuyo, mukudziwa kuti adzayankha maganizo anu ndi zochita zanu. Potsutsana ndi chikhalidwe ichi, pali mikangano yomwe ikhoza kuthetsa chilakolako chochita zinthu zachikondi, awiriwa akufotokoza mosakhutira ndi theka lawo lachiwiri.
Momwe mungakhalire mumkhalidwe umenewu, kodi n'zotheka kubwezeretsanso chikondi cha chikondi, kufotokozera zinthu zina zachikhalidwe mu ubale kapena sitimayo yatha ndipo zonse zomwe zingatheke ndizokhazikika ndi mwamtendere, ndikulonjezana kuti akhale mabwenzi?
Tengani nthawi yanu: chilengedwe chili ndi malamulo ake omwe!
Zinthu zambiri m'chilengedwe zimakula malinga ndi lamulo lachizunguliro. Yang'anani kuzungulira: nyengo yozizira imalowetsedwa ndi kasupe, nyengo ya mavuto oyendetsa ndege. Chimodzimodzi chimapita ku ubale, ndipo, monga amzanga, ndi okonda. Ndibwino kuti tikumane ndi mavuto ndipo tidzasinthidwa ndi kusintha kwatsopano.
Izo zatsimikiziridwa kuti palibe ubale ukuimabe, iwo akukula kapena kukhala wopanda pake, koma palibe mu dziko lino liri mu chisanu. Tikayambana ndi vutoli, titha kumvetsetsa kuti ndi chitukuko cha chikondi pakati pa banjali mumakhala kumvetsetsa, kuthandizana, kudalira. Zoonadi, ubale wa nthawi yayitali umakhala ndi mavuto ena: Mabanja amene akhala zaka zambiri m'banja lawo, sakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana chotere kwa wina ndi mzake, musati muwonetsere okhaokha.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti palibe kusiyana kwakukulu kwa momwe banja lirili pamodzi: chiwongoladzanja pa theka lawo lachiwiri chitayika ngati sabata la masiku okondana, ndipo patatha zaka 30 zogwirizana. Kawirikawiri kuchepa kwakukulu kumatchulidwa ndi mmodzi wa zibwenzi, koma zimachitika kuti anthu onse amatsika panthawi yomweyo. Chifukwa cha zomwe zimachitika ndipo kodi mumatha kubwezeretsa chikondi?
Chitani zomwe zimasonyeza kuti ndi zopweteka kwambiri kuzindikira kuti n'zotheka kuthera kamphindi kamodzi iwo amene amakhulupirira ndi mtima wonse kuti ubale umodzi ukhoza kutha nthawi zonse. Maofesi a Registry omwe amapereka mapasipoti osindikizidwa samatsimikiziranso kukhala ndi moyo wautali palimodzi ndipo ziyenera kumveka kuti mwa kuyika mphete wina ndi mzake, mukuyima ulendo wovuta. Koma utakhala nthawi yaitali bwanji, nthawi idzati.
Kotero, muli ndi mnzanu wokhazikika, koma ubale wake ndi iye umachepa kwambiri. Ngati mukufuna kubwereranso chikondi chomwe chinali pachiyambi cha ubale, muyenera kumvera zotsatirazi.
Zosankha zogonjetsa mavuto a maubwenzi
Chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kuchita ndicho kufufuza khalidwe lanu, yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe mumamva kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi udindo. Azimayi ena, akumva zovuta mu chibwenzi, nthawi yomweyo amakwatirana kuti amunene mwamuna. Pewani vutoli, chifukwa limatha kuthetsa ngakhale anthu omwe ali pafupi kwambiri. Kumbukirani kuti "mkazi-saw" chimwemwe cha eschechenkomu sichinabweretse ndipo mwamunayo amapita kukafunafuna moyo wabwino. Taganizirani, kodi mnzanuyo ndi woipa kwambiri moti sangatamande? Amaphunzira maphunziro ndi mwana wake wamkazi, amasangalala kusewera ku ukapolo? Inde, iye ndi banja labwino kwambiri! Madzulo aliwonse galu amayenda, okonzeka kugwiritsa ntchito alumali onse m'nyumba ndikuthetsa yekha mapaipi otsekemera? Ndipo pambuyo pa izi mukuganiza kuti palibe kanthu kotamanda ndi kulemekeza ?!
Mukamadzimva nokha, musazengereze kubweretsa vuto pa zokambiranazo. Muuzeni munthuyo kuti mukuda nkhawa kuti chikondi sichikugwirizana ndi chibwenzi chanu, ndipo mukufuna kuti muzikondana kwambiri, mwinamwake, zochitika zogonana. Funsani wokondedwa wanu kuti adziwe zomwe angasankhe kuti atulukemo, ndipo mukumvetsa kuti kuthetsa mavuto pamodzi n'kosavuta.
Pofuna kukonzanso chidwi cha munthu ku thupi lanu, dzipangeni nokha. Pachifukwa ichi, sizingatheke kuti muzikhala ndi theka la masewera olimbitsa thupi, mokwanira kuti mulembetse padziwe, pita ku Pilates, yesani kuti pulasitikiyo ikhale yovuta. M'mawu ake, yongolani, ndipo mwamuna adzawona kusintha kwa zabwino.
Perekani wina ndi mzake ufulu wambiri! Mwachitsanzo, tsiku lina madzulo mukhoza kupumula ndi kubwezeretsana mosiyana. Mayi mu nthawi ino akhoza kupita ndi abwenzi ake mu cafesi, mpweya wochapa, pitani ku saluni ya SPA. Mwamunayo nayenso, angapeze mosavuta, kusiyana ndi mwiniwakeyo: kukwera ndi abwenzi m'bwalo lamasewera, kukambirana mmagazi wa mowa, sauna - palibe vuto kuti mkaziyo apite kumeneko popanda iwe.
Ngati muli ndi mwayi, ndibwino kupereka tsiku limodzi kwa okondedwa anu. Panthawi ino, mukhoza kudzipangira nokha, pitirizani maphunziro, komwe mudzaphunzitsidwa kupanga zodzikongoletsera ndi manja anu, kupanga makadi opangidwa ndi manja. Mwachidule, sangalalani ndipo phunzirani kudziyamikira nokha. Pokhapokha mutha kuyembekezera kuti mwamuna wanu adzamvetsetsani kuti ndinu wofunika kwambiri kwa iye.
Ngakhale mutakhala wokwatirana kwa zaka zambiri, palibe amene waletsa misonkhano yachikondi - mukhoza kupeza nthawi kuti akhale otanganidwa kwambiri. Pemphani wokondedwa wanu kumalo okondweretsa, ndipo nthawi yotsatira amuuzeni momwe angagwiritsire ntchito nthawi kunja kwake.
Chofunika kwambiri pa kumvetsetsa pakati pa okondana kumasewera ndi moyo wogonana wogwirizana. Ndipo ngakhale chirichonse chikukugwirirani inu, musaiwale kuti mukhoza kupanga zachilendo nthawi zonse kuyesa ndi zovuta, kuvala zovala zosangalatsa zolaula, mwa mawu, yesetsani kusunga chidwi cha munthuyo nthawi yonse.
Kukhazikitsa maubwenzi kudzakuthandizira ndi kukambirana nkhani zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi onse, komanso kukonzekera tsogolo logwirizana.
Yesani kukumbatira mnzanu momwe mungathere, kumuuza momwe mumamukondera komanso momwe mumamukondera. Ngati mulibe nthawi yokwanira, yomwe mungagwiritse ntchito pamodzi, kuganiza, mwinamwake mudzayambiranso pulogalamu yanu. Ngati simungathe kugwiritsira ntchito ndondomeko yotereyi, yesetsani kudya kadzutsa ndi chakudya chamadzulo pamodzi.
Kukambirana kosiyana ndiko kubwezeretsa ubale wa mwanayo ndi mwanayo. Mayi nthawiyi amapereka nthawi yochuluka kwa mwanayo, nthawi zambiri alibe nthawi yokwanira yosamalira yekha. Kutseka kudzathandiza kuthandizidwa kwa mwanayo. Musamapatsenso mwana wanu nthawi yonse, kumbukirani, mwamuna akusowa chidwi chanu.
Pobwezeretsa maubwenzi ndi okondedwa, nkofunika kukumbukira kuti kutsogolo sikuli mdani, kukufunani inu nonse oipitsitsa, osakhala aulesi, mukulota kuti mugone, koma munthu amene mumamupatsa gawo lina la moyo wanu. Kulankhulana ndi mwamuna wanu, musaiwale mtundu wanji wa chiyanjano umene mkazi wanu amafunsa, nthawi zambiri ganizirani za njira zomwe mungathe kukwaniritsira cholinga chanu. Kodi mwakonzeka kulumbirira pazinthu zazing'ono, kuika pangozi wokondedwa wanu ndikuwononga banja lanu?