Koma kodi kumverera uku kulibe vuto, kodi nkotheka kuti mutembenuzire bwino, momwe kuwononga ndichitidwe cha nsanje yoyera? Koma nthawi zambiri, kumverera kwa nsanje kwalembedwa pa nkhope ya wogwidwa ndi zoterezi.
Nsanje , kaya ili yoyera kapena yakuda - mtundu wa poizoni wamaganizo, mu mankhwala ochepa - mankhwala omwe amapereka chilimbikitso cha kukula kwaumwini. Ngati ili lamphamvu kwambiri, iwononga moyo ndi thupi. Ndizofuna kudziŵa kuti anthu omwe ali ndi nsanje imeneyi amawonekera pamaso, nthawi zambiri amavutika ndi matenda a chiwindi, chilonda cha chilonda, "mantha" ndi kufooketsa chitetezo.
Malinga ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, kaduka ndikumangirira komwe kumalepheretsa chitukuko cha umunthu ndipo salola kuti zinthu zatsopano zichitike. Kuti muleke kuchitira kaduka, muyenera kudzikonza nokha. Kotero, ngati inu munadzigwira nokha mukuganiza kuti mukukumverera kumverera uku, sankhani chifukwa.
Vomerezani kuti muli nsanje. Koma musayime pamenepo. Khalani ndi zolinga zabwino ndikuyesetsani kuzikwaniritsa. Lolani likhale lolimbikitsira kudzikonza nokha.
Chinthu chachikulu - chitani!
Musamamvetsere kupambana kwa anthu ena. Lekani kuyang'ana momwe "wina ali ndi mwayi wochuluka." Taya samoyedstvo ndikudzimvera chisoni. Fufuzani zolinga za khalidwe lanu. Ganizirani zomwe muli nazo komanso zomwe mungachite.
Nsanje yoyera imalimbikitsa chitukuko, pamene kuzindikira kwa kupambana kwa wina aliyense kumakhala kolimbikitsa kuchitapo kanthu ndikupanga mpikisano. Nthawi zambiri zimawonekera pa msinkhu wosadziŵa.
Uduka wokha ulibe chizindikiro cholakwika. Zimachokera ku chilakolako cha munthu kukhala ndi chinthu chabwino kuposa ena. Nsanje yoyera imatchedwa kumverera pamene wina sakufuna cholakwika, koma amafuna kuti akhale ndi zinthu zomwezo (galimoto, dacha, kupambana). Koma izi sizithukuko mwa mawonekedwe ake enieni, komatu mmalingaliro ophatikizana akuphatikiza pa kuyamikira ndi kuyamikira kwa kupambana ndi zopindulitsa za anthu ena.
Nsanje yoyera ikhoza kutanthauzidwa kukhala kuzindikira kwa kupambana kwa munthu wina "ndi kusakanizikana" kwa nsanje pang'ono za zomwe wapindula. Chifukwa cha nsanje ndikuti imalimbikitsa mzimu wa mpikisano, mpikisano wathanzi.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti lingaliro limenelo silikupezeka konse, chifukwa kaduka limagwirizanitsidwa ndi maganizo okhumudwa ndi malingaliro mwa kudzilemekeza nokha kapena chifukwa cha kaduka. Sungakhoze kuwonedwa mwabwino. Chimene chimatchedwa nsanje yoyera, ndikulongosola, m'malo mwake, monga kuyamikira. Munthu akamakondedwa ndi luso, makhalidwe kapena zopindulitsa za wina. Koma izi sizikugwirizana ndi kaduka.
Nsanje ndi msonkho wosasamala wa ulemu, umene umakhala wopanda ulemu umapatsa ulemu, "analemba mlembi wa ku France Antoine de Lamotte. Anakhulupilira kuti nsanje imapha munthu kuchokera mkati.
Nsanje yoyera, yomwe imayesedwa podziwa kupambana kwa ena, ikhoza kukhala cholimbikitsani kupambana kopambana, kukwaniritsa zolinga ndi kudzipindulitsa. Kuchitira nsanje molimbika, sitimasintha zolephera zathu.
Nsanje sizingakhale zopanda vuto chifukwa chosavuta. Nsanje, zilizonse (ndi zoyera siziri zosiyana apa) zikutanthauza khalidwe lodzivulaza. Kukhala chinthu cholimbikitsana pamoyo, nthawi zambiri chimapangitsa kuti kugwa kwauzimu kukhale kovuta ngakhale pamene cholinga ndi moyo wanu zikukwaniritsidwa. Chifukwa mmalo mwa chimwemwe ndi kukhutira chinthu chatsopano cha kaduka chikuwoneka, ndipo dziko lamkati liribebe kanthu ndipo silidzadzaza.
Pakati pa nsanje yakuda ndi yoyera
Kuzoloŵera kukhala ndi nsanje zoyera, timakhala tikusanduka anthu akuda. Pambuyo pake, wina amakhala nthawi yaitali, wokongola kwambiri, wolemera. Nsanje yakuda imakonda kusonyeza zachiwawa.
Nsanje iliyonse imayipitsa munthu amene akukumana nayo. Panthawi imeneyo munthu amayamba kukhala ndi maganizo a anthu ena, amaphwanya pulogalamu yake. Koma, mwachangu, kaduka kotereku ndikulenga, kumalimbikitsa kukula, kumalimbikitsa kupititsa patsogolo.
Zilibe vuto mpaka mutayamba kudzikonda, kuchepetsa kudzidalira kwanu: "Iye wapindula ichi, ndipo ine sindinatero, ndipo sindidzatero." Ndiye kupambana kwa munthu wina mumamudziwa ngati kugonjetsedwa kwanu, ndipo mumayamba kukwiya ndi yemwe akuposa inu.
Nsanje - kumverera kwowononga, kuphatikizapo samoyedstvo, osakhutira ndi iwoeni, kulemekeza ulemu wawo poyerekeza ndi ena. Izo sizingakhoze kukhala zabwino. Munthu amene akumva zimenezi samakhala mogwirizana ndi iye mwini, ndi "I" wake. Amayima pamalo amodzi ndipo sapitirizabe. Komabe, ngati muli ndi nsanje, ino ndi nthawi yosinkhasinkha zomwe simukusowa pamoyo, komanso kulingalira momwe mungapindulire izi.